Is 8 years a big age gap?

I have a friend that is trying to set me up with a friend of hers that it 27. Problem is I'm only 19. Is that too big of an age gap?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • It's possible you two may like each other, get along and be attracted just like you may experience with a 19 year old. I don't see why the age difference matters.

    A lot of people will say things like thefurstyferret "I have no idea why any man or woman my age would want to date a 19 year old. The 19 year old is a teenager, they are still immature, they aren't established in life, they have virtually no life experience."

    He said 19 year olds are immature. I personally don't look at maturity as something linear. For example:
    At 19 you're this mature:--------
    At 29 you're...:------------------
    At 60 you're...:----------------------------------------
    I don't believe maturity is based on one gauge. There are several factors which can lead to maturity. I believe many of us are mature or strong in some ways and less mature or weaker in other areas. Many 60 year olds I've met in my opinion still have crap mentalities which some may call immature.

    Besides that I don't think it's critical maturity levels at the same level. Humans are capable of growth and if the two enjoy each others company then 👍🏼 in my opinion

    He also said "they are at a different stage of their life to someone my age."
    I don't see how he can know what stage you or the 29 year old are at. I don't believe everyone follows the same stages by age though. If he mean you are in college or figuring out what career you want while the 29 year old is "established," (he may not even have a job) I personally don't see why a person can't date while in college either. I don't see why them having a big income difference is a deal breaker.

    A lot (I think by far most people) think it's hard to find a great match. Age may be a difference but I don't think it means you two necessarily have incompatible personalities, aren't attracted or whatever else. If you do find happiness with a person which is most often rare, I don't see why age is a huge deal. I'm not saying a guy 8 years older is right for you. I think it's possible he may be though.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • My sister is 21 and she has a family with a 30 year old. They met in college when she was 16 and he was 24.
    She did have a few problems with him being older but once she stopped thinking about it she realised she loved him and would let nothing stand in her way. He was a little immature for his age though, so they got on really well.
    The honest answer is, if they feel happy and dont hate each other then it should not matter. It is wrong to shun someone because of an age gap... unless it is illegal then mabie hide it until its ok ha ha

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What Guys Said 11

  • I'm 27 and I have no idea why any man or woman my age would want to date a 19 year old. The 19 year old is a teenager, they are still immature, they aren't established in life, they have virtually no life experience, they are at a different stage of their life to someone my age.

    It's too much of a gap at that age. If the woman was 30 and the guy was 38 then that's not too bad, both are established adults, but 27 to 19 is too much of an age gap.

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    • im dating a 19 year old. I don't see what the big deal is.

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    • the 29 year old nuclear chemist who doesn't accept old beat up pussy

    • @dudeman Cool story dickman, have a good day pal.

  • As long as you click, who gives a damn about age (provided everyone is legal, which you are). Age can be a general guideline, but by no means should be a deciding factor if everything else is great, on either side of the progression, older or younger. Who cares?

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  • I was just dating a 22 year old when I was 30. Maturity wise i was better than the guys her age. However, she started to drive me nuts. She was to immature for me. We had fun for a while but it eventually went bad. If you like him go for it but be aware that you two are at completely different stages of life and it may go bad unless your on the same page.

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  • Well, she's only trying to set you up if it works then who cares about the age as long as both of you feel that connection

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  • its fine I've dated with an eleven year age gap

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  • For me it kind of is a big age gap, but you might be able to get it work?

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  • At that age, yes.

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  • It's quite a large gap in my opinion, especially when you're both under 30.

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  • I'm 37 and my girlfriend was 20

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  • At your age I'd say it is. 19 and 27 are two completely different stages in life, you'll look back when you're 27 and be kind of disturbed at the idea of dating a 19 year old.

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  • Well, I doubt that you will have common interests but if you do; I don't think the age gap matters

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What Girls Said 7

  • I don't think so. If you are both mature and can get along I don't see why not.

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  • The trick to finding out if someone is too old for you is to do this:
    Say for example, you were 30.
    30/2 + 7 is the minimum age you can date. This would be 22.
    Similarly, you can see the maximum age by doing this: 30-7 x 2 which is the maximum. This would be 46.

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  • Yes, definitely...

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  • I don't think the age matters, but the "stage in life" matters. My uncle dated a girl 25 years younger than him so it shouldn't matter?

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  • i dont think so... to me up to 8 years its fine

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  • Im 19 and i have a friend who wants to go out with me. He's 30.
    To me, it is

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  • Your both adults its perfectly fine

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