I think you should follow the laws of consent to make sure you aren't imprisoned for statutory rape.
I think it says a lot, generally, about older men who go after high school girls. However, it isn't as big a deal if he is barely out of high school himself, like 18/19. Also depends on how young. If she's 17/18, I'm less likely to shake my head than if she is 16 or under. It's still frowned upon though.
Regardless, as long as laws about the age of consent are followed, that's your business. I'm not in high school, happy about it, and who you date isn't really high on my priority list.
And the whole "girls mature faster" thing is such a lazy, piss poor argument. Depends on your standards of maturity and what you think of what you hear that term as well. I knew a ton of immature, stupid girls in high school, and I still know women like that today. I also know a lot of stupid, immature men my age and I'm 22. Especially the ones I see going for high school girls. Also a lot of the time they have serious preconceived notions and try to manipulate the younger girls. When we were seniors, a friend of mine was going out with a much older guy. They were together for a couple years and when they broke up, she told me he was kind of abusive and the things she explained about his behavior sounded weird. A while after they had already broken up, he sent her emails. She blocked his email and made another email to send her a final letter, mainly talking about how great he was and how she couldn't see that and is missing out. I was like, save this sh*t because your next stop may be legal problems and a restraining order. To make matters even worse and more creepy, he was her brothers best friend and watched her grow up. So f***ing creepy.
When I was in high school, I was usually more mature than most girls and I noticed the girls who went out with older guys were often not mature, thought it was cool that they were dating older guys and thought it was impressive that their boyfriends had money or cars and could get them liquor, several of them were the quiet, doormat types (like my friend I just mentioned), etc. I was never really impressed by it, but some other girls in school thought they were cool for it. Just observations, not saying all girls who go out with older men are that way. I'm sure a few genuinely connect with people. I still think child-adult relationships aren't the greatest ideas. However, our society and legal structure influences our ideas about what is right and wrong. You have to deal with that or build a time machine and go crazy on the 15 year olds in centuries past. Good luck to ya.
Do what you want, its your life. However, her parents may not like it and may try to f*** you up legally. My parents definitely would. They don't even like the idea of me dating older men and I'm an adult.
As a high school girl I don't see anything wrong with it asking as the girl is at least 16/17 and the age difference is no bigger than 5 years, I think it has to do with both people's level of maturity there are lots of 20 something year old that behave like teenagers and vice versa. There isn't anything wrong with it, it just has a social stigma I know 18 year olds in high school dating 19 year olds out of school and for some reason even that is seen as a no no. I would date an older guy but I would constantly worry about my lack of experience of being out in the world and being more independent, I think that could cause communication issues but I wouldn't know. I feel like the type of girls people are talking about in the answers is the type of girl that would still be just a clueless out of school as they would be in it.
High school girls are still immature. Not all of them but still. Most of those girls still haven't really gotten out and experienced the real world yet, they probably haven't dated that much / outside of their own school. The seniors and such are about to gain some independence but they're still young and stuff.
I don't know I've seen guys at college with high school girls and just yeah.. they usually seem kinda clueless. And you know why those guys are with them (I mean they freaking tell you about it).
I don't know if I agree with the commonly accepted "girls mature faster then boys" line. I think they mature differently. A teenage girls wants and desires may align better with a fully grown adults but her mental facilities and ways of coping do not.
I wouldn't date a girl in high school, but for someone else I wouldn't outright condemn it. It really depends on the older person and their personality. The high school girl is going to be highly susceptible to pressure and that would give the older more experienced man more control. Control he can use in a negative way if he so chooses.
For me, it really comes down to the older mans maturity, not the younger girls.
People cling to that saying for all the wrong (or unknown) reasons. The simple answer is, you're in separate stages of your lives which puts you on different levels. Girls don't mature any faster if they don't experience things that also mature boys.
You had more of these life experiences, while a high school girl has much different priorities and things going on in her life. Do what you want, but just don't be surprised if you're on separate pages and don't click like you thought you would.
