So. I met him like a month ago, and we got along great. From weird norwegian comedy, up to music, we had a lot in common. We consecutively wrote each other over three weeks, getting on really well, making stupid inside jokes, and generally just yeah. We had it going on.
Then yesterday we had our first date, I went over to his place and we watched some British Tv shows we're both fond of.
Now, today he ignored me, and then wrote
"If that was you on your best behaviour yesterday, then just,... wow. And no, not gonna happen."
I was pretty hurt, and I asked him to clarify what he meant, which he first went on to ignore. I asked again, and again. And yeah, again. Until he just said "we're too different"
I thought well, ok. If you say so, after meeting once? But it's his choice right, I can't blame him for just.. not feeling it.
The thing that really wound me up, is that after that statement. He blocked me on whatsapp. Fair enough, I sometimes do that when I don't like people. Well, no. I delete their number. But whatever works. And then I found out that instead of unfriending me, he also blocked me on facebook.
Now I'm sorry, but if you're not interested, but you still have a lot of similarities, I'd think friendship would still be part of the game. But instead he acts like I shat in his washing machine,
I just don't get this behavior, and I'm afraid someone might have bad mouthed me (his roommate is friends with a girl who kinda just took it as her lifejob to ruin mine bc of a childish feud we had 6 years ago)
What do I do now? Or just... why?
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds to me based on what you typed that and do not get me wrong.. I do not in any way want you to think of me as some shallow person or person for telling it the way I view it.. he wanted you to give into him right from the start and probably sex was his motive. and you.. to him did not offer that up and I applaud you for that. and when his inflated ego said to himself.. nope she is not going to give in and do that.. he is now is putting up all these so called barriers towards you.
It just may be best that you remember those times when you watched some British shows and had a few good laughs.. but to me that is maybe all that will come of this.. there are a lot of other guys that do not have as big an inflated ego as the one he has.. we are not all painted with the same brush.. I do wish you all the best in the world.. but just know that there are guys out there that are the same as him.. some even worse.. take care3
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Most Helpful Girl
Happens all the time. Sounds like he expected sex. Never go to a guy's place for a first date. They assume if you come over (or vice-versa) you're hooking up.
He was expecting you to give sexy signals and you didn't, hence the "best behavior" comment. You're clueless because that's totally not where your head was, but I guarantee you it's where his head was. He sounds shocked and disappointed. Personally I think you are absolutely fine in your behavior and expectations, and you're better off without him. I'm just trying to explain from his point of view what's going on.1