There are many trolls on this site, but there's one that always keeps coming back and if I point out that he has become boring, he tells me that I'm fat, ugly, and a new one, "lesser woman". 😂 Anyway, I showed my best friend his post and his replies to me and at a moment she said "He still hasn't figured it out that people date in their own league".
P. S.: When I think of "league", I include personality/intelligence and looks too.
I think they usually do, but you'll sometimes see couples who shock you. Usually I don't care. If people like each other, they should be together. What I find annoying is when a guy or girl will ignore people except for just the hot ones, but they aren't that special to begin with and yet they complain that they can't get someone.
I know someone in real life like that. He isn't ugly, but he isn't hot either, and he also has some extra weight. Overall he is a good guy. He can get along with most people. He is good at charming people if he makes them angry. He also has plenty of women who want him. However, he has extremely high standards. He will only date very beautiful women. A friend of mine likes him, and she tried getting me to set them up. He refused to date her though because she isn't pretty enough, and she apparently has 'thunder thighs.'
He has never ever had a serious relationship. He spends all his time complaining about how women don't like him, and that nice guys finish last. I've pointed out how many women do want him, and at the beginning of our friendship, I wanted him too. None of us are good enough for him though.
Yeah, people tend to date similar people, but it's because they can. Ugly people would want to date gorgeous people, but the chances of the gorgeous one choosing an ugly one is little to none. Gorgeous people have more options, and they're obviously going to choose the best person from those.
The golden rule : Relationship can only happen if both people feel like they getting a good deal out of the relationship.
This "league" thing is just a part of it. But you have to understand the bigger picture. A person can look like chewbacca but if he/she has something else to offer that make the other person THINK they are getting a good deal overall then they WILL date him/her.
What if I haven't identified my league yet? xD I mean, I have changed a lot in the last years, principally physically, so I'm many times still clueless about what people think and about which my league is.
Somewhat, although I think of it as "types" rather than leagues? There's certain "types" that most people seem compatible and interested in dating, so you can date people where you're each others' type. Like I may be average looking to people on average if I'm someone's type then I'd be much more attractive to them. I don't really think you can classify things as leagues since people have difference preferences.
Most people date someone similar to themselves so yes.
Most people do, yes. Honestly I think the imbalance in a relationship makes a relationship less reliable to many. Feeds insecurities and what not. Some people might enjoy or feel it worth it but most won't.
I don't really believe in leagues, but I do often see girls who I like the aesthetic of with guys I don't like the aesthetic of and it confuses me. But I chalk it up to my perceptions not being universal, because they're not.