My boyfriend is getting married to someone else because of his parents respect, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend has been dating for about a year now, its a long distance relationship but he still came to see me twice and we had the best understanding ever. Last time he came was 2 weeks ago and last week he called me and told me everything is over his mom has chosen a girl for him in Pakistan and he is going to get married to her because of his parents and he doesn't want to say no because his parents will get hurt. The thing is his parents were ready to get us married just like a month ago and now when I have talked to my parents about him, he is saying this. What should I do? HELP!

[sweetgracee]

I think I'm in a similar situation. Although my ex british pakistani boyfriend was only 20, no job, still studying engineering and still needs his parents' money for financial assistance. The day he found out the news that the girl's mother asked for marriage in the future and that his mom agreed, he told me immediately because he said he doesn't wanna hurt me in the future and it is all for the honour of the family since they are like very close family or more like cousins... and if he says no now he will be forced to live on his own which I don't think he can because he's still young. He was so confused on what to do so we both decided to let go of each other.We both cried so hard. We still love each other until now but I know how important it is for him to be successful in the future so I don't want him sacrificing everything for me. :( He said I was his first true love and that he cannot give the same intensity of love to someone else. But I believe in destiny. If two people are really meant to be, destiny will bring them back together Anyway, I hope you have moved on. If you were happy with the wrong person then how much more if the right person comes along? :) Time heals all wounds. :)

[ramya23]

ur words are sooo touching... ur right "If you were happy with the wrong person then how much more if the right person comes along? Time heals all wounds." but i am not able to come out of this pain trying my best because he says he wants to come back i dont understand if hez playing game with me or if hez true when he says he wants me in life not the other gal

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to say this but if a man his age doesn't stand up strong for what he wants, then he's not worth your love. He didn't fight for you or your love, then he's a hopeless case. By the way, I feel that he's over you and you might have been a love affair nothing more. Sorry but I understand this mentality..as an Arab :)

What should you do? you should be grateful that his true colours showed. If he TRULY wanted you, nothing would have stopped him. Trust me on that.

[Asker]

If I was only a love affair... why would he kepp my hopes up and talk to me abt marriage and kids?

[Opinion Owner]

Because that's how you play with a girl's heart and mind. It's all about lovely promises. I've been there dear :)

[Asker]

oh okie... are you over that now?

[Opinion Owner]

Sure! I'm feeling so much better :)

[Asker]

this means its not hard to get over it... right now it does feel impossibleeee :(

[ramya23]

i am in the same situation but the difference is that he is only engaged and he says he wants me back and not that gal i am trying hard to get over it but everytime some or the other way m not successful

[Anonymous]

Well my boyfriend and me were together for 2 years and 3 weeks ago he told me he was going to Russia to visit his family and then a few days later his friend sent me a picture of him and some russian girl holding hands.. And she said who is this girl isn't my friend with you? And I was in shock and disbelief. And then there also was videos. But the thing is their distant cousins. And a lot of people are saying it's probably fake and he's doing it cause her family offered his money to bring her to America. For papers. But I don't know.. He hasn't spoken to me since he was there. All I want now is a explanation from him. Im truly heart Broken cause like I said I was with him for 2 years and he was my first for everything. I don't know if he is really with her or not and if this marriage is for real. They hardly know each other from a whole in the wall. He lives in America and she lives in Russia. They only spoke a week before he went there. So how can they love each other? And how can he forget me after being together 2 years. I try to contact him and I can't. I need some sort of closure. This happened out of no where. Me and him were fine. We had our problems but nothing that would cause this. Any advice?

[mainamainou]

I'm sorry for you, I know exactly what you feel because I am exactly in the same situation I don't know what to do or what to say but I keep saying in my mind if he really loved me he will fight for our love, he will fight for us, he will fight for me just like I will do, but what? he thinks I'm not worth it that's why he doesn't dare to fight?what ? I am not good enough for him?that's why he prefers the bitch that mamy has chosen for him? I am really pissed off if only I can make you feel better but what I did was unbelievable I exploded at his face and said things so mean to him I never thought I will ever say it to him, because I love him and I am in pain, of course he is mad now and he replied that he made the right choice by NOT choosing me, it hurts me a lot but what has to said was said, if only he could understand and appreciate what I am feeling

[Asker]

Your so right I acted the same way ... I said so many things to him that I shouldn't have said but its done. HE doesn't care about me why should I... and I hope everything works well on your side. whatever happens, happens for a reason :) and seriously time heels everything :) the love won't go but the feelings will. I still love him but I can't do anything about it :(

[Anonymous]

He's a baby. Believe me I understand where he comes from. I have a strict family as well where my parents have the say in a lot of things. But when it comes to love, I put my foot down. they also picked someone for me and I refused repeatedly and they have no choice but to listen to me. He needs to grow a back bone.

[smexiliciousss]

These kind of forced marriages are always annoying and hard, I can imagine. Maybe you should meet up with his parents, but it might be too late.. ::( I'm so sorry

[purplepearls]

he's not worth your time since he can't fight for his love for you.

[Asker]

thanks for the reply and I have been thinking the same thing