So I'm new to the whole dating scene. This is my first time texting/calling (with the aim of a relationship) a girl since I felt I wasn't mentally ready in the past. The girl in question is one that I knew in college. I'm very interested in her and I >think< she's into me as well. We have conversations about pretty much everything.
Now enough of the background info! As much as I know texting should not be the main form of communication, it is the most convenient for the both of us as she has class and I'm at work (we're one year apart, I just graduated). Whenever I initiate the text, usually regarding some event that occurred or a joke, the conversations are long and great. The only thing of concern to me is that she never texts me first. I have tried the whole waiting thing once for a period of three days, but didn't want to risk anything so I started texting her again. She always replies, so that's a good sign.
I'm just a bit concerned about her interest as I've had a friend advise me and he said she may just not be into me and is merely being nice by responding to my texts. We've already had our first date and I felt the connection was strong.
This has been digging at me for awhile now. Any advice or insight would be great! Thank you!
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I hate it when my boyfriend, or even the guy I like waits for me to text first. It makes a girl feel more loved, and cared about if the boy texts first.
Think about how quickly she replies, does she respond instantly or does she delay her response abit?
If she responds instantly she's definitely wanting to talk to you. If she delays the reply just a little bit, she's probably trying to keep you hanging and if she takes ages to reply, take it as a sign she's not interested.
Maybe after a few more weeks try the whole 3 day thing again :) Promise yourself not to text her. and if you mean enough to her, it'll drive her crazy and if she doesn't start the conversation , she'll definitely reply instantly when you start to text again, because she just cannot stop checking her phone.
Go on another date, see if its abit better. Do something social like go get a coffee, or out for lunch. But nothing too formal that will freak her out.
Sounds like you have something in the making :)