He postponed our date - Should I follow up first?
I am generally quite reserved, but when I want something or someone, I am quite bold. I was flirting with a beautiful man (younger than me) and all... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
I think he flaked. The reason of "family trauma" is a very generalized statement that could be sensitive enough to have you not probe for more info yet serious sounding enough that you would understand and not be too let down regardless of what you had planned. I mean how selfish would you seem to not care about his family situation and were still pissed you weren't going out. I think using that reason is a trump card that keeps you from asking a lot of questions.
I would keep a very loose line of contact and see if he brings up the date later. If you work with him you don't want to have some falling out and some everlasting awkwardness at work. Makes for a rotten every day situation.
Wishing you the best.
What Guys Said 9
Family trauma could make him unavailable for romancing for quite some time. He might have to deal with a lot of issues that are stressful for weeks. Don't criticize him; after all, he told you the truth about it, and when he says he'll be in touch, it means he won't be in touch for a while! That's why he didn't set another date; he would have been leading you on to do that, since he knows there's a good chance he would't be available, physcially or emotionally, at that time either.
Not because he doesn't like you, but because of his family situation.
to update: Honestly their could be any reason for it, maybe he chickened out and didn't want to go. It's hard to say and the only one who will know is him. I know it's frustrating but that's just part of dating. That really sucks that he did that 2 hours before the date because you probably spent a couple days figuring out what you were going to wear and you probably even went out and bought an outfit. Not every guy takes dating seriously and doesn't think about things like that and how it really hurts the girls feeling when they do that. Like the other person said, don't keep texting him and just wait and see. If Monday or Tuesday rolls around and you haven't heard from him then just consider it a loss.
He just posponed it? DId he set a different date? Really all you can do is wait and see what happens. If a couple more days go by and still no response then just give it up and move on. Be glad it happened before you got to know him too well cause then it's really hard.
Let him make the move. Just don't wait on him forever.
I gotcha. Well that is better if there were some details that made sense.
Keep in contact with him... but not often... and regarding date let he the first to ask.. you just text him normally other than asking about date...
Just wait for him to contact you first
Let him make contact next and make sure you don't come off as desperate or as a pest.
What Girls Said 1
don't keep texting him, hold back and don't contact him again. he might have been blowing you off especially if you are the only one messaging him.
wait for him to contact you, if he likes you he will, but there is a good chance he was blowing you off, sorry but just being honest.
if a guy postpones a date and does not immediately set another date within a day or two at the latest he is likely just blowing you off.