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Girls may mature faster emotionally, but life experience has a lot to do with it. It's not so much the amount of years separating the two of you, but the stage of life you've been in/through. A college guy dating a high school girl (unless there is one year separation and they dated prior to him getting in college), is a horrible idea. The rules change, the intentions change. The high school girls are no where near prepared to play on the same field with him. They will probably get hurt. Not because the guy is intentionally trying to take advantage of her (most of the time), but he's in a different place than her.
Not to mention, it's just hard. She's still at home with mom and dad most likely, with a bunch of young high school friends, not being an adult yet. Having a curfew, still need a permission slip. He is not. In my opinion it's better to wait for her to graduate.
Girls in high school are on a very different life and social situation. Making the jump from high school to college or high school to work force is HUGE.
Part of the maturity factor you are asking about is due to those life changes.
A girl in high school, living with her parents, having dinner with her parents, and having her parents check if she is doing her homework is NOT in the same maturity, responsibility and freedom level as afterward.
Yes, they may appear more mature, but that is because they act mature, not because they are really as mature as they want to appear.
btw, I remember the hottest girls in my high school were always dating older guys. These older guys were always the most douchy and VERY immature guys possible.
I hate when guys say "girls mature faster" its just as excuse to date younger girls. At 18-24 you are at a different place in life then girls who are 14-18. Its completely wrong to have a relationship with a child in high school. Guys date younger girls because they are naive, and easy to manipulate. Get a girl you own age and don't be desperate
Why would you go back to high school to date someone? I understand if you were already dating her (for example, my boyfriend was a junior when I was a freshman and when I was 17 he was 19-20 because of it) but if you just decide to date a high schooler that's kinda weird. Nevertheless, if it's legal I guess it's okay. I don't think that you should date anyone more than 3 years younger than you. I don't think that it's necessarily "wrong" just super weird and slightly creepy if you just find a random high schooler and decide to date her. However, like I said if you've known her for a while and developed a relationship that's fine
I have a relationship that's like something out of a fairytale with a sophomore in college, and I'm a senior in high school. We're almost three years apart but only two grades apart. I know quite a few girls with healthy, successful relationships with older guys or ones in college.
I think it depends on the age. It has nothing to do what grade she is in but the age difference.
I don't think their should be more than a two year difference in age when you are young.
I don't think dating a high school girl is wrong as long as she isn't too young.
well you getting arrested possibly? I don't know how old she is, usually they have to be 17 or 18. Well she might not want you arrested but her parents might feel differently.. it's not worth it. You two are on different pages of your lives as well. She thinks it's cool to date an older man etc etc. high school girls usually aren't long-term type.. if that's what you want to deal with go a head.
dude, only after real life experience do you actually learn that comes from time, "maturity" is more of a behavior but lack by far the true answers, think of it this way, don't hunt a sardine with a harpoon...
as long as she's 18 and over. but generally life experiences come with time. so she might be sexually mature, but working, taking care of herself, and paying for her own things is not something she understands.
The girls that date older guys tend to be LESS mature than their peers who date guys the same age. Older guys pick girls like this because they are impressionable and easy to manipulate.
It's not wrong, just inadvisable, since high school is closely associated with childhood.
I would say 18, post graduation, is the ideal age for girls to date older guys.
the aboslute minimum is 16 and you are pulling teeth with that age
i find it like you can't get anyone and have to go steal girls... I went out with a senor when I was a freshman and she was top ten hottest girls at school scenario is reversed and we are completely different animals ;)
As long as she is of age of consent, and you feel she is VERY mature for her age, it MAY work, but is still a long shot.
I don't think it's wrong...as long as she's 18 and above.
don't do anything illegal and your fine.. I think around 5 years older is ok..
Girls mature faster? Are you kidding? That's just something girls say that they learned from their mothers
Of course it's wrong enough said,
No. And I think the laws need to be updated.
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