That depends on the political views. I find that feminist and liberals are the most aggresive about their views (not that conservatives can't be mind you). I also personally believe that their is no way to be a feminist and not hate men, its literally part of the ideology, you have to believe that all men oppressed all women for no reason other then they where, to use the colloquial terminology "sexist dicks" which of course is not particularly enjoyable to be in a relationship with a woman that looks at you that way. I also find that liberals try to rationalize and justify very bad things. Obviously it depends on the degree of the belief structure but if you are hardcore in these things that could be one reason why he refuses to date you. It could be that he is tired of the bullshit that liberals and feminist state and he doesn't want to deal with it because no matter how you try to avoid talking about it it will come up, multiple times you can't avoid it. Or it could be that he simply can't handle a difference of opinion. I have friends that are liberal they are good people but they do occasionally say things that make me want to slap them, same goes for my brothers some are liberal and they are good people but occasionally they will say something and I will have to force myself not to go off on them right then and their (like, "all republicans are racist and sexist" except that bush was a republican and his secretary of state was a black woman, and his secretary of defense was a black man and really more then half of your family is conservative so what the fuck is wrong with you. Things like that). So being in a relationship with some one of a different view would require he bite his tonge and pretend to go along with what you say even while it goes against everything he believes in because if he does say his opinion it will become a huge fight every single time. While I don't think its required to share the same beliefs I do think their must be some similiarities in belief structures and currently that is not the case between conservatives and liberals or any moderate and liberals.(I probably have a similar belief structure to your ex, I don't like conservatives or liberals and feminist but quite frankly I feel that liberals and feminist have done far more damage currently then conservatives have. So make of this what you will).
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No one wants to date such a girl. I am not saying girls should do all the work, I will gladly offer help to girls but a girl will never be a man. We don't want slaves or obedient woman, but we want woman to be woman. It is always a pleasure if your woman cooks and do some work is a bit conservative, is is really nice and warm for the family. I don't want a wife to go out all day and fuck family and kids by just looking out for herself only
For some people who believe in politics, sadly it is that important. Why it becomes so important stems from faith, religion and or belief system. At least you two found out that you weren't compatible with each other. Neither of you were wrong, so don't ever think that. I wouldn't agree with none of these movements for whatever reason. The point being is that if your in a disagreement, eventually in this society and nation we live in, your force to pick sides. He believes one way, while you believe in another. If you two were to get married. Either way he would be the head over you as your husband because he is the head of the household and you need to follow him as his wife. You may not agree with such things. So he was right to end it early. Dating is about process and elimination. You didn't make the cut with that. All you can do is find somebody else who shares yours views.
They could be, but honestly it shouldn't. Most people don't really care all that much about politics. But I will say that this election season may be the exception since we do have pretty controversial choices. What happened is that he put you in a box with all the crazies. You could be crazy or you may not be, I don't know. But he knew you better and decided to change his perception about you based on that box. It's unfair but people do this all the time with other things (religion, race, etc). If he wasn't mature enough to respectfully disagree with your views then he wasn't worth it.
Political beliefs matter more in a relationship than you would think because usually the party or candidate you associate with holds some or most your own values. So if he's against a lot of the things you believe in and stand for and won't support you in it, what's the point of being with him? I mean, he could've explained that to you instead of up and dumping you, though.
It's not a deal breaker but I wouldn't date someone with polar opposite views. My guy and I are both more on the Republican side but our views still differ a little (especially about this past election) but that's okay. So a little difference is fine, drastic difference might present issues later on only because politics can't really be avoided
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Despite how most people seem to operate today, relationships are more than about mutual attraction - in order to have a successful relationship in the long term, you must have a high level of compatibility. Some differences can be lived with - and some are even complimentary - but other differences will always cause problems and tension, and political differences are often among them.
Political views may be unimportant to some people - they might have a high tolerance for people of opposing political ideas, or they just might not care either way. But to others, political views are very important, and where they clash, a relationship probably wouldn't work.
