Been hooking up for awhile and now he has a girlfriend but still wants to hook up?

[Anonymous]

So I have been hooking up with this guy for about 3 years on and off since I go back and forth between LA and Philly. But now I'm in the same state where he is and we hooked up in the fall and have talked about getting together but never had opportunities since we both live with our parents and then I just kind of stopped talking to him because of the lack of seeing each other.

So in Feb I facebook IMed him and he tells me he has a girlfriend but is about to break up with her and wants to hook up with me, however its now Apr and he's still with the girlfriend and also still wants to hook up. What do I do? I have feelings for him and its hard to ignore but I don't want to be the other girl however I also feel like he was mine first. Do you think he has feelings for me and really might break up with his gf?

[Anonymous]

He has no feelings for you. You're Old Reliable. You've been getting down for 3 years, he's strung you along with TALK of a relationship but never actually doing it, but he can actually find time to date another girl and still ask you for some on the side? Wake up and smell the coffee hun there are no feelings on his side. You are the other woman and he was never yours. You've been messing with the guy for 3 years and still haven't become his girlfriend but he can meet a girl and start a relationship with her and NOT YOU? He may or may not break up with her but he is an asshole and isn't worth your vagina or mental space.

Move on he's just using you as a hook up. Find someone who cares about your feelings and set your standards higher next time. Don't you think you deserve more than this poor excuse of a relationship you're settling for. I hope you're at least dating other people and not just hung up on this guy because its obvious he doesn't even respect you.

[acka72]

This guy needs some serious puppy training. Don't give him the goods (sex and other favours) while he is still together with this other girl. If he continues to go out with her, it means he prefers her and does not want to chase you. At this point since he is not married and doesn't have kids with her you can sh*t all over his relationship by making this other girl know that you have been messing with him. She and you deserve better.