It's a symptom of a completely different ways of viewing the world. This can make it difficult to come to agreement on a variety of things. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where certain topics were just off-limits because they resulted in an ugly argument. I think it would also be difficult to raise children with someone whose ideas are so different from mine.
Political views absolutely are that important. Your political views are fueled by your worldview, and a severe disconnect between the two of you in politics indicates a lot of underlying disagreements about other issues. So you can't just avoid talking about it, because those other issues will crop up from time to time. Make sense?
You're right, politics aren't important in a relationship - but ethics are.
Just by stating that you are both a liberal and a feminist, many, many things can be inferred about your morals. If he does not agree with those morals, it will lead to numerous disagreements/arguments/fights in the future.
If you were really a feminist you wouldn't be making this question. Feminists understand that your partner should respect you and your political beliefs. I am a liberal and I somehow get how you could "not bring politics up" for this matter but how could you even be with someone who is not a feminist and doesn't see you as equal?
Just because someone don't agree with feminism doesn't mean they don't respect women. Women don't have to be equal to men, they just have to be the best woman they can be. No two people are equal, but they can be treated with respect or at the very least civility.
I don't care what your opinion is, as long as I respect how you came to that opinion. If you believe something only because someone told you to, then I couldn't respect that or you.
How ever, he may have his point of view because he was told to, and being near someone who disagrees is too hard.
I'd say it has more to do with what he expects a woman to do for him. Which I guess in his case, is cook and clean for him. A liberal, independent woman is too strong to now to his will and become his maid like that, so that's why he knows he won't get his way with you and backs off. Good riddance, I say. Saves you a miserable oppressed life in the future
eh.. I call bullshit I am with the same opinions of the guy that rejected her and guess what I cook at home every night for my girlfriend even though lol she cleans but not because she has too but because she loves me and wants to show her gratitude for the great food i make :) so no, it has nothing to do with trying to make your partner a slave to you, but of course, you are a little brainwashed so i forgive you.
Well feminists in the West tend to be quite rabid.
But it's probably for the best on your side. If I lived in the USA, I wouldn't want to date anyone who supports the republican ideals, the "right wing".
yes they are. you never talk religeon or politics unless they bring it up. but if they do you avoid or change the subject straight away. you may not want to hear this but: guys dont like SJW feminism rubbed in their faces tone it down or cut it out for your relationships sake. yes some guys are highly opinionated on the subject so its best to avoid the fire storm and just stick to lighter subjects.
Like everyone else, extreme views, especially modern feminism are toxic. Can't blame him.
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I think it's hard for people to get past their political views, especially men. I know it sucks. Also, don't listen to all these guys saying shit about feminism. Most guys don't even know what feminism is, they only know the stereotypical version of "feminism". All in all, you can try to get him back, but do not change your political views just to be more liked by guys.
Why would any guy want to date a female supremacist? An plus they are all just all unattractive from the get go of not being traditional or at least feminine and submissive. Feminism is all about wanting superiority, hatred, special privileges and self entitlement.
They honestly can all go fuck themselves because men are waking up to feminisms BS and rejecting it so the more men wake up the more likely it will abolish.
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It's a symptom of a completely different ways of viewing the world. This can make it difficult to come to agreement on a variety of things. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where certain topics were just off-limits because they resulted in an ugly argument. I think it would also be difficult to raise children with someone whose ideas are so different from mine.
I mean really, if the two of you don't agree on your political/personal beliefs then why would you want to date him? He sounds like he gets this.
Political views absolutely are that important. Your political views are fueled by your worldview, and a severe disconnect between the two of you in politics indicates a lot of underlying disagreements about other issues. So you can't just avoid talking about it, because those other issues will crop up from time to time. Make sense?
You're right, politics aren't important in a relationship - but ethics are.
Just by stating that you are both a liberal and a feminist, many, many things can be inferred about your morals. If he does not agree with those morals, it will lead to numerous disagreements/arguments/fights in the future.
Best avoided.
If you were really a feminist you wouldn't be making this question. Feminists understand that your partner should respect you and your political beliefs. I am a liberal and I somehow get how you could "not bring politics up" for this matter but how could you even be with someone who is not a feminist and doesn't see you as equal?
Just because someone don't agree with feminism doesn't mean they don't respect women.
Women don't have to be equal to men, they just have to be the best woman they can be.
No two people are equal, but they can be treated with respect or at the very least civility.
*doesn't agree with feminism
I don't care what your opinion is, as long as I respect how you came to that opinion. If you believe something only because someone told you to, then I couldn't respect that or you.
How ever, he may have his point of view because he was told to, and being near someone who disagrees is too hard.
You can't blame a guy for not wanting anything to do with a Feminist! That's like being upset a black person isn't comfortable dating a clan member.
I'd say it has more to do with what he expects a woman to do for him. Which I guess in his case, is cook and clean for him. A liberal, independent woman is too strong to now to his will and become his maid like that, so that's why he knows he won't get his way with you and backs off. Good riddance, I say. Saves you a miserable oppressed life in the future
eh.. I call bullshit I am with the same opinions of the guy that rejected her and guess what I cook at home every night for my girlfriend even though lol she cleans but not because she has too but because she loves me and wants to show her gratitude for the great food i make :) so no, it has nothing to do with trying to make your partner a slave to you, but of course, you are a little brainwashed so i forgive you.
Yes. If a woman is politically insane, I will break up with her. I can't risk her spreading defective genes to my potential child.
Well feminists in the West tend to be quite rabid.
But it's probably for the best on your side. If I lived in the USA, I wouldn't want to date anyone who supports the republican ideals, the "right wing".
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They lack any and all forms of humanism.
yes they are. you never talk religeon or politics unless they bring it up. but if they do you avoid or change the subject straight away. you may not want to hear this but: guys dont like SJW feminism rubbed in their faces tone it down or cut it out for your relationships sake. yes some guys are highly opinionated on the subject so its best to avoid the fire storm and just stick to lighter subjects.
Liberal is alright I guess but a feminist with that.. nahhh.
He probably wants a conservative, obedient girl who will take care of him. The relationship wouldn't have worked.
I can't really blame him, i wouldn't date a liberal feminist guy. Third wave Feminism is cancer.
you do realize there is a massive difference between a liberal or feminist and the "third wave feminist" concept
Like everyone else, extreme views, especially modern feminism are toxic. Can't blame him.
I think it's hard for people to get past their political views, especially men. I know it sucks. Also, don't listen to all these guys saying shit about feminism. Most guys don't even know what feminism is, they only know the stereotypical version of "feminism". All in all, you can try to get him back, but do not change your political views just to be more liked by guys.
Why would any guy want to date a female supremacist? An plus they are all just all unattractive from the get go of not being traditional or at least feminine and submissive. Feminism is all about wanting superiority, hatred, special privileges and self entitlement.
They honestly can all go fuck themselves because men are waking up to feminisms BS and rejecting it so the more men wake up the more likely it will abolish.
Your political views are the reflection of your intelligence, or the lack thereof.
Not surprised he would do that honestly.
Yes, depending on views, it can ansolutely make living together impossible.
If it is important to him, it is good that he brought it up and made it clear,
It can be damaging for some.