I suck in the kitchen, like really. Despite hours of my mom, grandma, friends, and current boyfriend trying to get me to cook, I'm a disastor. We're talking crunchy ramon noodles, milk spraying through the vents on the microwave while trying to make hot chocolate, burning water bad. Some of us just weren't made to work in the kitchen.
I never said women HAD TO COOK, or cannot do anything but cook.
I am simply asking, "where did the home cooked food go?"
And THAT is a very valid question. It sounds like the mistakes you are making come from not focusing.Cooking is not hard at all. It is just following directions and being precise. So basically, a person is only not good at it if they are not trying.
Creating a meal is a totally different thing. Monkeys can put ingredients together. :-/
I know how to cook. Difference is, most guys don't want to eat what I cook. I can't eat fast food. I can't eat steak and potatoes. I can't eat tacos. I can't eat pizza. I'm not saying 'won't', I'm saying 'can't'.
So, if you're in the mood for vegetarian spaghetti with squash noodles, I'm on it. You want turkey with gravy and biscuits, you're on your own.
ok, so let's not say cooking food. For your sake when you say raw food is healthier, I then want food to be prepared.
So, I will say prepared from now on for you.
:-)
A great chef can make a meal that is healthy and satisfying in taste. I am sure there is something that is super tasty and like what a guy and you wants to eat that you could make and works for everyone.
Most women hate being told their work is in the kitchen, so when men offer to cook to empress them it usually wins the women over quite a bit, they've also had their mothers probably babying them their whole lives and didn't learn to cook.
I guess it's just a new trend, the guy cooks, the women helps a bit instead of the other way around.
i love cooking! its okay for a man to cook sometimes. its nice for a woman to be treated once in a while by a nice home made cooked meal. but like I said I cook all the time. I used to be a chef in few diffrent places. (including steakhouse, convention center and organic cafe)
haha. its definitly a plus. I try to make a nice cooked meal every day. after work and stuff. I mix things up, soups, pasta, shrimp, steak, chicken. etc
I think there is less cooking in general. Much more eating out, and pre-made meals at home. Since our idea of gender roles is changing and its acceptable for men to cook this adds to the effect too. So yeah, gender roles mainly. Girls don't have to cook, so they won't unless they want to. I love it, I make fancy dinners 3-4 times a week, and my man cooks 3-4 times a month and makes an awesome meal too.
not all women cook cause they werent taught to take care of their men...im not saying a womans place is in the kitchen...however since the begaining of time women have been the ones who cook...an men if thts the way you want it then you should be the bread winner an tha little lady should take care of the house...
I love to cook and I cook all of the time, I prefer it. I also think that gender roles are changing but, there are many women who enjoy traditional gender roles. I am 22 and no where near thinking about marriage and what-have-you. BUT when I do "grow up" I have no problem with cooking, doing laundry, ect. AS LONG as the man doesn't mind offering when I don't feel like it :P
Im 17 and I cook -_- mainly cause my parents refuse to cook for me lol, but I can defiantly cook. I like being able to cook for other people, it makes me feel satisfied that they have enjoyed things, plus I also find cooking enjoyable :) Though I wouldn't know how to cook meat I' m vegetarian, which makes me feel bad because my boyfriend loves meat, and I just can't bring myself to cook it :( he eats veggie for me though :D :) xXx
oh... unlike the girls below sayin how they can cook I truthfully can't cook for sh*t... my food either turns out extremely burnt or extremely tasteless... or both... so I'm not gonna embarrass myself by attempting.. I gave up on the dream of being a good cook a LONG time ago...
I love to cook! If a girl likes to cook as well that is great we can make food together which is really fun! If she doesn't like to cook it's not as great but it can still be nice because I know she is enjoying something from me she doesn't know how to do herself so I'm giving her something special.
your first two updates sound really old fashioned and a little sexist. just saying. But then again, there are old fashioned women out there that will love to cook for you and be your mama.
Women aren't cooking because of the stupid ass feminist movement! I'm not saying that women can't do anything, but just because you want to be independent(at least until things get too tough for you and you break down) doesn't mean you can't cook or that it's sexist to cook. Look, there are things that women are better at than men in most cases... Cooking IS ONE OF THEM! So, stop being so stubborn women and just freaking cook.
