(I mean she responds quick or slow)
So we hit it off quickly when we sat down, we talked for 2 and half hours and you know I got her flowers (which she really appreciated), walked her to her car and she was open for a hug. She twirled her hair, leaned in a lot, eye contact and smiled a lot, laughed too. She gets home and texts me she's safe and I say I'm glad and that I had fun. I was going to leave it at that and wait to ask her out again.
However she intiated and said she had fun and said she'd be down for another date with a smiley that same night. Now we've exchanged a few snaps and texts since then. I'm trying to give her space because she's busy this weekend. So she wants to plan for the following-next weekend. Cool. But she responds between quick and has also explained she was either busy or with friends (I told her she didn't have to explain herself and she said she didn't want me to feel like she was ghosting or disinterested) but I notice she's active but hasn't responded. Although this isn't big deal, I just am curious if I did something, I don't double text, I flirt a little and compliment her intelligence and skills.
But sometimes she replies so quickly then dead and as I said before to her; she has no reason to explain herself to me. Her communication is awesome at times but right now, I feel weird that she hasn't responded in 5+ hours. Hey we all have things and are busy, lazy, picky and choosey, I just am overthinking right?
She wouldn't want a second date and have a streak with me if she wasn't totally uninterested? It's been a while since I've been in a relationship and the last one I was with; well she would freak out if I didn't respond instantly or within a time frame. It's just foreign feeling to be able to do more things for myself.
I have hobbies, I worked, went to the gym, read a few chapters, yet nothing still.
Maybe I'm overthinking, my bad, but opinions would be nice, thank you. Or advice. TIA
What Girls Said
Perhaps that she is the kind of person that does not sleep with her smartphone and has a life besides this piece of equipment.
I check my phone twice a day, mornings and evenings and otherwise, it rests in a corner. I am not addicted or dependent on my phone and perhaps she is the same as me. It is a very bad habit to permanently check for messages and to be at disposition 24/7. People don't know anymore what it is not to be independent anymore. It is the disease of the 21st. century.
She will answer when she feels like doing it but it seems that you take it very personal if she does not give you an instantaneous reply. Learn to relax and wait for things to happen.
You are definitely overthinking.
I figured I was overthinking as she still responds, just hours apart which is fine. I just didn't know if it was that normal to respond for that long in between due to my history with my past relationships and needing to respond so quickly. It usually meant she was upset or I said something if the responses were delayed previously. Clearly she isn't like that and has a life as I do, it's just anxiety lol
More texting fails.
You want to date but have no clue on how to communicate.
I do communicate, it's just how can I? If communication has to be reciprocated.