Sorry, another NC question. My ex broke up with me 3 months ago (some of you know my story, sorry for asking lots of questions). The longest we went during that time with NC was 3 weeks, then I broke it. He has told me a week and a half ago that he is happier without me. That he has moved on and that I should move on without him. He said we will never be together again.
So, since that conversation, I've gone back to NC. It's been 1 week, 3 days. I know NC is to help you move on, but it can also help get your ex back. I've been noticing a lot of people posting questions that they went 2-6 months no contact before their ex contacted them.
so the question is...since I do hope my ex will one day realize he made a mistake and come back to me, should I at least give it a few months before losing ALL hope? Any suggestions, advice, stories, examples would be helpful. Or just a yes or no will suffice :) Thanks
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Definitely not, 3 weeks is nothing. People get in touch after 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, even 3 years, it's always different so it's hard to say when and whether your ex will get back in touch. It does happen, I've seen it in quite a few cases where exes get in touch months, even years later, but you shouldn't hold on to that. It may happen, it may not but keep up with the NC because it will help you feel better every day :)
I think if you stick to NC, you will eventually think he won't come back yourself. Keep telling yourself that he wont, and that you don't care if he does. That way, you won't be disappointed either way. I don't mean to seem negative, but it's just from experience. I dated a guy for 8 months and he broke up with me, for at least 4 months I kept thinking he would come back, and when I eventually thought there was no chance, he came back begging. It's true when they say if they are going to come back, they only come back when you have moved on. Right now you have to think about yourself and fixing your broken heart.1
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