The first set will regard "falsities." Those being the most egregious offenses that people commit online. Why do you care? Because just like any other type of dating, online dating has to have honesty. Short of that, it needs someone who can at least start a conversation about a common standard.
The next set will regard reviews of dating sites, which I am working on diligently. These reviews will be from my perspective, which will more than likely be helpful to men more so than women. However, the reviews will have information pertinent to all. But as you might guess, I have valuable information to pass along, so let's get started on falsities:
One of THE worst parts of online dating, in theory and practice, is misrepresentation.
Ever since the concept of online dating came about people thought, "Oh gosh! What if the girl I'm talking to ends up being a guy!" Or, "What if he ends up being a gargantuan walrus."
Well, those fears have revealed themselves as true, at least early with online dating. I tend to believe it has gotten much better, because people have realized that even though it's online, when it comes to dating sites, there's the expectation that the online person is legitimate, and will be able to meet up in the real world.
That being said, what the full on false profile has become, is more of a *morphisized-jumble of people's self-image, and definitions of key words.
The first one I will be picking on, is really an age-old disagreement, much in line with the chicken vs. egg argument that has plagued farmers and suburban residents since at least the industrial revolution.
And that is, (drum roll)-----Curvy vs. Fat.
This topic is going to be critical at women more than men, so I warn you now. There are two reasons for this. One, in all the dating sites I've reviewed, women are positively guilty of this one 93 percent of the time (I did the math, really). Before I get flooded, this is not 93 percent of all female profiles, this percentage reflects the amount of profiles that misstated curvy or fat (for men, average or fat).
And the second, is actually what really hits this one home. The amount of obese men on internet dating sites, when compared to all other persons on said sites, is minuscule. Literally, of the nearly 2000 profiles I viewed (granted this is not nearly as many are listed on the various sites, but I limited my research to active profiles, per each site's standards), obese men account for less than one percent of all profiles listed.
So yes, as much as I'd love for the world to be equal, on this issue it simply isn't ladies, and as such, as I'm reporting the research, I'd ask that the criticism be limited to the actual content, and not include jabs for not being "fair." I can't report what isn't there.
With that out of the way, let's discuss it.
Curvy is it's own category. Whether we notice it or not, it's a bit more typical of a body type than we actually realize. However, curvy is being high-jacked. I call on all curvy women on this one. Each of you NEED to stand up and defend your title of *curviness.
It's not the thin ones, or the average ones, or the plain ones, or the thick ones. It's the obese ones, or as they more commonly known on dating sites, fat.
Now, I would say, if you put yourself out there, you should be confident enough to admit who and what you are, but apparently, common sense isn't working here either.
First, let's show some pictures of curvy women:
One of my favorite women:
Probably the MOST well documented evidence of what "curvy" means (Skip the Tyra photos on the right).
Now, this is what I call fat:
This one is a little trickier, because of the swimsuit, but she's overweight:
Now, I use pictures to point out the two, not to pick on body types, but to set the standard for what is curvy, and what is fat.
If you're fat, why be ashamed of it? You're putting yourself up on a web-based dating service. Once you have pictures up, you're only lying to yourself, nobody else. Honesty is what builds trust. Trust builds relationships. See where I'm going?
By representing yourself correctly, you'll more than likely get better results through online dating. By falsifying your profile, you make it easy for people to look, say to themselves "Ehhhh," and then click on by.
In addition, when people lie about their body shape, size, type, however you want to classify, it points to them being unhappy about themselves. And that's even more reason to not choose you on a dating website.
Falsities are one of the things that can get you really started of on the wrong foot when it comes to any kind of dating, but with online dating, it probably means you're not going on a date.
Curvy, fat, anorexic, whatever, be happy with yourself before you try to date, because falsifying your profile will only lead to troubles, including me typing about it.
We'll see you next time.
*Asterisks indicate that I made up the words for the purposes of engaging the reader. Enjoy!