When a girl hugs you tight, what does that mean?
I was at a party with this girl, and when we were all leaving she came up to give me a hug, but she all of a sudden starting hugging me really tight like she wasn't going to let go. And earlier in the evening she sat down next to me, then got up, stood next to me and was brushing up against my arm for no reason at all. I've asked this girl out, but she isn't ready to date because of a recent bad relationship, and she has a little baby. I've told her that I like her, but she doesn't want to tell me how she feels, yet she flirts with me, and hugs me like I described, not to mention the weird (but awesome) physical contact.
So does she like me? If so, then why won't she tell me?
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
I think she does like you, but she could be worried about a number of things, one of which is most probly being in another bad relationship. Another is probly her baby, as relationships can have a big impact on children. I think she squeezes you when she hugs you because you make her feel protected. There is just something about giving a guy a hug and him just squeezing you/holding you tight, that makes you feel protected and loved.
I think you should give her some time. Just be there for her, support her and show her that you're good with children.
What Girls Said 1
i wouldn't trust her. because she could be doing that to get to your other friends. my brother has had that experience with this girl that I knew I never liked in the beinning when I met her. because she did the exact same thing with my brother. she ended up f***ing my brothers friends and getting a really bad STD
What Guys Said 1
I think she likes you. Why won't she tell you? In this case there are many reasons. If she said she's not ready to date because of her bad relationships and her daughter, then maybe she was telling the truth here. Chances are she hasn't said anything because she figures it will hurt your feelings. Which really makes sense, because regardless of the intent, it always feels like a cruel game or some sort of tease to say to somebody, "I really like you, but I can't date you. I'm just not ready." wouldn't you agree?
There are other possibilities. I think that it's also possible that she, like so many girls out there, still cling to archaic beliefs that they guy MUST make the first move, no exceptions. It's bullshit really but there are still all too many girls that hold tight to this belief like all reality will tear itself apart otherwise. Really though, I don't think that's what's going on here. It really could be the other thing. You never know.
I think if you really want to sort all this out, I think you need to go over to this girl and tell her how you feel if you're interested in dating her. If you like her you need to tell her that. You need to ask her yourself, in a very point blank manner, how she feels about you. I would also suggest telling her the truth about everything. If you're still not sure what all this means, then tell her. If you are very clear about your feelings for her, and don't picture yourself going anywhere, tell her. It's pretty straightforward. You need to be ballsy about it but remember that this is entirely up to her.
Look man I'm rooting for you here. I want you to get the girl, if you want her, but I should level with you, the most you can do here is just put your heart out there and tell her how you feel, and ask her if she feels the same way. From there it's up to you if you want to wait it out. But you never know if she'll come around.
Good luck dude.