I'm the super jealous type, and I try to limit myself when it comes to dating and whatnot. But when i see my significant other even talking to another girl, i get frustrated and annoyed. I try not to think about it too much, but i get thoughts in my head that he's most likely cheating on me. Anyways, should i tell them about this? is it a turn on/off? Please help.
Most Helpful Guy
Jealousy is a turn off. It's nice to know that a girl cares about you and cares about keeping you but it's not nice to feel like you're not trusted and it's not nice to be interrogated. Jealousy is not based on any reality, it's based in imagination and insecurity. You can't force someone to be faithful and you can't watch them 24hrs a day. They will either choose to be faithful or they won't. Trust is a leap of faith, not a written guarantee. But to trust is brave and it's necessary.
Don't waste energy on things that you can't stop. Instead use your energy in making your relationship strong and making your partner happy and yourself happy.2
Most Helpful Girl
It's a turn off. At first, I didn't mind it. I knew jealousy was a sign of an insecure person, so my instinct was to make my partner feel loved and to... fix them in a sense. I did everything in my power to help my partner see his potential and self-worth. However, the relationship ended after I got cheated on, due to his insecurity (no surprise there), but now I don't see jealousy as something cute anymore. It's not something I want to fix, in fact, I see it as a warning sign now. I dated a guy who was great, but he showed similar signs of insecurity the way my ex did. Honestly, I dumped him the second I realized how insecure he was. It's not my job to fix anyone and I've realized that you can't make someone evolve unless they truly want to better themselves and I'd say the same to you. If you know that you are a jealous person, I think you should definitely address that and look within. Why are you so jealous? Are you insecure? How can you build up your confidence so that you feel more secure in your relationships? Whatever you do, telling him about your jealousy is a good idea, but also try to work on it. You can't expect him to cut out all females in his life to appease your irrationality.0