So, I'm 18, got into engineering university this year and I met a guy there. He's cute, nice, we made out a few times and he's been giving me hints that he wants to be in a serious relationship. The thing is, he's 23 and honestly, I'm just super scared. I've never dated guys that much older than me and I'm afraid of getting myself in an abusive relationship. Many women I know regret dating older men at such a young age, because they tend to be manipulative and I'm just really, really afraid of finding myself in that place and not knowing what to do then. He doesn't give away any alarming signals of being abusive, but neither do other abusers or nobody would be in a relationship with them in the first place. I like him, I'm just scared. What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
Your anxiety is well founded. Intuitively though he's a bit young to be as manipulative as you describe. That sounds more like a 50 year old dating a 'barbie doll'
Nevertheless, keep your powder dry. What I mean is be ready to slap him down at the first hint that he wants to control or own you.
What to do then, if the worst comes to the worst? Tell him to f-off and walk away. There's SFA he can do about it.
Your choices will always be YOUR choices. Nobody else's.
He can only take control if you let him.1
Most Helpful Girl
My parents are six years apart.
But like, you're only 18. So don't get tied down to one guy. You have a lot to grow and experience, so even if you're mature for your age, there's a lot you don't know. Like when you're out of school 5 years isn't bad.
I mean, the maturity between 18 and 23 is a lot. But the difference between 24 and 29 might be less.0