So I was talking to this dude about weight lifting and benching and he's like " ehhh I'd say you can do like 135-145." I was pretty depressed about that because in reality, I can actually rep 205 :(... why is that?
Who cares what people think. There is a big difference between looking strong and being strong. I know a lot of guys who look like their very strong although only train for aesthetics. Typically people have a misconception about physical strength.
Power lifter or lean athlete usually healthier then most gym guys. For example some cross fit guys jerk and press 2x their body weight or squat 2x body weight. That is real strength. That strength come from a variety of things including balance, flexibility, core strength (abdominal and hips)
Don't be depressed some people are a lot stronger then they look .When I was in my teens guys were amazed that I could lift twice my own weight . Was a real embarrassing for some guys because it was more then they could lift .