Caught your boyfriend on dating sites?

I would like to ask my fellow female how they would feel if they discovered their boyfriend of 6 months had just signed up to a dating site, and had upgraded to full membership by spending 79 pounds (130 dollars) for full access.

Guys, why would you do that? If you did it? What's going on in your heads?

Updates:
I discovered this because he forgot to log out of his e-mails and I know I shouldn't have, but temptation took over. I hadn't expected to find anything. And I'm totally shocked by this! I want to know what's going on in his head!
it seems to be a site geared more towards affairs rather than dating although it has options for both, I've read some of the messages he has sent random women. They are all filthy and they are all requestion "no strings" what does this mean? am I boring.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • well the relationship is clearly over if he's on a dating site looking for dates . that to me is very clear , he's definity looking to see other people and your relationship with him is effectively over if he's doing this . this isn't cheating but rather the relationship is over and he's looking to meet someone else .

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    • Its a dating site, but seems more geared to affairs. if that makes any difference

    • People eventually get bored with anything. And he got bored of you physically. I'd say the best thing to do is to f*** him every night.

    • That way he won't be horny all the time and he will lose interest in looking for NSA relationship.

What Guys Said 2

  • Yea it makes no sense to sign up for that, unless you are intending to cheat or to find someone else. As for the no strings thing it just means he is only after sex and doesn't have a care in the world for a relationship... I think he has been just awful.

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  • I wouldn't do that. Doesn't seem to make any sense whatsoever to me.

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What Girls Said 4

  • This has never happened to me but it would devastate and hurt me very deeply. Like you, I would probably question if I did something wrong or what was amiss in the relationship. However, if something is lacking or needs work then that's why partners are supposed to communicate. Obviously he didn't bother to do that and just decided to go behind your back. I simply could not respect or trust the guy again. I would terminate the relationship immediately.

    Why do guys do it? He might be excited by what he "can" get away with. He is thinking that the grass is greener elsewhere. He might do this to get whatever he desires from another female- attention, flirtation, physical needs etc. However, he should be getting that from you!

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  • I had the same problem with my boyfriend but I never told him I knew about his account. I wrote down his screen name and made an account of my own. Then I started to send him messages and arrange fake dates for him. I never showed up to the dates, instead I would say from the fake account something along the lines of... "I saw you and you aren't my type." or "You didn't look like you did in your pictures. Are they old?" or "On second thought you're too...(old, short, fat). At this point I would break off communication. I think this worked pretty well to shatter his self-confidence and certainly made me feel better. I had to do this a couple times but after awhile he stopped using the dating site.

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    • You stayed with him?

      I dumped his arse. he egged me to come back, but he'll never change, he obviously never care one bit for me, and as soon as someone comes along he'll leave me in a jot.

      so no thanks, I am worth more than that, and sweet heart, so are you.

  • He's cheating. It has nothing to do with you, that speaks more about his character. If he was really unsatisfied with you he would communicate what he needs out of the relationship. the fact that he is looking for no strings attached sex behind your back says that he is just a big fat cheating liar. I would confront his ass and then dump him. Temptation taking over was a good thing. It is very convenient temptation took over when it did otherwise you would be in the dark about your mans activities.

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  • Oh god poor you. I had this happen to me one with one of my particularly loathsome exes. I got my own back on the arsehole..

    If he is looking elsewhere I suggest you play him at his own game and teach him a lesson he's not likely to forget.

    Listen up..you obviously have his email address don't you and access to his pictures? OK well I suggest you set up a few profiles on other sites especially gay dating ones, and ones for BBW's..word it in such a way that his email inbox will go into overload. Also sign him up for tons of gay porn, scat porn and sex toy catalogues and get it delivered to his house especially if he still lives with his parents or a load of flatmates.

    If he wants to conduct grubby little affairs online and expect to get away with it then he's sorely mistaken.

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