Are you a hopeless romantic or do you let past bad experiences hold you back from trying again?

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#FeelFreeToList #HopelessRomantics DO YOU NO LONGER TAKE DATING AND COMMITMENT SERIOUSLY?

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

100% a hopeless romantic and always will be.

I want to have a deeply meaningful and powerful bond or nothing at all.

Luckily, I’m paired with my significant other, who is also a hopeless romantic.

But, I know it’s very hard for hopeless romantics to find a compatible match (other hopeless romantics are just difficult to find and even when they are found, the chemistry might not be right) so I’m thankful to have found my match.

Yes, my heart has been broken before. Really badly too.

But, I understand how love works.

It requires trust and vulnerability in order to reach a depth that feels fulfilling.

It’s a high-risk/high-reward situation. If one wants to experience the fullness of what love can be, they need to open up their heart to receive it.

Yes, by doing that one can potentially receive the greatest hurt. But also, with the right person, they can experience the greatest love.

The opposite of this is walling up, never letting anyone get too close, never trusting anyone. With that, you will avoid hurt. But, it’ll also force all your relationships to be shallow and limited.

Friendships, relationships, and familial bonds are all built on trust.

Without trust, without risk, one can’t experience love.

That’s a truth that I know and understand well.

True love is a beautiful thing. The most beautiful thing one can experience. As rare as it may be, it’s worth believing in and holding onto.

RachelM22 · Accepted Answer

Hi everyone. You'll have to excuse me if I get things wrong here as I'm completely new to "Girls ask Guys" and this is my very first "Opinion"!

Personally, I consider myself to be very romantic and am sometimes considered a little old-fashioned for it, which I find quite sad! I simply love treating my partner and giving her pleasant surprises, compliments and stuff.

Last Saturday I spelled out "I love you" in chocolates on our bed, just because I do!

So many people these days just don't seem to make enough effort to make their partner feel REALLY special an it's such a shame!

razelove · Answer

Married now, though I've found it typically cycles between being a romantic, being burned out, and needing some time. Not necessarily in that order, but you get burned by someone, you may need to take a break, have no commitments for a while, then you start getting hopeful again after a while.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’m a hopeless romantic. I don’t let my past define my present nor future relationships.

Rosexøxø · Answer

I am *hopeless concerning romance.* Hopelessly devoted to it? I was. Not any more.

Fabiloso · Answer

Im confident in love's abilities yes. Is it as solid as a written in gold statement as much as any Disney fairy-tale? Nah, I think the fate of love is still in our hands. I think if we open ourselves and our lives, just getting out there. Love finds eachother. doesn't mean it's the right love or wrong love, doesn't mean it's the best love. But it can still be love, putting two people in a very happy place together for at least a majority of the rest of their life here. I consider that an acheivement of a lifetime. Also if I feel proven by what I've seen in someone's new partner I don't feel inclined to fight for them if I was interested. If they found someone else who I'd say seems well equipped for their love. If I can see it working for someone, I just default to let's see what love has next I guess. Not easiest at all but it feels like a better solution. Also a major reason long distance has never worked. To me it's unhealthy, extremely unhealthy to jack off to someone who isn't physically there as much as have feelings for you can't touch. And maybe for just me specifically I don't know but I've been very senitive about those things. Feelings effect my body completely. Big reason I chose retail work is to practice getting over a lot of it. Getting used to talking to attractive women without literally shitting a large wolf brand chilli canned size before and after. Just being nice, friendly and helpful for lots of different types of people. I have a ton of issues to get through myself before I'm gonna feel ready for love taking over my life romantically. If it comes along I'll take it. But I'm learning other ways to love too and somewhat enjoying that just as well I think.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

I used to be a hopeless romantic, all of that crap. That was me for a bit. I was what we call a "blue pilled man."

Then at 19, I started discovering different communities, such as the Manosphere, MGTOW, and the Red Pill movement. I'm subscribed to channels on YouTube like Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews, JohnTheOther, Taylor the Fiend, and a number of others. I'm currently the age of 29, and based on the things I've seen through social experiments, my own life experiences, and because of my scientific background where I think critically and logically about things, I'm not interested anymore in dating, and Lord forbid, marriage.

I live in a world where I'm viewed as a lesser by most women because of my XY chromosomal makeup, and I'm treated badly by women on a daily basis, both in real life and through the cyber world. I also know that a woman will gain a lot more violating her marriage vows than she would by honoring them, I'd lose over 50% of what I've worked for in my life, and there's a chance I'd probably commit suicide, like many men before me, because a woman one day decided she didn't love me anymore, and decided she'd use the system to cause as much damage as possible to me.

I could go on, but you understand (I hope). It would take one heluva woman to change my life path right now, which I'm very set on.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Lost the woman I was suppose to spend my life with, but, I am hopeful there is someone else. I think I have a lot to offer that special someone still, so I am hopeful.

Lliam · Answer

I'm a hopeless romantic. Always have been.  I had girlfriends from the age of 16 and finally got married when I was 42.  I love the butterfly feeling of infatuation and romance.

Simslover92 · Answer

Hopeless romantic here. I'm in a relationship right now and I am hoping that this is it. Hoping that this is the love you see in the movies like on 50 First Dates or He's Just Not That Into You.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I’m a hopeless romantic for sure!! And I know someday I’m going to meet the one. But I use my past bad experiences to stop me from repeating the same patterns.

kellytheman · Answer

I guess I am especially since I am with someone I really love right now. We always love spending time together, are sex life is incredible, and we never really had a heated arguments or disagreement. Also her parents are kinda finally warming up to me for being white and looking past that and just seeing a good man for their daughter.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I believe in love wholeheartedly. But I also am a bit of a pessimist.

I don't know if I'd call myself a hopeless romantic.

