So, you kind of answered your own question within the question. And in fact, I knew the answer to the question before I even read the body of your text, haha, cause your experience is quite common I think. Extended family always seems to represent some kind of unpleasant no man's land in relationships. Where in fact, the disparate nature of family means that you likely don't have a lot of common with a lot of them, you may indeed positively clash; and yet, familial ties and social expectations means you're sort of obliged to be around them.
No one wants to be around people that make them feel bad. It's that simple. And when people knead our greatest insecurities, and fail to empathise and try to understand; it makes us feel bad. But in an indirect sort of way, they do serve some kind of utility. They're a sort of barometer for where we are with a certain issue. Through personal experience, I can see I'm never going to be a perfect human being, who meets everyone's expectations: no one can. So the afore mentioned kneading helps us see, from the accompanying emotions that arise, the place we are at with respect to a certain issue, whether we need some further work on it. For, if we were to expect complete security, what would our purpose be on this earth? We would not be learning anything, and be in a state of repression, chasing pleasure in a bid to avoid facing the dark aspects of ourselves, which incidentally, is the way a lot of society is.
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Because in a way we are forced to befriend them because their relation. Often we may not really want to be around that person. They are like forced friends lol. It's easy to feel uncomfortable in that situation.
I think you answer your own question - cuz your family members aren't worth having a conversation with if they're putting you down and talking about you! Sometimes, its only because they know us better so feel more comfortable in telling us how they really feel and think (unlike strangers). Oh well, that's your family (we can't pick them, lol) but we can pick who we decide to talk to. Sorry you'd rather it not be them.
yeah its true... i feel the same too
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I think it's because you friends are less emotionally involved in what you do, you can just have an open chat with them and feel relaxed.
To your family you're attached for life so if you screw up there's no way back. And they've known you for such a long time they have expectations. Whereas friends just like you as you are... and even if you'd do something foolish they would probably find it funny but never become mad :-)Less judgement. I'm the same way on a lot of regards. A stranger is a fresh slate. No preconceived notions on who you are.
its because they know you better than strangers so it can feel as though they are judgeing you from past actions and knowing you all your life, strangers dont know you and therefore can't judge
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