What if you met someone and they were perfect for you but they liked to smoke a lot of pot but are high functioning in that they get great marks in the sciences at university, have a good job and it doesn't really pose any negative effects for them as they do homework and regular things while stoned.
Would you date them?
Would you try to change them?
Would it be a deal breaker and you would walk away?
(before you rant on and on about how "pot is bad" I'll tell you that A LOT more people than you think get stoned ALL THE TIME! People are absolutely shocked to hear I am one although I make an effort not to let anyone know who is against it. The people who get the top marks in the sciences at my uni are all hardcore stoners and we all get stoned together!)
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In all honesty, I could only be friends with this person. I liked a guy who smoked a lot and I knew this and I hated it. I don't care if everyone gets stoned "ALL THE TIME" because that doesn't make it right nor does it make it fun for me to kiss a guy who smokes when I don't. See, if I smoked, it'd be different but I don't and even though he's still a smart kid, that doesn't make him more attractive. It's unattractive to see someone who I care about, slowly killing themselves by smoking to get "high." It isn't an admirable quality in my book, but it doesn't mean I can't be friends with someone who smokes, I just don't like it. To me, it signals someone who doesn't know how to enjoy life without getting high and although assumptions are bad, I think it's stupid to do it int he first place. Now, changing them is a different story. You can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed, simple as that. I would tell them what I thought of their situation but other than that, they can do whatever they want to themselves, it's their life, not mine.0