This is why finding a GOOD relationship isn't easy. You must find mutual attraction AND a high level of compatibility, and that takes work, and ACTIVELY "interviewing" your prospective partners to identify any "red flags" early on, before you invest too much into the relationship. It also requires that you've thought about your own views and are realistic about who you are and what you NEED (vs what you merely WANT) in a partner. It's very rare that you find a perfect match, so some compromising is usually necessary.
Not everyone is willing to compromise, though, and they tend to remain single.- u
Political views are not always :just" political views. They can reflect deeper beliefs about gender roles, acceptance of traditional values and beliefs, etc. I think that is particularly true for liberal feminism. I doesn't matter whether it makes sense to you; if it was important to him and it is a deal breaker, then it wouldn't work for him. . . and that means it wouldn't work.
As an analogy, imagine a smoker dating a non-smoker. To the smoker, it is not a big deal and they don't understand why the non-smoker would see that as a deal breaker. Yes. Liberalism is a mental disease that only the naive and those suffering from guilt for no reason get. Liberals are T. H. E. most unpleasant people to be around. I've been at concerts, picnics, other people's holiday parties, etc, where there were bro-Nazis in attendance, and they were *on average* FAR more pleasant to have around than liberals. They actually listened to ideas counter to their own, and would consider the merits and flaws of someone else's view. I have yet to meet a liberal who would do the same. (Granted, it's possible I was around some neo's that were exceptional, but if that's the case, I've met the exceptions several times, different people each time) Liberals make my skin crawl. I know that if they had their way, anyone who doesn't agree with them would be sent to prison camps or executed outright. So much of what they 'believe' is just a regurgitation of Soviet/Marxist policy, and the Followers of Marx are responsible for many times the number of people that died in Germany's camps. Che, the lefty college student hero, killed hundreds of thousands in Latin America and South America. He was the executioner for the Castro regime for a while. Murderous psychopath, and this is whole liberals idolize.
And hatepigism... would you want to be around someone who blamed you for EVERY. BAD. THING. IN. THE. WORLD. EVER. and thought it was OK to humiliate, abuse, assault, or kill someone because 'it's only a female'? You wouldn't stick around someone like that for very long, would you?
Most men will put up with A LOT of bullshit. More bullshit than they should. But they won't put up with hatepigs, and they shouldn't. We want a companion, not someone living with us that treats us as both a competitor AND 'the enemy'.
And if you think for a fraction of a second that it's "just some zany 3rd wave hatepigs making all hatepigs look bad", you'd better do some more reading on what the 'mothers' of hatepigism have to say. They've advocated genocide against men, stripping us of rights (which they've gotten), slavery (which they didn't realize was already in place), you name it. Read some of what that horrible pig-Wookiee Andrea Dworkin has said.
But if you're a feminist, you've already read it, you already know it, and you agree with it. If not, you wouldn't call yourself a feminist.well he was old enough to know ur bat shit crazy and not going to compromise in the future and he just left before u caused any issues. u are going to cause all knds of problems for someone other than one of ur own kind. so it was actually better this way. if u are more of a compremiser then u need to get use to saying ur more politically nuetral and go with the issues instead of saying what u did. especially right now. no one wants to hear those words especially TOGETHER! that is not a girlfriend def not a wife material person.
I will say yes because different political views also tend to mean different values. While some views aren't as important as others, there are going to some that are a must. I won't date a girl if her values are polar opposite to my own. At least he ended things there instead of staying in a doomed relationship. It allows both of you to find someone more compatible. And he told you the reason why so he is giving you closure. Sure, it sounds like he was tactless and he could have used at least a little tact but if I were you. . . I would respect the fact that he ended things in the way he did.
Much better than being ghosted and having no closure.How much detail did you go into? It might depend on your specific views if you discussed them. I wouldn't have a problem dating a liberal feminist but if she was going around saying men are pigs or women should be paid more or given jobs even if they're not the most qualified candidate then it would be a dealbreaker. Or if she was one of those so-called liberals who are constantly trying to tell people what they can't do because its "racist" or "sexist" or "appropriation" that would be a huge deal breaker
Political views don't just express, well, political views. You have to be a liberal feminist because you believe or act similar to that cause. With that being said, if he is familiar with the group's, where their beliefs, reactions, and so on align, and he doesn't agree with that group, how could it work?
