I have been lifting weights for 7 years. Not trying to be a true bodybuilder but I look gym enough for anyone to mention that I look like I lift. Almost everyone says.
The thing is. I'm in biology. I have a 3.57 GPA atm. Could go lower or higher since the classes I'm taking are harder but I know better know but still. I know it's not high enough to enter post bach schools but I'll try my best and I think with everything I do and trying to do more than just a student makes up for it. Too boring, common and linear to be just a great college student.
Do people think muscular guys are not capable of doing what I'm doing right now? I can say I only met one guy who studies science who has ripped but when he got a girlfriend he stopped. He had different reasons to lift weights. Maybe he stopped beleiving in that. Maybe he told his girlfriend about and she told him it was shallow but that's still there are scarce muscular guys out there who study science.
Any other non science career can be as hard but people judge IQ way more on science careers but whatever past thing led them to.
I laso break dance. I would say I am good enough to be called a break dancer but for me I still have 70% of getting better at it.
Now my question is. Is being muscular a problem in college with hitting the girls? Do they think I'm too muscular to be that intelligent? Even taking organic chemistry they might think... well he probably got a C on chemistry, barely passing it. Do they find me dumb, intimidating? For a guy that has lift weights for 7 years I think I'm in the top 10% least douche bags list.
Most Helpful Girl
You're over-thinking this. Way way way WAY over-thinking this.
First of all, as a scientist, you should know better. This is a case where the larger data set is irrelevant. You are you, and, honestly, who the hell cares what everyone else is doing?
Second, you seem to be assuming that standing out from the crowd is a BAD thing. Yep, you went there. You think that "not looking like everyone else" = bad.
This is worrisome. You seem to lack a sense of core identity. Yeah, obviously there are standards, and, yeah, obviously you can't be TOO much of a weirdo... but, at the same time, you shouldn't try to be the mode of every statistical distribution.
Third, I think your observations are flawed to start with. "Getting ripped" takes a certain kind of nerdiness. You have to have a nerdy understanding of the human body, and you have to have a nerdy obsession with counting calories and macros. I'm a fitness model/competitor myself, and the only reason I'm good at it is because I'm a GIANT nerd.
I mean... at age 18 it's different. That's the age when all you have to do is get up, move around a bit, not get drunk off yr ass every weekend, and eat a vegetable every now and then. At THAT age, there are gna be a lot of meatheads who aren't too bright in the brain.
But, by mid-twenties? Thirty, mb? Most of the "ripped" men are gna be pretty nerdy, dude.
***IF*** girls are turned off by yr #gymlife -- which is unlikely, by the way -- then it's gna be one of 2 things.
#1, you might just be placing way too much of a priority on it. I mean, hobbies and such are fine; obsessions, not so much. Most girls want a man who's pretty chill about the things he does, and who has time. Time for HER, lol.
#2, you might be putting that foot forward in a way that makes you seem insecure. Like you have to prove something.
Honestly, I think it's probably #2. There are dudes who have nice bodies and just walk around like other dudes... but then there are dudes who have nice bodies but walk around flaunting it, as though they have to prove a point to the world. In the same, sickening, turn-off way as guys who drive around flashing $$$ all the time. Ya know?
You might want to think about those things, and think about whether those are the real explanation.0
Most Helpful Guy
Girls love muscular men; if you are smart, that is an added bonus. You will surprise them if they think you are another dumb jock.0