Why am I never good enoguh? Why do stranger coworkers feel comfortable criticizing me?

[Anonymous]

there's many guys at my job who feel comfortable telling me what to cange about myself. One guy said i talk too slow and pause too much and he wouldn't wanna date a girl who did that cause she's weird.

Another guy heard me call another guy "bro" and asked why i called him that and said that its better to call men "sir"...

Other guys ganged up on me one day and said i should dress sexy and get my hair done wear makeup and stuff like that. One said someone might ask me out if i came to work in braids one day.

My question boils down to why am i never good enough for people? I try to be very nice and i dont want to criticize others because i think its very rude. Yet with how nice and polite i am, its never enough for anyone. Its like nothing i am or anything i do is not enough.

[Avicenna]

You don't need to get validation from others- if you wait for it from them or actively try to get it from them, you give them power over you that will inevitably be abused. They are taking advantage of your kindness- make it clear you will not tolerate any more harassment on the job.

[Anonymous]

Girl stand up for yourself. Never let people walk all over you for the sake of being polite, especially if you know that their words will only add to your already insecure though process. No way in hell a coworker should feel like it’s ok to talk about you but then again he won’t know he’s offending you if everytime he says some dumb shit you duck your head or laugh along when inside you’re breaking. Words don’t define you, character does.

[jwatson4000]

Tell them ____(insert names) said they have a small dick. That will schutt em up. Just make up a name... doesn't matter.. they will never follow up and ask the person

[Iron_Man]

Stay away from haters

[FEARLESSHERO]

Ignore then. Do your job and clock out