What if he was conservative, and believed in pro life. You, as a liberal, would typically believe in pro choice right? Now lets say you get pregnant... what happens now? It just wouldn't work, just because they are political views doesn't mean its only limited to politics. He simply saw what you believed in, aligned it to what others believed in on that group, attached that to your personality, and decided that it wouldn't work out well.They can be - SJWs and other militant liberals can be unbearable company, and he might have been afraid of that happening so cut his losses and ran.
i3.kym-cdn.com/.../2ac.jpgI think they are important. It says a lot about your personality, the way you view the world, men and women, children etc. He sounds similar to myself, and I know that on all of those things I most probably have different ideas and completely different values to any liberal feminist so we just wouldn't be compatible at all.
To some people yes. The older you get the more they matter for most people. It comes from fundamental beliefs you have and if you two disagree on fundamental core values why would you make a future with that person? I mean, unless you're a feminist in name alone but don't fight/advocate the bulk of their issues and don't make it a major part of your life. Because then it's not a problem. Kind of like a lot of people are "Christian", but they really don't pray, go to church or practice said faith. If someone is very religious, then an atheist probably won't want to date them. But if the person simply believes there is a god, but doesn't really do anything then an atheist probably won't care that much. Unless they themselves are a HUGE atheist and being atheist is a big part of who they are lol.
it's sad, but recently, with the rise of nationalism and populism in the UK, the US and Europe, and much of the rest of the world actually, people are becoming more polarized as politicians build divide and hatred in communities that have lasted for years, it's a scary time, and i'm sorry you have to experience this, i don't think, personally, political views should matter, it's usually indicative of personality anyway, so it's likely you'll meet people like you (your political view) just by talking to people you get along well with, but you do get anomalies, people who don't follow the normal trend, so i'm really sorry about what's happened to you, but in these tense times, i hope you can find love, i hope i can find love, i hope anyone can find love.
No they're not, he's just a little extreme with his views and likely unhinged. You're better off, you would have had to listen to him moan and complain about politics non-stop.
You know, couples are allowed to disagree. Interfaith couples get married all the time. They somehow find a way to coexists and have children.
If you're attractive and we get along what's the problem? I don't plan on having long drawn out discussions about politics in my relationship. Find someone that's a political, they're more pleasant a person.What a good man. It's better not to risk it with liberal feminists, you never know, one day she may wake up angry and say you raped her or something like that, so it's better to stay away xD
Chapeau for your ex.Honestly, you are both better off without each other. Political beliefs matter in a relationship more than you might think. Couples with contrasting beliefs can impact between future decision makings on things like marriage and having kids for example.
Considering the entire point of modern liberal feminism is to demonize men. You can't really blame him. It doesn't stand for equality, equality has already been achieved its about treating men like shit and trying to cause a problem out of made up things like the wage gap and rape culture. Thus why less than 20% of women are feminists but 90% believe in equality. Because those two things don't mean the same thing.
Politics aren't, but dating a person with basic reasoning skills such as indicate at least a modicum of sentience are. Feminism is the best indicator of the opposite of this, as, like with what we are witnessing with the modern decline of the west, feminism, or some very similar iteration of it, is at the root of the fall of every major empire throughout history.
It's more than just rejecting you for your political views. It shows a lot about who you are as a person and how you view the world.
Now I'm not saying being a liberal feminist is a bad thing... but if he doesn't align with those views then chances are you wouldn't get along in the long run.i1.kym-cdn.com/.../feminist2.PNG
Well. . . You know how it is these days. . . (Just sayin')
media.giphy.com/media/QDK1pCI43lGhO/giphy.gifthey can be. it doesn't have to but if people have extremely different views and those views conflict with the other person it can definitely damage a relationship
and especially something like feminism can be a relationship killer, as it seems to really fire up some people on either side... but there are plenty of guys out there who will feel similarly to you or at least be ok with you holding the views you haveBut aren't you a strong independent woman who doesn't need a man? bahaha
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