My boyfriend claims he can't cook and the only thing he knows how to do is boil water for pasta. I don't know if that is his excuse not to cook or if he's being honest. I know it's very likely that it could be both. I've cooked a few meals for him over that past two years and I've tried to get him in the kitchen to help me, but all he does is watch me.
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They used to say, "A way to a man's heart is through his stomach." But that doesn't seem to be the case anymore, instead it's "A way to a man's heart is through his d***." As times have changed, men have changed. They don't care about cooking, cleaning, they care about good looks & sexual skill.
Your right, many women do not cook anymore. Come to think of it, many women do not do ANY of the things that they traditionally did in the past
What's funny is that they all still expect a male-breadwinner. They will still leave men if he doesn't make enough money. Pure hypocrisy
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I love cooking and am an amazing cook.. but actually I don't like to mention this because men get a bit *too excited* that I'm going to be their cook forever...My excellent cooking skills have been taken advantage of! how many times I have been in a relationship where I'm cooking all the time!?! Do you know how upsetting that is?! lol I'm more than just your cookin mama.
It would nice to meet a guy who is good at cooking too...so at least the roles are shared...
Men should know how to cook anyway, it's a real winner to see a man who can look after himself too.
My sister's husband cooks because she is so busy with the kids.
Men need to realize that they need to contribute to the homemaking. Cooking helps a whole lot.
But I also can't figure out why women aren't cooking. I cook from scratch because I think it's easier. I don't know why so many women are fixing prepared foods, etc.
Its not that I won't cook, its just that I am terrible at it...so probably not a good idea to eat what I cook, you might end up not coming back from it...lol
Although I make a damn good cheese sandwich!...ha ha ha...
feminism didn't cause people to do anything. People created feminism, just saying.. I saw it mentioned. Women can cook or not cook if you want to be with someone who cooks then don't get involved with someone who can't.
So you believe not everyone should know how to cook?
That is like saying not everyone should think about attending school, or getting a job, or bathing regularly or shaving. making food for yourself, or your family seems to be a basic human principle.
If nobody ever wanted to learn how to cook at the beginning of mankind, we would have become extinct really quick.
So, then if I cook, and I have a job and I provide for everyone, does that mean I get to pick qualities I want in a girl? nope.
I never said people shouldn't know HOW I said it should not be expected as a womans job. Your post doesn't say why don't people know how, your post asked why women are not cooking for men anymore, its a big difference, stop assuming I'm saying things I'm not saying, YOU made it a gender issue , so don't pretend this has anything to do with self preservation, life skills, or general competency,
i did cooking because it was necessary for survival not as part of me as a package. it was never something I thought of as pat of me, just something I did on a as needed basis,
Unfortunately, many girls will rely on a man to either cook for them or take them out to dinner. That is crap! Everyone should at some point learn to cook so they can learn to take care of themselves.
I guess I imagine if a person cannot cook that might just be ONE of the ways that they cannot take care of themselves.
Wel OK I take care of myself & I don't waste money going out to eat. So I'm not familiar with this trend.. yea sure in general everyone should be competent & bot be lazy,
You should probably educate yourself a little more. Or at least try not to come off as ignorant. It's about as unattractive as a girl not being able to "cook a actual piece of meat extremely well", as you would say.
Ok I can't possibly be the only one who loves to cook. Yeah I might still be in high school but I cook at least three nights a week and I know when I'm living on my own I'm cooking every single day. I'd much rather be given the ingredients and make it myself than have a guy try to impress me by making it for me or if they have to they can help me in the kitchen if they can keep up. Ugh am I really that crazy?
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I suck in the kitchen, like really. Despite hours of my mom, grandma, friends, and current boyfriend trying to get me to cook, I'm a disastor. We're talking crunchy ramon noodles, milk spraying through the vents on the microwave while trying to make hot chocolate, burning water bad. Some of us just weren't made to work in the kitchen.
Also, this is so sexiest it's not even funny.
This is actually not sexist*
I never said women HAD TO COOK, or cannot do anything but cook.
I am simply asking, "where did the home cooked food go?"
And THAT is a very valid question. It sounds like the mistakes you are making come from not focusing.Cooking is not hard at all. It is just following directions and being precise. So basically, a person is only not good at it if they are not trying.
Creating a meal is a totally different thing. Monkeys can put ingredients together. :-/
I know how to cook. Difference is, most guys don't want to eat what I cook. I can't eat fast food. I can't eat steak and potatoes. I can't eat tacos. I can't eat pizza. I'm not saying 'won't', I'm saying 'can't'.
