i empathize with how you feel. I have a beautiful dark chocolate younger sister and I would hate it if someone made her feel that way. its sad that society has trained ignorant motherf***ers to criticize you because of your skin color. those fools don't know that melanin is a blessing. its a link that makes you closer to God. it will keep your skin healthy and keep you looking younger for a longer time. but a lot of ignorant asses don't know that, pity for them. most black guys who hate on dark skin girls are ugly themselves. they have internalized self hate on their own race so when they see a very dark skinned black girl, she reminds him too much of his blackness that he's trying to run away from. it has nothing to do with them being "ugly" because lets face it, we all know that an ugly or average light/nonblack girl will get shine from some of these niggas more than a pretty dark girl. so its not YOU its THEM. if you are dark embrace it and love it. there are plenty of women who's confidence shines through and men love it. don't let the loud obnoxious ignorant guys over shadow the guys who do love dark skin women because they are out there. they just don't feel they have to overcompensate so they aren't as loud about their "preferences" as the haters. remember, even though the media hypes redbone girls, they get played and disrespected too. you think a guy who hates on his own color of women will really treat ANY woman with the utmost respect? sure those girls get put in videos but they are also considered groupies and treated like hoes. by the way haven't you noticed how ironic it is that its usually the darkest black men who hate on dark skin women? that should tell you something right there. keep ya head up doll
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Screw them! You are who you are, love it, embrace it and anybody who doesn't like the color of your skin aren't worth your time. No matter who you are, what you look like, somebody gone always have something to say. Even if you're the most beautiful woman in the world people say "she thank she cute". If you're rich people say, "she think she better than everybody else". That's why you can not go through life wondering what other people think or say. Why they may be in the minority, there are guys out there that can appreciate a dark skinned woman. And when you find him I'm sure he'll be worth the wait ;)
Wear sunscreen! There are so many dark skinned black girls, just like yourself, and some guy will, too. Look at all the Next Top Model's that are dark skinned, too. Some of them. The media probably plays up light skinned girls, and red bones and all that, but sweety, they get played, too, and their heartbroken. Nobody gives a f***. Hope I helped.
It's been proven that skin cancer rates are higher in regions where people stay indoors the longest (mostly Arctic regions)
So you either stop caring about your skin and be healthy, or you risk getting skin cancer. Life or death? Hmm which will it be sista?
I love dark skinned girls and imma white guy. Every girl is beautiful in her own way. Just be confident!
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I don’t think most people actually care what skin colour other people have. I think people are worried what others may say,
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i have very pale skin. Normally I date other white guys but once I dated a guy who had quite dark skin, I didn’t think anything of it because I never had any issues when walking down street or anything with my white partners.
we went together to a bar on the weekend, when we were walking down street to find our uber this group of boys from their car started yelling racial slurs at the guy I was dating, this kind of thing kept happening.
I know it’s bad to say but I felt like I was being dragged into the racism against him, I felt I was experiencing it by proxy, I felt I was feeling his embarrassment, feeling his disadvantage. I felt bad for him. But I thought this is such a shit feeling I don’t want to feel this again, it’s just easier for me to date other white guys.
So i did not care what colour skin someone had. But I noticed it was just easier for me to date another white guy. I didn’t have to deal with the stuff I had to deal with, with the other guy.I have vitiligo on my face, imagine how much it sucks for me to go outside and I live in California too. I'm half Spaniard too so imagine the looks I get when I say I'm hispanic.
You know what so the f*** what! Who cares what them guys think, seriously the time will come when you find someone. You need to stop having self hate and realize your beautiful and lucky to have smooth black pearl skin. I hate in the winter and I'm lighter then I'm already am and look yellow, I put a tinted moisturerizer that a shade darker then me on my face so I can look bronze like in the summer time. Be proud hun please I'm tired of black girls feeling unpretty because the color of their skin. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I have a vest friend who get hit on by a lot of guys and she gorgeous dark chocolate.
Yeah my sister's like you, she doesn't like getting a tan but she's actually quite light skinned already. I on the other hand don't care. I'm not gonna let the sun stop me from doing what I want to do, although I won't encourage getting darker by going outside and sunbathing. It's up to you really. I don't believe a few shades lighter or darker will make that much or a difference.
Guys that like girls with lighter skin aren't making excuses, it really is just a preference. Your rant isn't exactly going to change their minds. A lot of guys don't like us, but a lot of guys also do that's just the way it is.Why avoid the sun? If you're that dark already, how much darker can you really get?
Marry me and let's be happy you will forget about your worries.
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