What does she mean by saying I am "hard to read"?

I have been dating a girl for the past 6 weeks.

We really get along and I really like her.

I am 22, a recent college grad, and she is 20, a current college student. We live about a hour and a half away so we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like, but nonetheless I think things are going well.

The one thing that catches me off guard is that she always tells me I am "hard to read." I have no idea what she means by this. I tell her I like her, I am affectionate, etc so I don't understand it.

What does it mean when someone says you are "hard to read"?

Thanks a lot.


Most Helpful Girl

  • When I have said that in the past its because I was feeling a lot more than what the guy said he was and for me it was hard to determine whether or not he was feeling the same way such as love before I blurted it out. Emotions are a huge thing for women. Sometimes we feel too much, too often and too hard. Taking the chance of saying I love you or I only want you or anything that leads to exclusivity is hard for some. I say the next time you two get a chance do something really sweet and romantic together. That will either break the walls down and allow her to open up and tell you how she is feeling or it will bring out deeper feelings that you hadn't recognized and you will open up to her and she'll reciprocate.


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What Girls Said 1

  • Well confront her about it, I say that about practically every guy because one minute their interested and then they act as if I'm dead! Or they tell me they like me but don't ask me out on a date or anything. I can only think of the reason that your affectionate with her and everything but maybe you haven't asked her to be your girlfriend and she wants you too but doesn't understand why? That's all I can think of


What Guys Said 1

  • at her age, it probably means that she hasn't yet determined how to manipulate you.