Most guys don't like dark skinned black girls! It's something I've dealt with for a long time now. You can talk about people just having preferances but I think that's just an exscuse some guys use to make it sound OK that they exclude dark skinned girls from their dating possibilities. Lets just be real here. There are some gorgeous dark skinned black girls out there, but there are a lot of guys who don't even give them a chance or check them out because they're dark! I don't mean to make it seem like I'm throwing a pity party because I'm really not. Ever since I started modeling, I've embraced my skin color. It's just frustrating when our own men degrade us because of our dark skin (I want a redbone/yellowbone lighter girl) then it seems like a lot of other guys just aren’t as attracted to us. I thought I was over my color complex, but I'm realziing maybe I'm not. I'm avoiding the sun because I don't want to get too dark :( but that's so self limiting and ignorant. Please help! Give me some advice! What's your opinion?
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i empathize with how you feel. I have a beautiful dark chocolate younger sister and I would hate it if someone made her feel that way. its sad that society has trained ignorant motherf***ers to criticize you because of your skin color. those fools don't know that melanin is a blessing. its a link that makes you closer to God. it will keep your skin healthy and keep you looking younger for a longer time. but a lot of ignorant asses don't know that, pity for them. most black guys who hate on dark skin girls are ugly themselves. they have internalized self hate on their own race so when they see a very dark skinned black girl, she reminds him too much of his blackness that he's trying to run away from. it has nothing to do with them being "ugly" because lets face it, we all know that an ugly or average light/nonblack girl will get shine from some of these niggas more than a pretty dark girl. so its not YOU its THEM. if you are dark embrace it and love it. there are plenty of women who's confidence shines through and men love it. don't let the loud obnoxious ignorant guys over shadow the guys who do love dark skin women because they are out there. they just don't feel they have to overcompensate so they aren't as loud about their "preferences" as the haters. remember, even though the media hypes redbone girls, they get played and disrespected too. you think a guy who hates on his own color of women will really treat ANY woman with the utmost respect? sure those girls get put in videos but they are also considered groupies and treated like hoes. by the way haven't you noticed how ironic it is that its usually the darkest black men who hate on dark skin women? that should tell you something right there. keep ya head up doll2