Do you think that people GENERALLY date in their "league"?

[BiscuitesSwag]

There are many trolls on this site, but there's one that always keeps coming back and if I point out that he has become boring, he tells me that I'm fat, ugly, and a new one, "lesser woman". 😂
Anyway, I showed my best friend his post and his replies to me and at a moment she said "He still hasn't figured it out that people date in their own league".

P. S.: When I think of "league", I include personality/intelligence and looks too.

[Anonymous]

I think they usually do, but you'll sometimes see couples who shock you. Usually I don't care. If people like each other, they should be together. What I find annoying is when a guy or girl will ignore people except for just the hot ones, but they aren't that special to begin with and yet they complain that they can't get someone.

I know someone in real life like that. He isn't ugly, but he isn't hot either, and he also has some extra weight. Overall he is a good guy. He can get along with most people. He is good at charming people if he makes them angry. He also has plenty of women who want him. However, he has extremely high standards. He will only date very beautiful women. A friend of mine likes him, and she tried getting me to set them up. He refused to date her though because she isn't pretty enough, and she apparently has 'thunder thighs.'

He has never ever had a serious relationship. He spends all his time complaining about how women don't like him, and that nice guys finish last. I've pointed out how many women do want him, and at the beginning of our friendship, I wanted him too. None of us are good enough for him though.

[poppunk]

I don't really believe in leagues, but I do often see girls who I like the aesthetic of with guys I don't like the aesthetic of and it confuses me. But I chalk it up to my perceptions not being universal, because they're not.

[archiz]

I try too
above would make me feel intimidated
above would make me feel I have the upper hand
I prefer to have the upper hand and him being intimidated by me

[archiz]

under my league sry for the 2nd tense

[Negrodamuss]

you don't need to feel intimidated by me.

[archiz]

@Negrodamuss dude who said I am intimidate by you hmm? :P

[Negrodamuss]

just making sure... given the league imbalance ^_^

[archiz]

@Negrodamuss say what there hun? :p
what do I hear?
oww I hear BS muhahaha

[Negrodamuss]

its okay archiz. I've always been open to dating women from the commoner classes

[archiz]

@Negrodamuss common my ass :p

[Toad-1]

Be intimidated! 😈😈😈

[archiz]

@Toad-1 nah not working hahaa

[Toad-1]

*im intimidated over you not being intimidated by me*😐😮

[archiz]

@Toad-1 owww ^^
well good then haha

[Anonymous]

No. Men often due to women's inflated ego date down. Guys who work out regular, and make more money than girls often have to settle for skinny fat girls who make less money on them.

On the other hand women often date men way above their league but they think they are in the same league because many women today are full of themselves due to social media.

A 5/10 now thinks she's a 8/10 because her friend and males on social media tell her how hot she is.

She meets a man who is actual an 8/10 and he may date her for a while but chances he'll actual keep her around long term is most likely not going to happen unless she is something special.

Summary:
Women date upward
Men date downward

The negative effect of this for women is the creation of the alpha widow
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a25414-the-alpha-widow-how-they-come-to-be

[ManOnFire]

Not entirely. I often see people of low value and high egos dating others who are out of their league, though the ones out of their league are dumb enough to date them too.

[BiscuitesSwag]

*cough* "generally" in caps lock *cough*
I haven't seen that phenomenon that much to be honest, but I'm not denying that it might happen quiet often.

[ManOnFire]

Just be more discerning, that's all. Things are not always as they seem, especially with people.

[frozenhorizon]

Somewhat, although I think of it as "types" rather than leagues? There's certain "types" that most people seem compatible and interested in dating, so you can date people where you're each others' type. Like I may be average looking to people on average if I'm someone's type then I'd be much more attractive to them. I don't really think you can classify things as leagues since people have difference preferences.

[BiscuitesSwag]

Agreed, but more or less people that find each other compatible tend to be in one way or the other similar.
I don't know if I explained this well, I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. @.@

[frozenhorizon]

No I agree, for example I'm skinny and most of the people I really clicked with have been too.

[frozenhorizon]

It's not really intentional or anything it just happens to be like that, but it probably is for the reason you said... we can relate to each other based on similarities

[Bandit74]

Yeah I think people generally do but leagues aren't determined just by looks. They are determined by your overall value.

Also I think there's two rating systems:
1) SMV Sexual Market Value (how desirable you are just for sex).
2) RMV Relationship Market Value (how desirable you are for serious relationships).

Some peoples SMV is higher than their RMV while others are the reverse. Some people are high in both categories while others are low in both.

[BiscuitesSwag]

This is why I added the P. S., that I meant both personality/intelligence and attractiveness.
By the way, interesting input with SMV and RMV. 😊

[1GuyOpinion]

The golden rule : Relationship can only happen if both people feel like they getting a good deal out of the relationship.

This "league" thing is just a part of it. But you have to understand the bigger picture. A person can look like chewbacca but if he/she has something else to offer that make the other person THINK they are getting a good deal overall then they WILL date him/her.

[BubbleBoy69]

Some girls date guys out of fair of being dumped and want to be worship.

Good looking women may date an ugly/average guy because who physically is below her league due to fear that if she dated a chad he might get bored with her and leave her for another girl wanting to jump his dick.

