Girls, do you like to be approach by strangers?

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When I am out in the public, I see many beautiful women. I usually approach them, but I get turn down more often than not. I think I have only been successful at get ting a date or two. However, I am begining to think that women don't like to be approach by unfamiliar men. Sometimes I feel that women get annoyed by men that approach them. So, girls, do you like to be approach by men you don't know in the public and would you consider dating a guy that you meet in the street?

p.s. I would like to note that when I approach women, I don't act like a pervert, I am a gentlemen.

ItalianBro · Accepted Answer

Try this,

Walk over to a girl and say

You "Hey, do you have a minute, I want to show you something really cool"

Girl "yes"

You "First, what is your favorite flower?"

Girl "Roses"

You "Ok, (put your hands behind your back, after 10 seconds put your hands in front of you, both hands closed)

You "Pick a hand"

Girl (picks one of your hands).

You (Take your hand and ask her to hold out her hand, rub your hand over hers like your doing some magic trick.)

You "Open your hand and look at her"

You smile and say "Wouldn't that of been cool if something actually appeared?

Girl (might laugh)

You "what is your name"

Girl "Amanda"

You "my name is bob the great" (something that sounds like your a magician but obviously your not.

You "let me have your number so I can try to persuade you to have a drink with me"

Try to smile a lot and keep strong eye contact. The point of this is to be funny, have some physical hand contact, and show your personality. It takes less than 2-3 minutes and if the girl is interested than she will give you her number, if she isn't than you only wasted a few minutes. Also, on the first date make sure to bring her a rose or whatever her favorite flower was. That will pretty much seal the deal.

Leocris · Accepted Answer

It's all about how you approach. If you've been rejected numerous times and only gotten one or two dates, maybe its time to try a new approach. Ever heard the definition of insanity? "Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results." Not gonna happen. Doesn't matter how many times you try to get orange juice from a goat, it's always gonna be milk. Really nasty goat milk...

It could be as simple as changing the tone of your voice. Don't yell at her... but project your voice and be clear.

SMILE.

Not like a murderer, but like you're playing with puppies.

The best way to NOT creep a girl out is to approach her when she's with other girl friends. That way, she feels safe because she has back up to kick you in the nuts and gouge your eyes out if need be, PLUS you impress her with your confidence to aproach a whole group all by yourself. It also works to your advantage because, if her friends think you're cool, they may talk to you too, which makes it easier to keep the conversation going. And if she's not interested, maybe one of her friends is. Which means you could get more than one chance from just one approach. Cha-Ching!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not usually...

I mean, it would be a bit weird for me. Probably because I spent a lot of my young life growing up in conservative countries, which meant random contact from strangers is a sure recipe for possible trouble and a dangerous situation.

I would consider meeting strangers if I grew up in a different country.

But remember: appearance is key to a good first impression. Obviously no running around looking like a drunk street bum asking for numbers. That will be sure to scare off anybody. So dress well, smell okay, be polite, be witty, be down to earth and try not to be too old for the girls you're looking for, haha. (As you said, if you already act like a gentleman, that shouldn't be too big of a problem.) And you don't have to be as attractive as a bronzed underwear model, but you have to be charming in some aspect, something that will hook the girl you're looking for and make her stay. Don't follow her around either. If she wants you, she'll be comfortable around you and not on the verge of fleeing to the nearest exit.

Good luck ;D

Salyxas · Accepted Answer

If you are a gentleman, then the world needs more guys like you.

I hate being hit on by random guys and I will avoid it as much as possible. It scares me so much when I am hit on that I have to leave or find someone capable of sending away whoever is bothering me.

1. It's only for my appearance or body. I don't value appearances and I want to be seen for my personality.

2. I am scared that they will assault me, sexually or being mugged. It's really not safe with people you don't know. I've been in situations when a guy would not leave me alone and kept telling me to come get drunk with him, almost grabbing me to force me into his vehicle, and I needed to call police.

It really depends on the environment too, but I hate being approached by guys I don't know them because you never know what they are capable of doing to you.

evil_dentist · Accepted Answer

Any guy who has ever randomly approached me has never been on a date with me. I implicitly assume that if they go out on a limb to ask out someone they have only seen in three seconds- 1) they have poor judgement 2)they are only interested in my looks 3)they are desperate.

This is because I would never do that. Personality is so much more important than a brief encounter. If a guy just asked me a few questions and then went for the number it would be a resounding no. However, if we developed rapport through conversation and he asked me out to coffee (in the daylight/surrounded by other people), I might reconsider. It all depends on how safe a woman feels with you, the random stranger.

To be honest, the best way to meet people is through mutual friends. Expand your social ciricle =expanding your potential pool of dates.

Yeahhbro · Answer

No they don't, the first time that comes to their mind is CREEP!. The only way that this may work is if she smiles at you, if she doesn't forget it. Second of all approached them in a "safe" environment, by that I mean in an environement when she expects people to be safe for instance: School, library, clubs, work, friend's of a friend and so on and so forth.

When you approach them don't use tricks and pick up lines, they are reatarded. Just ask them questions or something related that affects both of you, talk about her and never ever be sexually assertive, unless you are given them a nice compliment which I highly recommend.

PS: COntrary to belief beautiful women do not get approached as much as you will think that they do, because must men place them in a pedestal and think she is too god for them.