So, if you're in the mood for vegetarian spaghetti with squash noodles, I'm on it. You want turkey with gravy and biscuits, you're on your own.
If the problem is that a man only wants to eat fast food style food ...then that might be his own problem. I can agree to that.
but GOOD tasting food that is healthy is what should be made.
raw food is healthiest actually...
ok, so let's not say cooking food. For your sake when you say raw food is healthier, I then want food to be prepared.
So, I will say prepared from now on for you.
:-)
A great chef can make a meal that is healthy and satisfying in taste. I am sure there is something that is super tasty and like what a guy and you wants to eat that you could make and works for everyone.
Most women hate being told their work is in the kitchen, so when men offer to cook to empress them it usually wins the women over quite a bit, they've also had their mothers probably babying them their whole lives and didn't learn to cook.
I guess it's just a new trend, the guy cooks, the women helps a bit instead of the other way around.
Yeah, I think this came about from men using cooking to woo a women.
Why do women not use cooking to woo a man?
i love cooking! its okay for a man to cook sometimes. its nice for a woman to be treated once in a while by a nice home made cooked meal. but like I said I cook all the time. I used to be a chef in few diffrent places. (including steakhouse, convention center and organic cafe)
marry me? Just playing.
But in all seriousness, do you feel that your ability to cook has made MORE GUYS come falling to your knees for you?
haha. its definitly a plus. I try to make a nice cooked meal every day. after work and stuff. I mix things up, soups, pasta, shrimp, steak, chicken. etc
I think there is less cooking in general. Much more eating out, and pre-made meals at home. Since our idea of gender roles is changing and its acceptable for men to cook this adds to the effect too. So yeah, gender roles mainly. Girls don't have to cook, so they won't unless they want to. I love it, I make fancy dinners 3-4 times a week, and my man cooks 3-4 times a month and makes an awesome meal too.
not all women cook cause they werent taught to take care of their men...im not saying a womans place is in the kitchen...however since the begaining of time women have been the ones who cook...an men if thts the way you want it then you should be the bread winner an tha little lady should take care of the house...
I love to cook and I cook all of the time, I prefer it. I also think that gender roles are changing but, there are many women who enjoy traditional gender roles. I am 22 and no where near thinking about marriage and what-have-you. BUT when I do "grow up" I have no problem with cooking, doing laundry, ect. AS LONG as the man doesn't mind offering when I don't feel like it :P
Im 17 and I cook -_- mainly cause my parents refuse to cook for me lol, but I can defiantly cook. I like being able to cook for other people, it makes me feel satisfied that they have enjoyed things, plus I also find cooking enjoyable :) Though I wouldn't know how to cook meat I' m vegetarian, which makes me feel bad because my boyfriend loves meat, and I just can't bring myself to cook it :( he eats veggie for me though :D :) xXx
oh... unlike the girls below sayin how they can cook I truthfully can't cook for sh*t... my food either turns out extremely burnt or extremely tasteless... or both... so I'm not gonna embarrass myself by attempting.. I gave up on the dream of being a good cook a LONG time ago...
I love to cook! If a girl likes to cook as well that is great we can make food together which is really fun! If she doesn't like to cook it's not as great but it can still be nice because I know she is enjoying something from me she doesn't know how to do herself so I'm giving her something special.
your first two updates sound really old fashioned and a little sexist. just saying. But then again, there are old fashioned women out there that will love to cook for you and be your mama.
Women aren't cooking because of the stupid ass feminist movement! I'm not saying that women can't do anything, but just because you want to be independent(at least until things get too tough for you and you break down) doesn't mean you can't cook or that it's sexist to cook. Look, there are things that women are better at than men in most cases... Cooking IS ONE OF THEM! So, stop being so stubborn women and just freaking cook.
My boyfriend claims he can't cook and the only thing he knows how to do is boil water for pasta. I don't know if that is his excuse not to cook or if he's being honest. I know it's very likely that it could be both. I've cooked a few meals for him over that past two years and I've tried to get him in the kitchen to help me, but all he does is watch me.
They used to say, "A way to a man's heart is through his stomach." But that doesn't seem to be the case anymore, instead it's "A way to a man's heart is through his d***." As times have changed, men have changed. They don't care about cooking, cleaning, they care about good looks & sexual skill.
you are actually completely wrong... unfortunately.
