Don't know if I posted this in the correct category so I'm reposting...
I'm 24 I've never dated nor have sex with a girl mainly because I'm very self conscience about my body...
I grew up where there wasn't any control in the house when it came to food so I was overweight all the time to a point where I got to 280 pounds when I was in my teens...
then I decided to diet and went down to 180lbs but thing is I look pretty good with clothes on and I'm also good looking to be honest but I still have a big freaking stomach when my clothes comes off and I'm embarassed about it.
I know they say it's what's on the inside that counts but I find that a big lame excuse people say when they are insecure because everyone seems attracted to a good body...
my question is if you were in my shoes would it stop you from dating?
would a woman feel grossed out if we were to have sex and leave in the middle of it?
Would you ladies Truly and honestly all BS aside would you have sex with someone that had a body like this?
The thought of a woman taking my shirt off while making out before having sex freaks me out because of my insecurity... yet I feel like I'm getting way to old to continue living like this what should I do?
BTW I'm currently in the gym 5 days a week and following a clean diet to lower my body fat while increasing my muscle mass so in the end I should look much better than this but perhaps unless I go under the knife (which I don't intend to do) I'll probably never have a six pack or a well toned body :(
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Couldn't see the links, but to answer your question - I'd date a guy like that in a heartbeat! About 1/3 of all the crushes I've had, etc. have actually been on bigger guys. Anyways, needless to say a big stomach wouldn't turn me off. While I'm pretty healthy myself, I could definitely do with a few more crunches at the gym but I'm really quite happy with how I look. I'm human and my body's admittedly not perfect, and I'd never expect my guy's body to be perfect either. It's completely okay that you have worries about your appearance (or stomach in particular), but it's important to remember that most of the population does too in regards to something (or even everything) about how they look, even the people you probably wouldn't expect. And at the end of the day I think it's crucial to recognize that a quality girl wouldn't be dating you or commit to being romantically involved with you if she didn't find you attractive (both physically and intellectually). Again though, I can only speak from personal perspective and for me, your body wouldn't be a problem, really. But congrats on the weight loss you've achieved and best of luck with reaching your future fitness goals :)3