Jillian222 · Answer

Um I would be creeped out kinda. He could get a gun out and shoot the f***ing juice out of my brains... I mean I would rather be approached in a different way. Depends on how you approah me. If you werent a fat hobo who has bad teeth then I wouldn't be creeped out at all and if you were attractive I probably wouldn't reject you..Actually, as I was driving to the mall last August this taxi man was like, "What can I do to get a beautiful woman like you?" and I was all like, "YOU HOBO GO AWAY! :("

But I said it inside my head so nobody heard me.

Anonymous · Answer

Only if I would be interested in the guy. What guys should do to make approaching women more successful, is wait until they get green lights from the girl they wanna approach. Don't just walk up to the first pretty girl you see just because you're attracted to her and hope your approach works. No, screen women to have the best success rate. For example, a pretty girl that keeps making eye contact with you, smiling is way more open and receptive to being approached than the girl you had to interrupt to get her attention.  For example, if I look at a guy, but don't look at him again and I treat him no differently than I am treating to everyone else in the steet, I'm most likely not interested and wouldn't be open to dating him if he approached me.

udolipixie · Answer

No.

Do you want to be approached by a gay/bisexual who wants sex from you?

Gentleman or not you are a man and you do want sex.

You may be nice but sex is still the goal and the sole reason you approached.

That's not a bad thing but don't try to deny it.

Everyone except asexuals want sex.

jackie1836 · Answer

depends on the guy... normally I'm creeped out because they try to hit on me in creepy ways. i.e. I was walking into a store and a guy in an oversized t rode by on a bike and said hey baby.

that was creepy because I was alone and he was creepy looking. All depends on the situation.

ElectricWhisper · Answer

No, girls don't like to be approached by strange men. Because you don't just trust complete strangers, especially of they act like a gentleman, because gentlemen usually end up being psycho maniacs, not that you are.

Just stop trying to get with strange women.

NessielaKee · Answer

What do you mean by "public"? If you mean a bar or club, then you really need to work on your pick up skills. If you mean the streets...well, don't do it because girls think those guys are creepy. Personally, I will only go on a date with someone I know. He doesn't have to be a mutual friend but at least I know who he is.

Anonymous · Answer

The answer is YES and NO. I love being approached by people because I like friendly people and enjoy conversation with strangers. But I 99% of the time I would not go on a date just after meeting someone. It would have to be a looong and amazing conversation. Or if you see each other frequently, like most mornings you both take the 7:30 bus or something. It's just because as much as I enjoy being approached, I don't trust people that easily. Sure, odds are it's a normal guy but you don't want to get yourself into any trouble.

dalila · Answer

If I find him attractive yes, if he seems fun yes, if he is much older no, if he isn't my type no, if he looks like a weirdo no...also depends on my mood too...

I would say keep doing it but make her laugh right away otherwise she would be interested if you are not that good looking...

The good thing would be first look at her and smile and see her reaction as you can notice if she finds you interesting or not...

pinklipglossxx · Answer

honestly its always nice to have a guy come up to you and throw you a quick line like, you're very pretty and whatnot. but if you can tell the girl wants to run away, just say have a nice day...and don't be creepy. but yes, its always nice to talk to a stranger cause you just never know

mysteryyy · Answer

It depends on the strangers. Gnerally I like meeting new people and being approached by them. But some guys are really aggressive and pervert. I've been approached by guys who touch me and groap me... but even if they are nice, who knows what's going in their head? Anybody wants to meet Jack the Ripper?

Anonymous · Answer

I thumbed up the "yes and no" answer. I'm really suspicious of guys that approach me in the street; blame it on your fellow approachers who have been witless jerks. True connections generally develop over time.

Having said all that, it's not impossible to chat up a random pretty girl and then find out you're a perfect match. You have to start a connection somewhere. Maybe she's not as random as you think.

calialltheway1993 · Answer

yeah I don't mind it it flatters me but I automatically deny cause I don't know the person, he could be a sex-offender for all I know, especially when they stare at boobs/butt... yeah not a chance lol. unless I know you

Anonymous · Answer

We usually don't agree to dates with men we don't know. Even if you seem like the nicest guy in the world, you still could be a rapist for all we know.

However, even if we don't respond how you want us too (or even if we are kind of harsh), we always find it flattering. When we get approached we feel more beautiful.

So, don't worry about women not always responding in the best way. It's not like you'll see them ever again anyway.

leonia · Answer

It's not the fact that you're a stranger, it's just that we don't know you as a person, what kind of guy you're and stuff. Specially because there's lot of cazy people out there, it feels better if you have friends in common.

complicated_11 · Answer

not at all. I find it a little weird. the first thing they notice is my looks, and that's the whole reason they are aproaching me. I want to be with someone who likes me for the real me, and no how beautiful I am.

woohoo_friday · Answer

Honestly, I would be really flattered, and I would definitely consider dating him.  I've never been approached by anyone, so it would be a big surprise for me!  haha

soggytoast · Answer

you gotta be funny or do something to stand out because they get approached 28374928374 times a day if they are really good looking.

tell me if this sounds like you:

"hi I'm _____. wonderful weather we're having isn't it?"

Anonymous · Answer

usually really facially beautiful women are very very few...perhaps you'll looking their their bodies and you got so attracted to their bodies that made you think they "are" beautiful?

There is a difference between body-beautiful and facially-beautiful:)

-StillWater- · Answer

If he's really really really cute. But even then no so much. I like to ad least know the person a little bit, or through a friend before anything like that happens. (Don't trust people very much.)

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