I’ve been both unattractive and attractive in my dating life. Unattractive as a teen, told I was very attractive in my 20s and now to be realistic semi-attractive being 41 (I keep myself in shape and got all my hair.).
When I was in prime I know without a doubt women cared about looks but at the same time it was never an ace hole in one guarantee. I might of got phone numbers effortlessly but it didn’t guarantee a date nor guarantee sex with any girl I wanted. It didn’t matter if I was a 9 women still expected me to put forth effort in being always funny, charming and bold. If I wasn’t on my A game they would lose interest quickly unless we had instant chemistry (which is rarely the case) I wasn’t always approaching model attractive women back then either. Even semi attractive to slightly attractive women had shot me down at times back then.
But I know a good looking woman who was my prime counterpart could without doubt get 99 out 100 guys she wanted. Even if she just wanted relationships most guy would make some sort of an effort. A game or not her personality would be much lesser issue for her.
So now that I am older and am now no longer “baby faced” I noticed some women were extra nasty to me if they didn’t find me physically attractive. I have more self awareness of my approaches too. I notice their body language, facial expressions and tone of voice better than I did at 25. Still I’ve gotten some very rude ejections and expressions in the last 5 years.
However I know my equal female counterpart now would suffer less rudeness if she got shot down. I rarely see men acting over the top rude to women they don’t find attractive that like them. Even in really inappropriate situations (e. g. an overweight drunk girl hitting on very fit/good looking guy at a bar) she might get ignored/rejected but not given a “you creep” death stares even though some women occasionally deserve it. .
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That's life in the U. S.. Modern women overall have been conditioned to see men as subhuman due to feminism, hints the lack of common decency that they portray to men. It's one of those things we have to adapt to and be ready to defend ourselves from. Allowing that behavior to continue is the reason It's rampant. So it's important to not to get into a shouting match with rude women, not to take it personally, and to respect yourself enough to both correct the behavior, and then remove your attention.
Sounds good. At 47, as I’ve seen with work peers, 20-25 year olds start pursuing them.
I've always thought women were more picky.
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