What do you think of a 5+ year age gap in relationships?

[EllaNella]

Would it be too much for you? And does it matter to you wether the man or the woman is the older one?

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What would be the maximum age difference you could feel comfortable with?

[bamesjond0069]

I dont think there is any real maximum however once you blow past about 20 years there's some real considerations that need to take place if you're getting married ie health and financial security however they can be addressed. And not that there aren't in the first place even if a couple was the same age.

My girlfriend is 16 years younger. Honestly it hardly effects us at all. Now we also have a traditional relationship in which its clearly beneficial to both parties such that she at age 18 knew she had zero interest in men her age and was looking for a 10 to 20 year gap. I going in knew i was most likely to match well with someone 18 to 22 max. So we both had that figured out before we even met.

Id not date anyone older than me and she wouldn't date anyone younger than her. So it really is gender specific but complimentary.

in my opinion a womans value as a single woman or as another mans woman decreases fast ie single mom no thanks doesn't prioritize relationships no thanks... so no matter my age even if 50 or 60 id still prioritize 18 to about 22 for a serious relationship ie kids and lifelong commitment. So i dont think there is a limit to the gap from my perspective. If a man wants a family he should go as young as possible.

[FreeMan6354]

I'm actually engaged to a woman who is 40 and it's the best relationship of my life (and the other girls I dated were all my age). A lot of people may assume that it's because I couldn't get a girl my age or younger (over 18 though), but I actually had and still have options of girls my age or younger (over 18 though). However I still would much rather be with the woman I'm with now (I don't mean to sound conceited, but I do think that's worth pointing out for those who assume I'm only with her because I have no other options, which isn't true).

With that being said, I also think she's very much the exception to the rule. I don't think it's so much that I'd prefer older women as much as I just love being with her. Moreover, the typical 'problems' I'd have with most older women don't apply to her.
1. She's very energetic and outgoing (sometimes I have to keep up with her).
2. She's not really immature, but she is 'immature' enough in certain ways that in makes us much more compatible (and makes me enjoy her company as a partner much more).
3. She does have one daughter, but we get along really well, so that's not an issue.
4. She wants more kids really badly, so we're on the same page there (in fact, she wants to start trying to get pregnant right now)
5. Despite the difference in age and sex we have very compatible sex drives.
6. While she does have a few more wrinkles than girls my age along with other physical differences that come from being older (at least in comparison to me) she still is crazy hot. In fact, she's a lot hotter than most women my age. She also takes religiously good care of herself physically (I know this might be kind of vain, but being physically/sexually attracted to her does matter to me)

[IronLady6354]

Do you think there's anything positive that her being older brings to your relationship?

[milliee0]

There's definitely nothing wrong with big age gaps but for me personally I probably wouldn't want much more than 5 years (unless I really liked the person). The main reason for this is just being at different stages of life and wanting different things, specifically regarding starting a family.

[random_girl95]

I think it's better not to be more than 10 years. However it all depends how both of you feel about each other. If you are comfortable, have chemistry between you and have common interests and age gap shouldn't be your first concern.

[HawkPerception]

5 years is a very small gap not worth mentioning. Age matters less and less the more you age. And we all eventually age, so as long as there is mutual attraction and consent, I see no issue with even a 20 year gap. Everything is just based on societal norms which is pathetic because most people don't think for themselves.

[DavidRaul]

Its really doesn't matter. Its really a small difference if you are concerned about it. Also age doesn't matter at all, if you care for each other, you should go aheah with the relationship. There are other things that needs to be taken care in a relationship, and age is merely a small concern

[ohshee]

If it was to happen I would be the older one so it would have to be up to them
Or let me rephrase that I would have had more birthday cakes than them so it would be up to them
I'm good with it
It's all in who you are how do you see things and your compatibility with each other if you connect on a good level there's nothing wrong with it I don't think

[lamaguy]

My grandmother and step grandfather are 11 years apart and married when my grandmother was in her early 40s and him early 50s. Now late 70s his health is failing and his personality changed while my grandmother is still fine. It makes her sad to watch him degrade and lose the personality she married him for.

[blended_ninja]

My last girlfriend was 5 years older than me, and most of my fwbs and people I consider for a relationship are at least 5 years older than me. There's a lot less drama, they're more responsible, and the sex is way better.

[ChrisMaster69]

I would say it’s fine that gap.

for me I have done 10 years

its really down to how compatible with each other, how close you are together.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Lol I'm having sex with woman 15yrs older than me.. so it's normal.

[EllaNella]

fbi open up

[Sam_The_Savage]

Ohk I'm scared. 🙃

[skyeee_]

i dont date (duh) but 5 year gap would kinda be long for me lol. i'd prefer someone my age or a year or 2 older

[nawtee_me]

I do not see age as an obstacle or the difference of... As long as both are of legal age. 5 years, 10 years, even 40 years is fine with me as long as both agree and are okay with it.

[talka20]

Men being older im okay with 1-8 years

Women being older im okay w 1-2 years

[Anon_Y_Mous]

Age gaps are okay if the intention is not malicious. I myself am 6 years younger (the age on my profile is wrong... I don't feel like changing it :3 ). I think that a 10+ year gap would be where I'd draw a line...

[one1wild00]

I've seen same ages not work and then 30 years differences work well. as for who is older, I prefer the gal be younger.

[CaptainLegal]

I think it's normal, my girlfriend and I have almost 10 years difference. More than 15-20 I think it's kinda weird

[Vikkrram]

Woo man... that's great...

[MysteriousDarkness]

My girlfriend is 13 years older technically 12 years 8 months 5 days.

[Anonymous]

I only date girls 22-24 and I'm 29.


I like younger. Don't see anything wrong. They like older.

I have dated 19 and 20 before

[TrillXHippy]

I don’t really think anything of it but I wouldn’t want to be in one

[Anonymous]

I think 10-15 years is the best age gap. I prefer younger women. The largest age gap I would be willing to do is 17 years.

[In_Trance]

Whatever works for ya

[WhitneySnow]

That’s kind of big but if you want that go for it

[TheSpaceGnome]

A 10 year gap would be the max for me, up or down.