i am taking my first breakup horribly. I was dumped out of no where because the guy didn't want to be tied down. it was completely random and he has cut me out of his life completely. this happened about a month ago and I still think about it everyday. I stopped eating as much, I'm so bitter, I'm tense, and I feel very self conscious now. like I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone. I don't know if it is normal to feel quite like this. I just am taking this break up so personally. I don't trust guys anymore. I don't know how I am gonna be able to start dating again without feeling as though I'm gonna get dumped again out of no where. moving on isn't helping. I already started hooking up with another guy who I refuse to get feelings for. is this normal? and how do others handle this?
Most Helpful Girl
Honey, first of all, I'm sorry about that. It is completely normal to feel sad and depressed after being dumped. You might start feeling insecure and be on your guard a lot. But if the guy dumped you, it's his lost. He's not worth it. Believe me.
Don't hook up with guys just yet is my suggestion. If you're hooking up with a guy but refuse to get feelings for him, then he might as well be a friend with benefit. He probably is. But it's unfair for the guy and for yourself. If you refuse to get feelings for him, then you are not ready for even just hooking up.
Tips: Wear pretty make up. Wear pretty outfits. Look in the mirror and see how great you are, and how much of a mistake and loss it is for the guy who dumped you. Look presentable and in no time at all people will start to ask you out again. Then you will find a person that is truly for you.
My mom told me this when I first had my break up (which I think is harder since the guy was cheating on me. My first boyfriend. Can you believe it?) Anyways, my mom told me: At this moment, two thousand people in the world are loving you. They just don't know you yet.
You'll find one of the two thousand people, and one of them will treat you well. Forget about this guy and move on. He doesn't deserve you.0