In addition the ugly/average guy would treat her like a queen because she's the best he can ever get (i. e. he'll cherish her). While the Chad would consider her another girl he's spending a short relationship period in between all the fucking he's doing.

[1GuyOpinion]

@BubbleBoy69

Yep. It satisfy the golden rule : Good looking women think they are getting a good deal because they don't have to worry about the ugly guy being unfaithful, while the ugly dude think he's getting a good deal because he get to date a hot chick.

[kambo_trick3y]

upload.wikimedia.org/.../...ue_of_Legends_logo.png

When I think of league

[BiscuitesSwag]

Luckily I put the word in inverted commas. :v

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah, people tend to date similar people, but it's because they can.
Ugly people would want to date gorgeous people, but the chances of the gorgeous one choosing an ugly one is little to none.
Gorgeous people have more options, and they're obviously going to choose the best person from those.

[akadatank44]

That "rich guy" are you talking about? He called your face fat? Haha i saw thatm Dudes wacko
Nope I don't think so. I think the older you get the more you realize that.

[BiscuitesSwag]

Not that one, the one that believes that he is the "black Ken doll". 😂

[akadatank44]

Bahahaha I didn't se that one 😂😂😂

[BiscuitesSwag]

That was with one of his previous accounts, now he is complaining that he "deserves" hot girls but only chubby and fat girls are interested in him. 😂

[akadatank44]

Ohhh yeah didn't he say he's gonna be a millionaire in 5 years or something 😂

[BiscuitesSwag]

No, let me find the post I'm talking about. 😂

[BiscuitesSwag]

Here it is: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1992744-girls-are-so-choosy-the-less-desirable-women-are-attracted-to-me 😂

[akadatank44]

Hahah oh yeah with that fake chick he deserves jack shit 😂😂

[BiscuitesSwag]

Hot chicks*, pls, you don't have tastes if you don't agree with him. :"") 😂

[akadatank44]

Yeah but she was fake meaning her tits and all that makeup. I'd rather have a true natural beautiful woman.

[BiscuitesSwag]

I know, natural>fake, but you got my point. (Even though that girl tried to enchance her looks, it didn't really go well. 😂)

[akadatank44]

Hahah nope

[matheus_mb]

What if I haven't identified my league yet? xD
I mean, I have changed a lot in the last years, principally physically, so I'm many times still clueless about what people think and about which my league is.

[takumii]

Lol are you talking about that black guy who was whining why he's still a virgin and how girls don't deserve him?

[BiscuitesSwag]

Yes, that one. 😂

[takumii]

I wouldn't take his opinions seriously, he's highly delusional.

[BiscuitesSwag]

I know, but I tried to annoy him to have a good laugh with my best friend and this is how this question raised. :"")

[MakeShiftThug]

A "league" is one of many social constructs that I don't accept.

[BiscuitesSwag]

Would you be happier if I said "level"?
Since not everyone is at the same level of anything, no matter how much *politically* communists think this.

[MakeShiftThug]

nope...
I do believe people are more likely to date people in the same class, culture and even ethnic group as themselves.
but also, opposites attract.

[BiscuitesSwag]

Yes, this is why I chapitalised "generally", since this site is full with "don generalise, not everyone is the same".

[MakeShiftThug]

I know, I was just being an inconvenience!
gifsec.com/.../evil-laugh-reaction-gif.gif?gs=a

[BiscuitesSwag]

#CoolStoryBro

[Anonymous]

Most people do, yes. Honestly I think the imbalance in a relationship makes a relationship less reliable to many. Feeds insecurities and what not. Some people might enjoy or feel it worth it but most won't.

[hotstuffSRD]

Yep
But not me
Cause I don't date 😂
And i won't until an year
I mean I'll try not to :P

[BiscuitesSwag]

Why not? 😶😂

[hotstuffSRD]

Cause this year's gonna be mess up and blah blah blah (you'll get bored listening all this) so you know 😂 LOL

[BiscuitesSwag]

I have all the time (my dog won't let me move in a while 😂).

[hotstuffSRD]

Ok let's play then
I'll give you a hint : I have to study 😂 LOL

[BiscuitesSwag]

Lol, so long... 😂
You could have said this in your first reply, y'know? 😂

[hotstuffSRD]

That was just a hint
I don't study but I have to sooooooo...

[kittykatbrat]

Yes.
I generally date people who understand and reflect what I am and where I hope to be.

[idiotmanchild]

Yeah, studies have been done on this that people tend to gravitate towards people that are considered relatively as attractive as they are. There are exceptions, but generally, yeah.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Yes. People date similar interests/attraction levels generally, in my opinion

[TheSpartan]

Of course they do. People try to get the best mate they can, and that is generally a person in their "league".

[Decentguy]

sometimes they do and sometimes they adjust because they have low standards.

[bcromartie]

People generally are only attracted to people of similar attractiveness. So, yes.

[Anonymous]

Most people date someone similar to themselves so yes.

[GnarCute]

I date in my league i look for top laners.

[SpecialWael]

Sorry but he is a dick+asshole..

[BiscuitesSwag]

I know, but entertaining because of that. 😂
But the question is about "leagues".