What does it mean a guy has to put her through emotional roller coaster to make her like you?

[man32]

What does it mean a guy has to put her through emotional roller coaster to make her like you?

[aficionado]

It means that the girl is a self-centered, demanding, sorry excuse for an elitist who thinks so much of herself that she's prefer men to make her feel several emotions, and only then decide if she wants to like them or not. I'd stay far far away from such girls if I were in your shoes.

[man32]

good advise man.. a girl who is full of herself. i ain't good for lifetime biz with her... u are right and I don't know how she is... if she is then i will run toward the nearest exit :)

[aficionado]

Great! You should already be running towards the exit, though! Women who DEMAND guys to do things for them emotionally or financially, should be avoided like plague. Humble people in their right minds (both men and women) would rather enjoy each others' company, without all this unnecessary drama.

[NoblesseOblige]

It's an interesting thing. When one person is naturally hotter, gets bored easily or has more options, this happens naturally. That's what PUA is. It simulates the behaviours of a hot person, basically.

[NoblesseOblige]

It's just when women try this, it seems so wrong. Like, unfeminine.

[man32]

so to make me interesting to her. what shall i do?

[NoblesseOblige]

I wouldn't. Just be yourself. Otherwise, what's the point? Especially true since you want to marry her.

[man32]

fair point man... so let me see

[dominiquois]

No, most hot girls who are stable would be pissed at the HINT of a player. Unstable girls, not so much. They know they are hot and don't have to put up with bs.

[BrunetteNYC]

Meaning play games with her act hot and cold, well just know sometimes these things hurt and then even if she likes you, she will shut down and it can backfire.

[riskygal]

You're a wise women. !!! Very, very true

[BrunetteNYC]

Yeah just happened to me, was crazy about this man, but I could tell he was playing it cool, which only meant he was being about his ego and not caring if he was hurting me. I didn't want to, but I blocked him on my phone. I don't need your response text 14 hours later - later, see ya, lol.

[man32]

see actually on Friday i thought of giving a girl chocolate for celebrating my gold medal i won last weekend in judo. i msgd her i have brought for her.. she said no not required u have it on my behalf... i immediately said. no worries i thought of giving it as a token of appreciation for ur wishes to me. if u appreciate my gesture and not willing to accept it. no issues. then she backtracked saying ok i will get it from u... she then kept asking me some questions for 3-5 mins when we met in person before getting the chocolate from me. she might have thought "oh did we overreacted by getting spooked his gesture?" :P how is that for a roller coaster and reverse pscyhology eh?

[BrunetteNYC]

Yeah but that was a nice gesture... had the guy I liked shown me KINDNESS I would have not felt the need to run away. If a man is caring sometimes it goes a really long way.

[man32]

honestly i dont like doing these things honestly... if she acts like that to me. then i will move on to the next exit. i dont have time for playing games with girls.. if she is truly into me.. i will the best faithful man in town :)

[BrunetteNYC]

Yeah, exactly, just find a way to say that "I hate games and just wanna be myself and want the girl to do the same."

[man32]

i felt she got spooked :) so i retracted and acted as if i dont care if she said no... i am into a girl i am truly into her. i will give my whole soul for her... thats why i am very very calculative before i emotionally open to her.. else i will hurt my heart big time like i went through recently

[man32]

i will tell her generally when we have convos

[BrunetteNYC]

Yeah, I'm also all or nothing with guys - very into them on all levels when I am and intense lol

[man32]

so if a girl backtracks her previous statements like she did... is that means she feels that "oh did we reacted bad for his nice gesture?"

[BrunetteNYC]

Maybe she is scared/hurt before and uncertain? How old is she?

[man32]

around my age

[man32]

27-29

[BrunetteNYC]

I think you should think of one more thing to do and see where it goes...

[man32]

what it is?

[BrunetteNYC]

Find a way to explain about games and see if she changes.

[man32]

i will surely try... but we are not into each other... i see a potential working or available.. she is nice to me.. approaches me in public and speaks and goes out of her way to ask me questions and curious about why i stayed late in office or sitting outside office talking with a friend etc.. i was little bit into overanalyzing the fact she started with a NO and i felt she got spooked.. her body language is like very open never take eyes of me... checks me out in cafeteria etc... let me see

[gingerrr]

It means it's not worth it. She sounds unstable and probably likes playing games.

[man32]

hey hi gingerrr... i was asking this for general knowledge and its not about that girl :P

[gingerrr]

Okie dokie! Just a heads up tho.

[man32]

that girl is cool... i told u about her body language things know... its all positive... this Friday
i thought of giving a girl chocolate for celebrating my gold medal i won last weekend in judo. i msgd her i have brought for her.. she said no not required u have it on my behalf... i immediately said. no worries i thought of giving it as a token of appreciation for ur wishes to me. if u appreciate my gesture and not willing to accept it. no issues. then she backtracked saying ok i will get it from u... she then kept asking me some questions for 3-5 mins when we met in person before getting the chocolate from me. she might have thought "oh did we overreacted by getting spooked his gesture?" :P how is that for a roller coaster and reverse pscyhology eh?

[man32]

i felt she got spooked :) so i retracted and acted as if i dont care if she said no... i am into a girl i am truly into her. i will give my whole soul for her... thats why i am very very calculative before i emotionally open to her.. else i will hurt my heart big time like i went through recently

[man32]

so if a girl backtracks her previous statements like she did... is that means she feels that "oh did we reacted bad for his nice gesture?"

[gingerrr]

She was probably being nice or she thought she overreacted.

[man32]

yea i felt it... am bit getting expertised in reading girls reactions and i can & able to differentiate a girl being nice gesture and into me

[man32]

this time i won't pursue with a hope... if i felt it won't hpn.. i would move to the nearest exit. like when u said she won't change her mind in the past :)

[dominiquois]

Only works for unstable girls. Id get off the damn ride if that were me.

[man32]

well said

[dominiquois]

Thanks ^_^

[NoblesseOblige]

No pics, no care.

[dominiquois]

Okay doke. Just making an observation. :)