How important are common interests, in a relationship?

What do you think about the importance of common interests in a relationship?

tbh I broke up because of this issue - but what is your opinion?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Having common interests are extremely important, especially at the beginning of a relationship. It establishes a real connection and gives you both a foundation of interest that you can lean on later down the relationship. But some people really think that their partner needs to be interested in all the same things. This is a ridiculous idea, mainly because they are of the opposite sex (not covering gays for this question), so the interest are meant to be not only different, but from a different perspective. My last girlfriend was from Japan, I'm from the United States. And we only had a few things in common. And as those commonalities helped pull us together, the real bond was having her teach me new things and new ideas while I did the same for her. If you date someone exactly like you, you'll get bored. You're already around yourself all the time, now just add an opposite version of yourself and then it just gets annoying. It's more important to take an interest in their interests and see if they can do the same for you. If you find someone who is willing to do that, then it doesn't really matter very much that you have a lot or just a little bit of item in common.

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What Guys Said 3

  • Some common interests are very important. You don't have to have everything in common though. you don't even have to have most tings in common. But you need enough common interests to be able to carry on a conversation and do things together. The amount of common interest needed to make a relationship work vary a lot from couple to couple. But there needs to be *something* there.

    However I think the whole thing falls under the category of chemistry. Chemistry includes a lot of other things. Common interests are just part of what gives you an overall feeling about the person. So I don't think there can be a hard and fast rule about common interests, as long as the big picture is right and it just clicks.

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  • ExTREEEEEEEAAAAMLY important personally.
    If there's nothing in common , what am I suppose to do with you lol?
    That's gonna be like trying to make star cookies with a circle mold ain't it

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  • Yeah, but some types of people like to find a completely different partnet so it brings some freshness. Some say that.

    For me i prefer something in common.

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What Girls Said 2

  • You need to at least have a few things in common
    Something you can both enjoy talking about or doing

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  • I guess it's important, but I think whats more important is that your partner should be willing to try new things and take in interest in what you like and vice versa. Yeah, they may not like it even if they do try it, but they may just like it if they do. Who knows? I mean, I have friends that I have little common interest, but I am still very close with them. I don't even know how I am friends with my best friend. I mean, we met through doing theatrical productions, but we don't have much else as a common interest. Even so, he's still my best friend and we get along great.

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