I'm 23 and still single, I'm really worried something is wrong with me?

I've only had one serious boyfriend,that was when I was 19 and it lasted a year.I've two one night stands.I am scared because when I go out with friends guys don't look at me.My friends get all the attention,its so easy for them.I could cry right now.I get told a lot how pretty I am but if that was true I would have a boyfriend,I don't to spend my life alone and die alone.I don;t know what to do


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Actually the fact that you can hold a decent relationship for a whole year shows that you're not so bad. Hell you'd be surprised how low the average seems to be. Also, just because you don't get all the attention, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or that you're not pretty. Also just because you're not pretty doesn't mean you're guaranteed a boyfriend. I happen to think my girlfriend is one of the most beautiful people I've ever met, and she was single for years.

    Look just because nobody picks you up, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. You don't have to spend your whole life waiting. If there's a guy you like, and he hasn't made a move, there could be a thousand different reason why he didn't, but these reasons could easily have nothing to do with you. So rather than wait around for him, perhaps it's time for you to make a few moves of your own. Hell there's a lot of guys that dig that, and you'd probably make their day.

    Look I don't want you to get down, just because you've had bad luck in the past. If your luck is bad, do as I said earlier, and go get them. Make your own luck. At bare minimum try a little more confidence, and get out there and be a little more outgoing. Just do something. Be proactive. Remember that women can make the first moves too.

    Good luck out there.

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What Guys Said 5

  • at least you have experience

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  • better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all

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  • Hey your ahead of me, I'm 23 and the only date I had was sr. Prom. I've never kissed a girl or any of that. I don't know if I'm just clueless at dating or if I'm just ugly and not good enough for anyone.

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    • It really sucks doesn't it.I've decided I'm just ugly and guys aren't attracted to me

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    • lol we should totally do that!

    • And well have cookies :) at least then we could see if we're as unatractive as we feel or if it's something else keeping us single.

  • wow women can be extremely shallow. look at all this neediness and desperation... .

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  • I'm 23, and I have never had a girlfriend. I've only been on like one date, and it was a complete failure, I couldn't talk to her easily at all, it was extremely awkward, and sh*tty. lol It's not the end of the world. I mean.. were still young yet, I've switched mentally, and I'm focusing on becoming successful, cause I think once I reach that point, girls will come easily to me. lol

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What Girls Said 3

  • There is nothing wrong with you! I"m 27 and have never been in a relationship, if that makes you feel better...

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  • I have the same issue. Except I have always been the single one. I used to worry about it so much, let it eat away my self-esteem. If you need some support here is my blog: abedfortwo. com. There you can read all my experiences, I hope it can help you with your worries a little bit. The is nothing wrong with you, I know that much already.

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  • Aww, big hugs! That's probably not the most helpful thing ever - but a hug never hurts!

    I wouldn't worry, everyone finds the "one" at different points. At 21, some of my friends have moved in with their partners and have a baby on the way (scary, much!), others are still single and a few more have boyfriends (serious or not).

    Don't worry about meeting a guy yet.. Do you really want to settle for someone just because you can be with them now, when Mr Perfect might be just around the corner? Personally, I'd rather wait until I meet someone amazing.. Which I'm sure you will at some point. Be it in three months or three years..

    But until you find him, have fun being single! It certainly has its perks.. And lots of girlie nights out are in order!

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