Guys have always cared about sex, but the way to keep a man around and get him to marry you is with the cooking.
Any girl can give a guy sex you know.
Yes, the sex can range from terrible to miraculous...
But with cooking, it can range from nothing to miraculous. And the nothing usually costs the guy money or himself cooking.
It sounds like you just do not cook and think guys just want to use sex.
Your right, many women do not cook anymore. Come to think of it, many women do not do ANY of the things that they traditionally did in the past
What's funny is that they all still expect a male-breadwinner. They will still leave men if he doesn't make enough money. Pure hypocrisy
I love cooking and am an amazing cook.. but actually I don't like to mention this because men get a bit *too excited* that I'm going to be their cook forever...My excellent cooking skills have been taken advantage of! how many times I have been in a relationship where I'm cooking all the time!?! Do you know how upsetting that is?! lol I'm more than just your cookin mama.
It would nice to meet a guy who is good at cooking too...so at least the roles are shared...
Men should know how to cook anyway, it's a real winner to see a man who can look after himself too.
Good luck...
Lots of men can cook now. The problem to me appears to be the men are doing all of the cooking.
Shared cooking responsibilities where one person is OK and the other is great is the best situation.
Besides, the great person can teach the OK person!
But from what I see, many woman do not know how to or CARE to learn how to cook.
My sister's husband cooks because she is so busy with the kids.
Men need to realize that they need to contribute to the homemaking. Cooking helps a whole lot.
But I also can't figure out why women aren't cooking. I cook from scratch because I think it's easier. I don't know why so many women are fixing prepared foods, etc.
Yes, I think both genders should help cooking. My problem is when men help with cooking and women do not.
Its not that I won't cook, its just that I am terrible at it...so probably not a good idea to eat what I cook, you might end up not coming back from it...lol
Although I make a damn good cheese sandwich!...ha ha ha...
if you practice cooking you will get better, just like everything else in life.
nah, I tend to set the kitchen on fire...no, I'm not too bad really, I just don't enjoy cooking.
feminism didn't cause people to do anything. People created feminism, just saying.. I saw it mentioned. Women can cook or not cook if you want to be with someone who cooks then don't get involved with someone who can't.
So you believe not everyone should know how to cook?
That is like saying not everyone should think about attending school, or getting a job, or bathing regularly or shaving. making food for yourself, or your family seems to be a basic human principle.
If nobody ever wanted to learn how to cook at the beginning of mankind, we would have become extinct really quick.
So, then if I cook, and I have a job and I provide for everyone, does that mean I get to pick qualities I want in a girl? nope.
I never said people shouldn't know HOW I said it should not be expected as a womans job. Your post doesn't say why don't people know how, your post asked why women are not cooking for men anymore, its a big difference, stop assuming I'm saying things I'm not saying, YOU made it a gender issue , so don't pretend this has anything to do with self preservation, life skills, or general competency,
I want to know why women do not put cooking as an important quality anymore. For themselves OR others. I do not mean that women should cook for men.
i did cooking because it was necessary for survival not as part of me as a package. it was never something I thought of as pat of me, just something I did on a as needed basis,
exactly...cooking should be part of a need basis.
Unfortunately, many girls will rely on a man to either cook for them or take them out to dinner. That is crap! Everyone should at some point learn to cook so they can learn to take care of themselves.
I guess I imagine if a person cannot cook that might just be ONE of the ways that they cannot take care of themselves.
Wel OK I take care of myself & I don't waste money going out to eat. So I'm not familiar with this trend.. yea sure in general everyone should be competent & bot be lazy,
You should probably educate yourself a little more. Or at least try not to come off as ignorant. It's about as unattractive as a girl not being able to "cook a actual piece of meat extremely well", as you would say.
I am being friendly.
You might just be taking it personally because you cannot cook?
no probably more because I just finished writing an exam on gender stereotyping today haha
Touche'
Well I guess I should not expect my lady to cook for me every night if I don't come back home shirtless all rugged with an axe and firewood in hand...
Ok I can't possibly be the only one who loves to cook. Yeah I might still be in high school but I cook at least three nights a week and I know when I'm living on my own I'm cooking every single day. I'd much rather be given the ingredients and make it myself than have a guy try to impress me by making it for me or if they have to they can help me in the kitchen if they can keep up. Ugh am I really that crazy?