Why are girls always so quiet around me?

[Anonymous]

Why do girls always never say much to me? I know other guys that get girls to talk to them easily. I am generally pretty quiet and don't say anything unless I am spoke too. Like there is this girl in class who sits right behind me I tried talking to her and she was talking to me and I was walking with her but she just like left, didn't seem that into the conversation.

[jfromj]

Small talk is like planting a seed to grow a tree. If you want to advance further into a conversation you must master small talk. But, always be honest, open minded, and have a clear purpose; otherwise, the small talk will be a dead end road. Practice at home some open ended questions to ask before using them in public. The first thing I look for are cues... if a girl is wearing a pink shirt then you use assumption, "so, your favorite color is pink?", if a girl is wearing a team jersey like my personal favorite, Carolina Hurricanes, you ask "so, how are the Hurricanes doing this season?". The next approach is to address your name and a handshake to her, "My name is ________, what's yours?" Then keep asking questions that are open ended and recite her name, "so are you having a good day ________?" Using reinforcement phrases afterwords can make or break another conversation later. Just by saying "I hope your day continues to be bright" is a reinforcement to her to know that you cared about your small talk. After all of this, remember the idea is to plant a seed, either you get her number if you are feeling good vibes from her, or you must wait for another conversation to give the tree time to grow. Nevertheless, do not give up until you have figured it out, and if it takes being rejected a few times... know they are not rejecting you; rather they are rejecting what you believe in --that you care to know what they like. I find that most rejections occur from self centered females, because I always put others before my self until I have no reason to. So think of it this way, the rejection is not because of you... it's the girl not being able to understand why you would put them before you (i.e. the self centered female has rejected your values). I do not believe in the idea that some girls are out of a person's league based on looks.

[makesumwake]

you got to initiate conversations as a guy, that's just how it is.

take control of you life and learn how to talk to people.

girls are mostly into guys who can stimulate them with conversation. looks are secondary.

learn how to be funny and interesting.

[justplayin]

i used to be quite towards guys cos I didn't really know how to talk to them.. but then I became more comfortable around them by talking more.. only to the guys who are actually nice though... but anyways.. something might have crossed her mind for her to just leave during a convo with u.. she probably wasn't listening or caring that much. try talking to her again.. or talking to other girls..

if you don't know how to talk to them.. just start by smiling, or saying hi.. give them a compliment about an awesome test mark or something.

[Anonymous]

The same thing happens to me sometimes. I'm pretty quiet so I think people just kind of leave me alone most of the time because they think I won't talk.

[Anonymous]

just be flirty and see how it goes.. Maybe she didn't seem like you were interested. Don't give up hope.. It takes time to feel comfortable.

[kiss_me_Kate]

we just think you're not interested at all.

Because if you were, seriously, you would say something.

[Anonymous]

people are just confused by shy people, their hard to read. if your good looking people will assume your too into yourself.

[bunny420]

'Cause you have a 6 pack.

[udolipixie]

Most guys aren't interesting enough to talk to.

[angiemel]

u hot?