Its just bizzare. So many girls wanting to be fashion model thin when that is clearly the opposite of what most men are into- compare the models you see in magazines aimed at men to those in fashion magazines...much more womenly.
True women don't do everything with their looks to try and attract men (hence the shoe thing, conservative Muslim women often being into beauty stuff, etc...) and a lot of it is for themselves but...its just crazy nonetheless.
Yeah. I'm saying nothing new here, but still, the question stands
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When I was overweight, people treated me one of two ways - either they would ignore me, or bully me. There was no in-between. I was constantly tortured, by men, women, family, strangers in stores, etc. When I would express the desire to start dating, my mom would immediately say "Well, get on the program, lose that weight and you can." Sometimes, she'd call me "atrocious" and tell me I was disgusting and that's why I didn't have any friends. Guys at school would ask me out, and when I'd say yes, they'd start laughing with their friends saying things like "Who would want a fat cow like you? Ha ha!" I was taught (and brainwashed) from day one to think that people would never give a person that wasn't skinny the time of day, more less love them. I was taught if I wanted to be treated like a person, I'd have to be skinny.
After I lost the weight, I finally started dating. Guys would ask why I had stretch marks and tell me how gross it was. They'd ask why I didn't have a flat stomach and why my boobs weren't as perky. One used to show me pictures of his ex-girlfriends and say "That's what I usually go for. You're special, because your personality makes up for it." Some guys wanted to know my jean size on the first date, and asked if I wore girdles or push up bras. One guy I dated made me fix a separate meal one time because he didn't want me eating the fattening stuff and gaining weight. Needless to say, none of those relationships lasted long, but it still hurt, especially after all the work I'd done to make myself appealing to men, I still wasn't good enough.
There is an insane amount of pressure coming from everywhere when it comes to how much a woman weighs. We are not born obsessed with it, we are taught that we are nothing if we aren't skinny. It's sick!6