Hi everyone. I just turned 30 years old in May, but I've never kissed a girl. I've never dated a lot but I'm getting better and dating a bit more than before. But I've never kissed a girl.
What would girls think if you knew this? I'm not ugly or fat or anything like that. I was abused as a child and I've had a lot of depression, but I'm better than in my teens and 20s. It feels kind of embarrassing to talk about it, but if you don't talk about problems they never get better.
Should I tell a girl before I kiss her, or should I just kiss her quickly and get over it and worry about the details later? Should I tell her I've never kissed and ask her to teach me? Sometimes I think about lying and saying I've never kissed "a lot" to take some of the pressure off myself, but lying can cause problems later, so I don't know.
Everything about this is new to me and I don't know what's "normal." I know not all girls expect to make out or have sex soon, but do I kiss her at the end of the first date or the second date or what?
Any advice from anyone would be good.
Thanks for reading this.
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start with a kiss on the cheek man. take the girl out and when you say goodbye just lean in and give her a kiss on the cheek like you would your aunt. Say, "I had a great time and we should do this again" It's sweet and respectable. Who knows if you get that close she may even turn and kiss you! If not your set for the second date.
on the second date just be yourself. Stay relaxed. Try to flirt a bit and initiate some slight physical contact. If she reacts well to it then you probably have nothing to worry about. The key is to be comfortable! if you remain comfortable she will most likely remain comfortable. Start off slow and don't get to excited.
I remember my first kiss! I got so excited I hugged the girl! lmao then I was thinking WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING? lol
Remember it is important to be yourself and to be comfortable. There really is nothing to worry about. Remember you're a man and women DO expect a guy to try to kiss them!1