In some senses, it's good. In some senses, it's bad.
You are a great guy- I'm largely the same way. I would do all I can to please my girl, so long as she loves me back. A lot of girls do appreciate that stuff, and they'll want to come home at the end of the day to snuggle and cuddle with you. You're probably the kind of guy she'd want to marry and come home to every night.
However, for the majority of girls, you're not the one that really gets them riled up. The edgier, badder boys are the ones that really get them excited. They may enjoy slow, passionate sex with you, but if they're looking to get roughed up a little, dominated, and would rather have a rough f*** than make love, you will be the last thing they look for. Even if you ARE able to give it to her rough, it's just not the same feeling for them. The jerks who do as they please are the ones women look to when they really want to be dominated. For some women, they'll choose to marry the bad boy for the sex. Some women will marry the romantic guy and cheat on him with the bad boys. And some women will be content with the romantic guy.
It all depends on the individual.