Don't know if I posted this in the correct category so I'm reposting...
I'm 24 I've never dated nor have sex with a girl mainly because I'm very self conscience about my body...
I grew up where there wasn't any control in the house when it came to food so I was overweight all the time to a point where I got to 280 pounds when I was in my teens...
then I decided to diet and went down to 180lbs but thing is I look pretty good with clothes on and I'm also good looking to be honest but I still have a big freaking stomach when my clothes comes off and I'm embarassed about it.
I know they say it's what's on the inside that counts but I find that a big lame excuse people say when they are insecure because everyone seems attracted to a good body...
my question is if you were in my shoes would it stop you from dating?
would a woman feel grossed out if we were to have sex and leave in the middle of it?
Would you ladies Truly and honestly all BS aside would you have sex with someone that had a body like this?
The thought of a woman taking my shirt off while making out before having sex freaks me out because of my insecurity... yet I feel like I'm getting way to old to continue living like this what should I do?
BTW I'm currently in the gym 5 days a week and following a clean diet to lower my body fat while increasing my muscle mass so in the end I should look much better than this but perhaps unless I go under the knife (which I don't intend to do) I'll probably never have a six pack or a well toned body :(
Couldn't see the links, but to answer your question - I'd date a guy like that in a heartbeat! About 1/3 of all the crushes I've had, etc. have actually been on bigger guys. Anyways, needless to say a big stomach wouldn't turn me off. While I'm pretty healthy myself, I could definitely do with a few more crunches at the gym but I'm really quite happy with how I look. I'm human and my body's admittedly not perfect, and I'd never expect my guy's body to be perfect either. It's completely okay that you have worries about your appearance (or stomach in particular), but it's important to remember that most of the population does too in regards to something (or even everything) about how they look, even the people you probably wouldn't expect. And at the end of the day I think it's crucial to recognize that a quality girl wouldn't be dating you or commit to being romantically involved with you if she didn't find you attractive (both physically and intellectually). Again though, I can only speak from personal perspective and for me, your body wouldn't be a problem, really. But congrats on the weight loss you've achieved and best of luck with reaching your future fitness goals :)
I think you'll be fine once you meet a girl that makes you feel good about your body, but that can never happen if you don't let any girls come close to you because you're self conscience.
My boyfriend is exactly like you. He's not fat, but he was and he gets self conscience about his body, but I make sure to tell him to stop being so selfish with his lushes body and then he learns to relax and go with the flow. I think you should find a nice girl that you connect with on a intelligence/emotional level and then allow the sexuality to play out. It's taking a risk with your feelings, but it's worth it. :)
To be honest? No, I wouldn't. Why? Because you are too insecure. I have dated a guy with a similar body type as yours. He did not ever want to get completely naked when we were intimate. It really upset me and made me angry. I'm sorry but insecure men are too much work for me. I can't take them not being completely open like I am whenever I am in a relationship. I don't care what it is if you can't be open to me in almost every aspect of our relationship (being comfortable with your body) then no I couldn't and wouldn't date you.
Work on your self if you feel so insecure. Get your body to the best physical fitness it can possibly reach if you are so insecure about it. And PLEASE...don't get into a relationship until you do. Or at least come to love your self and your body and don't give a sh*t what others think about it. But that's a whole lot easier said than done.
If you had the confidence, yes. A girl wants a guy that is confident in his own skin. Rock what you got. ha ha I would sleep with you if you were confident and we liked each other. why not? plus you're working on it. I would give you a shot.
1. ) my question is if you were in my shoes would it stop you from dating?
I have insecurities myself so yeah, I can honestly say that I have allowed my insecurities keep me from dating.
2.) would a woman feel grossed out if we were to have sex and leave in the middle of it?
You should know that when you get to the point where the woman feels safe and attached enough to have sex with you- nothing can make her leave. :)
3. ) Would you ladies Truly and honestly all BS aside would you have sex with someone that had a body like this?
I can't see the links but what I know is:
If it's just a casual one-night stand thing, you will only attract shallow girls who will get turned off by anything.
But if it's a relationship type, girls will look past any imperfections you have.
Keep working on it man, I dropped from 290 to 175 and it took a while/steady weightlifting to tighten back up. Back up to 200 now where I'm pretty comfortable (I'm 6'5 so it works). Just watch your diet and hit the gym. I remember how gross I thought I looked when my stomach was kinda saggy, but now the only way to tell is if I push it out, get in plank and violently jiggy, aka its gone haha. But yeah it'll disappear if you keep working.