I have a friend that is trying to set me up with a friend of hers that it 27. Problem is I'm only 19. Is that too big of an age gap?
Most Helpful Guy
It's possible you two may like each other, get along and be attracted just like you may experience with a 19 year old. I don't see why the age difference matters.
A lot of people will say things like thefurstyferret "I have no idea why any man or woman my age would want to date a 19 year old. The 19 year old is a teenager, they are still immature, they aren't established in life, they have virtually no life experience."
He said 19 year olds are immature. I personally don't look at maturity as something linear. For example:
At 19 you're this mature:--------
At 29 you're...:------------------
At 60 you're...:----------------------------------------
I don't believe maturity is based on one gauge. There are several factors which can lead to maturity. I believe many of us are mature or strong in some ways and less mature or weaker in other areas. Many 60 year olds I've met in my opinion still have crap mentalities which some may call immature.
Besides that I don't think it's critical maturity levels at the same level. Humans are capable of growth and if the two enjoy each others company then 👍🏼 in my opinion
He also said "they are at a different stage of their life to someone my age."
I don't see how he can know what stage you or the 29 year old are at. I don't believe everyone follows the same stages by age though. If he mean you are in college or figuring out what career you want while the 29 year old is "established," (he may not even have a job) I personally don't see why a person can't date while in college either. I don't see why them having a big income difference is a deal breaker.
A lot (I think by far most people) think it's hard to find a great match. Age may be a difference but I don't think it means you two necessarily have incompatible personalities, aren't attracted or whatever else. If you do find happiness with a person which is most often rare, I don't see why age is a huge deal. I'm not saying a guy 8 years older is right for you. I think it's possible he may be though.1
Most Helpful Girl
My sister is 21 and she has a family with a 30 year old. They met in college when she was 16 and he was 24.
She did have a few problems with him being older but once she stopped thinking about it she realised she loved him and would let nothing stand in her way. He was a little immature for his age though, so they got on really well.
The honest answer is, if they feel happy and dont hate each other then it should not matter. It is wrong to shun someone because of an age gap... unless it is illegal then mabie hide it until its ok ha ha0