I have a lazy eye, would you date me? Would you even ever get NEAR me?

I have a cute little body, pretty face, and sweet green eyes... yet I'm cross eyed. My right eye won't be looking at where I'm looking at most times. (I'm far from conceited >_>)

I hate it, it makes me feel so ugly ... I blame my eyes for the reason why I don't make a lot of friends and don't get noticed by guys. I mean, I'm pretty but I'm the most pathetically shy girl you'll ever meet. I'm afraid to talk to people (specially dudes) and look them in the eye. I'm scared that they'll notice it and start making fun of me.

In middle school, everyone picked on me, the whole class... the guys used to call me ugly and a freak ... the girls used to play mean pranks on me, they'd make me cry.

I've gotten through three years of high school and managed to not let anyone notice my eye ... I wear reading glasses and have my bangs cover over my eyes.

But cause of it I don't have much friends, I've never dated, I've never kissed anyone, I don't know what it's like to have a best friend.

I wish I could just rip my eye out.

It's gotten to me so bad that I've tried suicide on a daily basis. I can't talk back to people when then yell, I get beat up, I get used, I might be socially awkward, I don't f***ing know.

BUT, I met this guy, I REALLY, REALLY like him, I mean, he's the only guy that's actually tried talking to me. He's into me too. He has no god damn clue that I'm a freak, but he's going to find out that I'm cross eyed eventually.

My question is, would you ever date someone that's cross eyed? Would you be ashamed to be seen next to them? If you were him, and you found this out? Would you hate me? Would you never talk to me again?

I'm scared.


Most Helpful Guy

  • kids are assholes, so forget them. If you got by for 3 years without anyone noticing then it can't be that bad. And if it is really bad then people are probably just ignoring it and are beginning to grow up. I have met really great people who have had lazy eyes. After you are friends with them for awhile you hardly even notice it. You need to focus on what you believe are your best qualities and people will begin to notice them too. If all you are ever focused on is your eye then that is what they will be focused on.

    As you get older you will begin to clearly see the difference between nice people and mean people. Eventually you will find a guy who likes you for you. Just keep smiling and laughing and you will live a better life.


What Guys Said 4

  • Why would he hate you? People don't hate handicapped people. Similar to what NotsoBad said, no one really cares if they haven't said anything to you in three years. More importantly, suicide is never the answer. Everyone has flaws, and we are all embarrassed of them. There are plenty of people who would go out with a pretty girl with a lazy eye. I wouldn't care if I was attracted to her. Don't be scared; everything will be fine.

  • I feel 4 you. I myself have a lazy eye that drifts of to the side and I hate it. I've been with a decent amount of girls they normally never say anything about it. You will def. find a guy that loves you!

    Some people are just strait up mean and you don't want someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. I've been talking to this girl off Face Book and she wants to go meet up 4 a few drinks but I'm scared to...I have been putting her off and feel like an a hole cause of it...I would date a girl with an eye issue. It's the inside that matters...Hottness helps...:)

  • It doesn't matter what people say, people are cruel. You are a person just like the rest of society. If anything it makes you more cute and attractive. Take it as a defining feature that makes you stand head and shoulders above the rest. You're different, you're YOU. Head up, smile and laugh a lot, And to hell with the rest of them


What Girls Said 3

  • yeah i would

  • Having a lazy eye is not that big a deal. Kids in school will make fun of anyone that shows an emotional weakness. It's not about the eye, it's about your feelings - that's the real reason they made fun of you.

    A guy who is talking to you and likes you is not gonna care if you have a lazy eye. If someone actually cares about that, they are the one with the problem.

  • i don't think your eye has anything to do with it..its what's inside that matters..if he really likes you he'll look past your looks if he can't get over it..its not worth even getting upset you'll find someone soon remeber patience is the key:)