My ex still wants to contact me randomly even though he dumped me and doesn’t want me back?

[Anonymous]

My ex ghosts me and texts me back once a day. If I go no contact he will text me and then question why he’s ignored. This has been going on for 8 months. For me it’s annoying and a waste of time I’ve blocked him and he emails me to unblock him but all he wants to talk about is s€x. Which I keep telling him to stop but he doesn’t and then gets mad and ghosts me again that’s all he does.

I’ve warned him so many times about texting me when he doesn’t want me or love me and he says I wouldn’t be talking to you if I didn’t care it’s always care but never love out of his mouth.

I’m fed up at this point it’s like he’s seeing other women and then texting me when he’s not with them at random.

I told him it’s not fair on other girls to be in contact with me and having w€nks to me when There’s other girls.

He tells me why he never replies is because he's so busy in work. He’s a social care worker and trust me when I was with him he used to ring and text me constantly.

When he’s home he’s always sleeping that’s why he’s only replying to me.

Like I get we’re over but why does he have to text me at random.

Like for example I finished work one day I check my phone and he says hey after ghosting me for the weekend it’s continus. Like why he has all the other girls he could imagine why hurt and destroy me.

Anyone help me understand why he won’t leave me alone

[sheikalana]

Listen that's a narcissist and you need to run away ASAP. I've been in your shoes in the past this guy only wanted to talk about sex, sex and sex but would never commit to me and was never able to spend a day without talking about sex which in my opinion turned out to be very boring and uninteresting it's like as if they have nothing more interesting to do or say comes off as very futile. He's just keeping you as a back up plan. I eventually ended up blocking him everywhere even if he tried to text me from another number or email or fake social media account I would block him. I'm married now and my husband knows everything about my past. This guy recently started following me on social media and I removed him from my followers list he kept sending me follow requests and once again I had to block him. No one likes to be harrassed like this.

[Asker]

But he wasn’t always like this we were together two years the first year he did everything for me we were never apart and then after that year it was like he was envoling into a new person he’s careless which he never was before and just a pure horrible person. I’ve been in and out of hostipals the past two weeks really I’ll crying for him to just support me and ask me how I am but all he did was have a w€nk to me and send me nudes and then when I tell him that’s not right he ghosted me and doesn’t talk to me because he’s so busy and tired and has his own life to live but texts me randomly

[sheikalana]

That's exactly how narcissists behave. They will do everything to get your attention and for you to like them. When they finally have what they want or when they feel you're not going to leave they will take you for granted and start treating you like sh*t. He literally doesn't care about you. You're currently in a fragile moment of your life and all he does is thinking about him and his ego instead of checking on you and supporting you. Let him go for good that's all you need to do. He doesn't deserve your tears and there are so many good men in the world but because of a looser you're not allowing yourself to be happy and receive what you deserve. Let him go girl.

[hyperben]

some people won't stop, they need to be stopped, change your number, block him in every possible way, cut all contact and tell him you are doing it. if he continues, dont reply, totally ignore him. make sure to chat with your closest trusted circle about his behaviour, either a super close friend or a family member, dont suffer in silence and dont enable him.

hope it stops

[Asker]

My mother is sick of listening to me telling her the same stuff about him she just says ignore him and keep him blocked for good that he’s not going to change. So I have to listen to her as she is right.

[hyperben]

from your other replies below, it sounds like he changed negatively in the last few years. you also sound like youve had a tough time yourself recently, just know that there are stranger rooting for you and you can do it.

I really hope you start to gravitate towards supporting people and can move on with your life

[FilmGuy93]

Have you considered the possibility that you’re just dealing with someone who lacks self awareness?

[Asker]

What do u mean self awareness?

[FilmGuy93]

I mean that he isn’t in touch with his emotions and doesn’t understand how to identify and work his feelings. He wouldn’t be able to identify why he’s doing something on his own.

[Asker]

So your saying he doesn’t realise what he’s doing?

[FilmGuy93]

That is certainly a possibility

[Anonymous]

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