So I get approached by quite a few women in bars/clubs. Nearly all of them ALWAYS tell me they just got out of a serious relationship.
Ladies, have you ever had a rebound guy?
For those who have, what initially attracted you to your rebound guy?
And is there any chance that a rebound guy can be long-term relationship material?
I don't understand why these completely random women always approach me right after a serious relationship. I like to pursue some of these women, but I feel like it could turn out poorly for me if I fall for any one of them...
What's the deal?
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they are looking for comfort and stability. they don't want a real relationship with you, they just need someone to fill the void to realize they only THOUGHT they were into you. I'm not trying to be degrading, NONE of this is because of you, its THEIR problem. you can let them talk it out with you and things like that but don't get emotionally attached.
i did this once to a guy without even knowing it and after we broke up I finally realized what happened and I felt so guilty afterward. knowing what really happened I would never do it again.
to answer your question, the reason they are attracted to you is because you seem like a very nice guy. they also subconciously will find traits in you similar/polar to the guy they separated with. depending on the cause of the separation, she will find either of those traits attractive.
WARNING: she most likely will find you attractive, not because you are a good guy but because they see the traits in you that have to do with the good parts of her ex. and could possibly continue their previous relationship they had with the first guy, with you. thus, falling in love with her ex all over again instead of thinking she's falling in love with you.
in the end, it does not turn out pretty so please don't think it is different with you or whoever the woman may be. if she is at a bar and drinking alone, she's obviously stressed about something and when she's talking to you about it then she's definately not over the ex.0