I just know that in life you're going to fuck up sometimes and before any great failure you're most likely going to have many failures. So I just see my exes as a learning experience.

juene · Answer

Hopeless romantic. But I find it hard to find someone. Seems like no one is interested in my city. But I want to be feel love and be inlove again.

menina · Answer

I haven't given up despite my past bad experiences. I just need time for myself now. I got a lot of things to fix in my life. At this point, I'm not ready for a relationship, even though I would like to have a boyfriend.

Anpu23 · Answer

I am such a cynic when it comes to love. If I wasn't with my wife I'd just still be an F boy... Had too much fun and never got locked into anything.

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

I used to let bad experiences hold me back. But my '23 New Year's resolution was to leave the past and only look forward (and that's for a lot more than just dating).

belle_kai · Answer

Deep down I'm a hopeless romantic but the fear is stopping me from going forward as if right now

Pink2000 · Answer

I am a hopeless romantic. I believe in love and their is someone out there for everyone.

Anonymous · Answer

I am out of that thing even before entering in it.

Sometimes I feel that I should give myself a chance, but seeing the girls on YT and other platforms just ridicule guys, I just tell myself to be away from girls as much as I can. In college, in my future work place etc.

PointTaken · Answer

I am more of a mix. Mostly a hopeless romantic but need some me time right now. Also some of my past experiences have gotten me to the "whatever" stage. If it doesn't work out, whatever, it was worth a try. Not going to push it. It takes just one time and I will not try again.

SunnyRS · Answer

Where is my option?😭😭😭😭
I mean why not both I am a hopeless romantic, I love "love" but I have had some bad experiences that make me feel it's not for me.
Currently I am happy seeing others in love and feeding on their energy like a vampire🧛‍♂️🧛‍♂️
JK.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have always been a hopeless romantic and always will be.

Justmeagain1 · Answer

I am uncertain what the future holds with my relationship stuff. I e definitely come up wounded. Every women has an inner child that wants to be treated like a princess at one time or another I am sure

SamIam96 · Answer

Everyone has bad experiences. Learn what you can from them. "Put lotion on the scars" -- reconnect with friends. whatever. heal. Try again. With a good attitude, you'll have a good (new) experience.

Anonymous · Answer

Neither. I don't let bad experiences hold me back but I accept the reality of this world. And while I would like a relationship I'm not going to commit 100% of my being to a woman who doesn't want to do likewise. If that's the case I'd rather just be alone. 🙂👍

Phoenix98 · Answer

I guess a hopeless romantic though I've had to overcome and grow from past bad experiences. But at the end of the day I'm not gonna stop believing in love especially when I'm constantly surrounded by it.

melanieeeB · Answer

I'm not a hopeless romantic but I also don't let my bad experiences stop me lol I see the world, what I would call, realistically... people come and go

red324 · Answer

I don't fall very easily anymore. I got banned from tinder so now I can hardly land a date. That was shortly after I took about a 3 month break to collect my thoughts and get back in the saddle, so now I'm not sure what to do.

Msputiton · Answer

Romance is not something i find important. I just think it is a waste of time, and to much effort for something i don't think is important

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I'm a romantic. Only thing past experiences have taught me is what I WILL NOT tolerate

Ascyltos · Answer

Damn it, I just wrote an elaborate reply for half an hour or so, and it's lost because after posting it, I had to log in first. It's gone and the time wasted.

Anemone978 · Answer

I have given up.. so I will be like my dad and just end up with who I end up lol

hiyamotherfers · Answer

I'm both if that's possible. I think love is possible but sometimes those past things hold me back from truly going out of my comfort zone

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'm not a hopeless romantic, but I also don't let yesterday kill tomorrow. The next girl is not responsible for any bad experiences I've had in the past.

horndog112 · Answer

I’m married to my high school sweetheart. We know each others wants and needs well and make it happen

electromagnetic · Answer

Hopeless romantic here 🙋🏾‍♀️

RavVid · Answer

Lived experience has converted me from a hopeless romantic into an atheist.

the_sinner · Answer

I hope to be a hopeless romantic. But as I’m aging my window of falling in love is getting smaller.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I haven’t been in that many relationships. If I was lucky enough to be in many relationships for example I wouldn’t let one girl who cheated on me effect my relationship with another girl.

Christoff92 · Answer

Yes that's a very great possibility. To be in love and experience hopeless romantic feelings. A great blessing to remain positive.

AdithyaR · Answer

I was a hopeless romantic who got beat into giving up on love.

nawtee_me · Answer

If you are not willing to let go of the past then how will you be able to grab hold of the future?

Sparkie460 · Answer

Past relationships are just that, they are in the past

Jltakk · Answer

I was a hopeless romantic but I tend to not just not make the same mistake and waste my efforts after constant failure.

Hanrej · Answer

I'm held back. Don't have the energy to pick up a broken life again.

msc545 · Answer

I am not stupid enough to repeat bad experiences.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm a hopeless romantic. #nevergiveup lol

SlothySlob · Answer

I'm hopeless at romance.

smashleyy · Answer

a little bit of both tbh

bobalife · Answer

Combination of both.

DJB72 · Answer

I'm married, but I'm still a hopeless romantic!

ariadneR · Answer

Hopeless. A suckered for punishment I guess

RoastedToast · Answer

I guess hopeless romantic

JSmuve · Answer

I was A in my 20s. Now I'm B.

fonduegirl · Answer

I'm from Aro community ^~^

Anonymous · Answer

Bad experiences holding me back.

ColHathi · Answer

Can I choose both?

Nahid1707 · Answer

Yea, do girls even like this in dating? 😅

annabananna · Answer

Yes I am

Likes2drive · Answer

I guess I’m hopeless 😊

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