I really don't understand why this would turn him away so much. Things were going well for months, but then we started talking about our political views. Turns out, he hates liberals and feminists. Well actually, he said he hated all political parties, just those two more than the others. I was like, ok cool. Then we don't have to bring up politics. but after I told him what I was for, he just up and rejected me. And he said that it was for those reasons. Are different political views really that damaging to a relationship?
Most Helpful Guy
Despite how most people seem to operate today, relationships are more than about mutual attraction - in order to have a successful relationship in the long term, you must have a high level of compatibility. Some differences can be lived with - and some are even complimentary - but other differences will always cause problems and tension, and political differences are often among them.
Political views may be unimportant to some people - they might have a high tolerance for people of opposing political ideas, or they just might not care either way. But to others, political views are very important, and where they clash, a relationship probably wouldn't work.
This is why finding a GOOD relationship isn't easy. You must find mutual attraction AND a high level of compatibility, and that takes work, and ACTIVELY "interviewing" your prospective partners to identify any "red flags" early on, before you invest too much into the relationship. It also requires that you've thought about your own views and are realistic about who you are and what you NEED (vs what you merely WANT) in a partner. It's very rare that you find a perfect match, so some compromising is usually necessary.
Not everyone is willing to compromise, though, and they tend to remain single.4
Most Helpful Girl
I mean really, if the two of you don't agree on your political/personal beliefs then why would you want to date him? He sounds like he gets this.21