Don't know 'bout the other fellas, but this is what I look for- 1. Realistic expectations. We live in a society dominated by fantasy and the outrageous. The so-called "reality show" craze feeds into it. Whether it's guys doing dumb stunts (a la Jackass), or girls doing dumb things (Charm School, Sweet 16), lotsa folk are living fantasies, and wonder why they don't work. Now why I want a lady with realistic expectations? Because she is set in who she is, she isn't wanting some dude that don't exist, she don't have delusions of grandeur dancing in her head- I've dated a few ladies like that, and they are very irritating at best. A girl with realistic expectations is what a man wants and needs. 2. Passion for life. No man wants some diva that's so self-absorbed he can't do anything with. Also, what good would some chick with no fire do a guy like me? I hate them weak-minded girls (them typa chicks usually have a lotta baggage, something I can do without)- girls with no passion or direction in life usually are the "bad boys" wet dream- they are easily duped, and molded by insecure control freaks that can't stand next to a real woman. Most guys love women with some fire (this one LOVES women who are independent, fiery, and very passionate- in the bedroom and in life in general), some backbone, some courage- and are very demonstrative and very secure in what they believe in/who they are 3. Loyalty/Faithfulness. In this "dog-eat-dog" world, loyalty is usually overlooked. Kinda like with us dudes, that old saying of "Nice Guys Finish Last" comes to mind. But, a man wants a ride-or-die chick- one that he knows will be with him to the end if need be. Too many guys just wanna "hit it and quit it"- but a real man (one that displays a backbone and stands and acts as a man, and takes NO CRAP off anyone, including his girl) wants a lady such as this. I been trying to find one myself- that's why I'm single now. tired of the Divas, the crazy/damaged chicks, and them gulz that just WANT to be abused/taken advantage of. Hope this helps ya.