Girls say I'm sweet, but they won't date me?

How come girls say I'm sweet and yet I can't find a date. If I'm so sweet then why aren't any of them wanting to date me? I'm getting tired of this. Girls are so complicated.


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Most Helpful Girl

  • I wish I had the perfect answer for you. Unfortnately, there's not one.

    Just based on the answers on here, it's quite obvious that every chick

    as her own interruption of what it means. I'll tell you what the word

    "sweet" means to me, it's quite simple it means I think that said guy

    is sweet. It's has nothing to do with me not thinking he's attractive

    or that I didn't like his personality or wouldn't date him, if I call you

    "sweet" it's because I think you are, period end of sentence, no hidden

    meaning. Also, if I like a guy, I eventually just tell him. If I feel "it' (whatever

    "it' is), I figure why not just get it out there.

    I know it's scarey, but something I've learned from a friend of mine. Is that

    you have to try and if you fail, take it as a learing experience and try again.

    The girls who say that, could also be shy and waiting for you to make a move (who knows).

    Nobody will say it, but we're all crazy lol. So, don't get too discourage. It will be okay : )

    Also, why women on here insist they don't want a sweet guy (or a guy who's sweet to

    other people), is beyond me. But, as general rule, nobody likes a jackass, so just be yourself.

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What Girls Said 15

  • Why don't you just go find a sweet girl to date then..just sweet and nice. maybe not a good body or face...but she sure is sweet. Women are not that complicated its just how we all work...even men. why is it that men expect so much : good body, fun, pretty face, loves sex, knows how to cool, smart, works, independent, but vulnerable, strong but can depend on the guy at times. And right when a guy doest fit ONE girl's needs its all women? can't women have they're own standards too?

    Men are so stubborn they only want p*rnstar looking, or model like girls, or even just a decent body. If its not that then hasty generalization. THE WORLD IS OVER. lol how about those plain janes?

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  • Have you ever followed up, "You're so sweet!" with "Hey, do you want to go out?" You might just be around the type of girls who don't like to ask guys out or are too shy.

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  • That was just a word for a nice rejection.Some girls don't want to be that direct to avoid hurting the guy's feeling.

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  • Maybe those girls saying that, aren't precisely attracted to "sweet" guys.

    I for example don't like sweet guys. Sure I love for a guy to be sweet with ME, exclusively... but like you say a number of girls say you're sweet, so apparently you're sweet to everyone, I wouldn't date a guy like that either. Do you get what I'm saying?

    Or perhaps they're just not attracted to you physically.

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  • I think they friend zoned you because they aren't attracted to you for some random reason.

    If I was attracted to a guy AND he was sweet I would be head over heels for him.

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  • Aww, I think they friend zoned you cause you are sweet. :)

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  • You have to continue being nice and sweet, but you also need to make them feel desired. Lots of guys think they can bag girls just by being nice and sweet. You *have* to make her feel like she turns you on. It can be subtle, but it is absolutely not optional.

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    • so what are some examples then? I don't don't want to take it too far and have her think of it as harassment.

    • I wrote an entire article on this: link

  • I hate to break it to you but most girls don't like nice guys.

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    • This they all want jerks pisses me off. I don't feel bad for any women in a abusive relationship why should I? They choose to date the a hole over the nice guy. I just point and laugh.

    • maybe those girl who like jerks are jerk as well

  • They are probably not a attracted to you. In more than looks it could be your personality. or they can be hitting that they like you.

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  • You have to be a little more aggressive/assertive to get what you want!

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    • I ask girls out. I frequently go out to places like the grocery store and I'll approach girls I like.

  • I can say a guy is nice and sweet but I may not be physically attracted to him or I may just feel that he is more like a good friend type.

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  • One of my best guy friends is the sweetest guy I know and I'l tell him that but I would never initiate anything with him. Maybe if he was the one to initiate then something would happen. I don't know.

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  • You have to be assertive and aggresive

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  • Maybe you aren't attractive physically.

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  • Just because you're sweet it doesn't automatically make every girl want to date you. There's a lot more to attraction than that, such as personality, experience, appearance, flaws and so on. It's not complicated at all. There needs to be real attraction, or a spark, and most of the time only sweetness won't suffice to get it going. A lot of other factors play a part in a bigger picture.

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What Guys Said 11

  • You need to watch some you tube videos on the subject. Girls don't really want sweet guys. They want guys who are bad ass*s. Most younger girls don't want sweet guys (you will get friend zoned). As they get older, women will eventually like nicer, sweeter guys...

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    • This. If you guys haven't noticed, there are a billion articles on the internet about being a 'nice guy' with some 'douche bag' attributes. Truth is, girls (especially below the age of 25) like unpredictable guys. Would you be into a girl that is indecisive and lets people step all over her? No, a girl that is spontaneous and challenges you is what you'd want.

  • I've been called cute a number of times, but yet no dates or girlfriends. I think sweet is the same thing. Girls will say things all the time and they could either be good or bad in terms of getting a date or not with them. like I'm sure that some girls will say sweet and want to date you, and other would say it to be nice and not put your off.

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  • F.uck that s.hit, my money up, you n.iggas just Honey Nut

    Young Money runnin' s.hit and you n.iggas just runner-ups

    I don't feel I done enough, so I'mma keep on doin' this s.hit

    Lil Tunechi or Young Tuna Fish

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  • sweet isn't the same as funny, charming, interesting, mysterious, exciting, intelligent, sexy, classy, or confident.

    Sweet ranks slightly higher than neutral on the desirability scale for most women.

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  • Because women don't like sweet men.

    You are merely a bi-product of the woman's rights movement and feminism, and your dating success is a casualty.

    Only when a woman is already attracted to a man does she "like" him being sweet. I quote, because women make incorrect but self-serving explanations for things.

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  • You may be a sweet guy because she thinks you are cute. That hoewever does not indicate that she wants to date you. I myself sometimes call other guy cute or sweet, it is usually on the outside judgement. When I said it that does not mean I want to kiss and hug her as I want her to be a girlfriend.

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  • You need game... look up rationalmale online, he can help.

    I kid you not, I had the same problem.

    If sweet is the first adjective that comes to mind when girls tell you what you are, you're doing it wrong... girls don't want sweet guys.

    Of course, all the comments here will say "that's great that you're a sweet guy!" But you have to realize something.

    When girls say, "guys need to be sweet/nicer/loving to date" they're thinking about guys they're attracted to. They're not thinking of what would make a guy attractive--girls prefer to date guys low in sweetness/niceness, etc, but believe that they'd be happier if the guy they were dating had those characteristics. Yet they overwhelmingly prefer guys who aren't "sweet, nice guys."

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  • That's because they all want jerks, douche bags, a holes etc. Think about it if women found nice guys attractive then how come according to you your single? I come off as that nice type in person and I'm very shy. I've been called cute before online but in person nope I get ignored. Word of advice never and I mean never take dating advice from women after all their the ones who say one thing and change the minds two minutes later. Now bring on the hate.

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  • Because girls want to try to play like they're politically correct when they're just as shallow as men.

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  • Stop talking to them, cut them out of your life. If they really give two sh*ts about you they will contact you.

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  • Probably don't find you attractive

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