When a girl hugs you tight, what does that mean?

[Anonymous]

I was at a party with this girl, and when we were all leaving she came up to give me a hug, but she all of a sudden starting hugging me really tight like she wasn't going to let go. And earlier in the evening she sat down next to me, then got up, stood next to me and was brushing up against my arm for no reason at all. I've asked this girl out, but she isn't ready to date because of a recent bad relationship, and she has a little baby. I've told her that I like her, but she doesn't want to tell me how she feels, yet she flirts with me, and hugs me like I described, not to mention the weird (but awesome) physical contact.

So does she like me? If so, then why won't she tell me?

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The reason I ask about this hug is because it's the most obvious hint that she may like me. There are other things, like flirting/compliments. Recently I noticed that on Facebook, she started adding a lot of my friends...now we have like 13 mutual friends

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

I think she likes you. Why won't she tell you? In this case there are many reasons. If she said she's not ready to date because of her bad relationships and her daughter, then maybe she was telling the truth here. Chances are she hasn't said anything because she figures it will hurt your feelings. Which really makes sense, because regardless of the intent, it always feels like a cruel game or some sort of tease to say to somebody, "I really like you, but I can't date you. I'm just not ready." wouldn't you agree?

There are other possibilities. I think that it's also possible that she, like so many girls out there, still cling to archaic beliefs that they guy MUST make the first move, no exceptions. It's bullshit really but there are still all too many girls that hold tight to this belief like all reality will tear itself apart otherwise. Really though, I don't think that's what's going on here. It really could be the other thing. You never know.

I think if you really want to sort all this out, I think you need to go over to this girl and tell her how you feel if you're interested in dating her. If you like her you need to tell her that. You need to ask her yourself, in a very point blank manner, how she feels about you. I would also suggest telling her the truth about everything. If you're still not sure what all this means, then tell her. If you are very clear about your feelings for her, and don't picture yourself going anywhere, tell her. It's pretty straightforward. You need to be ballsy about it but remember that this is entirely up to her.

Look man I'm rooting for you here. I want you to get the girl, if you want her, but I should level with you, the most you can do here is just put your heart out there and tell her how you feel, and ask her if she feels the same way. From there it's up to you if you want to wait it out. But you never know if she'll come around.

Good luck dude.

[Asker]

Thanks man, appreciate it. I actually did tell her that I liked her, and then I explained that I was curious how she felt about me...but she declined to answer! I don't know what that means, I was expecting her to say that she either felt the same way, or that she doesn't. Now I'm back to square one!

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

I'm checking back on a lot of my old answers like I usually do. I wanted to do a follow up to see if what I told you was at all helpful to you. So did my advice help?

[lissy]

I think she does like you, but she could be worried about a number of things, one of which is most probly being in another bad relationship. Another is probly her baby, as relationships can have a big impact on children. I think she squeezes you when she hugs you because you make her feel protected. There is just something about giving a guy a hug and him just squeezing you/holding you tight, that makes you feel protected and loved.

I think you should give her some time. Just be there for her, support her and show her that you're good with children.

Best Wishes

[Asker]

Thank you, good advice. I'll certainly do that. I just hope I didn't scare her off by telling her that I like her!

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Nice, I'm glad to see I wasn't that far off here.

[lissy]

Just wondering, When ypou told her that you like her were you drunk or sober? cause I had a guy tell me that he loves me, when he was drunk, and I told him I love him too. although there has been no more progrssion.... It also depends on the situation in which you told her that you like her, because women do read into things...

[Asker]

Stone cold sober, lol. You see though, we work together, so since it would have been inappropriate at work, I told her on Facebook chat. She said that she already kind of knew that I liked her.

[lissy]

That could be another reason, relationships with a co-worker can be difficult!

[Asker]

Yeah, you're right. My ex actually works there too...but she works another shift, so it's not an issue. I'm pretty sure she knows, because you know how word gets around. So are you saying that she may like me, but is scared to date me because of all the baggage/potential drama/work related bs? I really just want her to like me...I'm cool with not dating. I like her A LOT, like I can never get her out of my mind...so then I log onto my computer like a jackass and ask these ridiculous questions.

[lissy]

I can totally relate, but the best advice I've been given is to go with the flow and let nature take it's course. I'm not the most patient person in the world, but there's not much else that can be done

[Misz_Giggles101]

i wouldn't trust her. because she could be doing that to get to your other friends. my brother has had that experience with this girl that I knew I never liked in the beinning when I met her. because she did the exact same thing with my brother. she ended up f***ing my brothers friends and getting a really bad STD

[Asker]

I see how you might think that, but I really don't think that's it. I'm a good judge of character, and that is not in her nature. I know for a fact that she doesn't sleep around, and doesn't date. Besides, all my friends are uggos with not very much money, LOL. I'm the most successful out of my group, not to brag, but it's true.

[Misz_Giggles101]

Lol yeah. sorry I was just throwing that story in haha I tried. but like she maybe adding your friends on Facebook because she wants to get connected with you. she can be finding out some information about you from your friends. to find out what you like and like what's your personality

[Asker]

You never know though, you could be dead on with that story, haha. I guess time will tell. Thanks for the help! :)