How come it seems that men no longer show the common courtesies to women that we used to? How often do men open car doors for women anymore, or run their bath water for them, or pull their chair out and allow the woman to sit first at the dinner table, etc?/? Why do men feel they're "soft" if they're seen doing these things in public? Every date I've ever been on, I've extended this respect to the woman I was with, but the women seem almost surprised by this hospitality. Do women not expect these things out of men anymore? I view it as respect. And every man should have respect for his woman. Anyone else have input?
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I like it most of the time when guys are somewhat chivalrous. It's not the chivalry itself that I like though, it's the manners and politeness. And I appreciate that from anyone, not just men. I would never EXPECT a man to act this way -just- because I'm a woman, especially at a time when gender roles are nearing obsolete. I would hope that the reasoning would have more to do with the importance of being kind and courteous to people in general. But I don't EXPECT anything from anyone. I feel like it would be rude to presume that every man should open doors for every woman who crosses his path. I'm always pleasantly surprised though when it does happen, and I always say thank you. Gender roles are going out of style, but politeness never does, however you'd like to look at it. I might be kind of socially retarded at times, but politeness and good manners [more lax around close friends, obviously] are important to me, and therefore a quality I admire in others. I'm always opening or holding doors for people, including men, saying my pleases and thank yous, smiling, offering my assistance to those in need, etc.
One thing my dad does that I think is really cute, is that he always opens the passenger side door for me first if I go anywhere with him in his car. My grandparents probably beat that kind of behavior into him when he was young though, haha. They're big on manners as well.1