Hi there so myself 25f and my husband 27m have been together for 3 years and married for almost two months. He was with this girl all throughout high school until she broke up with him in 2012 when she went to college and met another guy. According to him they haven’t talked since. I know his family really liked her and got close as well. He had another ex between her and I. He showed me a post on Facebook on his phone before and I noticed his high school sweethearts name in his search bar.
I didn’t overreact but I questioned him on it and he tried to blame it on his mom, saying she asked him to research her and then after that he admitted that he wanted to just see how her family was and then he said he wanted to see how her and her boyfriend were, and that he was bored and wanted to see what she was up to.
He never mentioned or looked up the ex after her which makes me feel more uneasy about it. He is an amazing guy and all but I have been cheated on and screwed over in the past by other guys so I overthink.
Like a year or so ago (before I realized he had searched his high school ex) I asked would you ever look up your second ex and he just said hell no in a joking manner.
Is this something that I should be worried about? He ended up deleting/blocking her, even when I said it wasn’t necessary to do so and to just let it go. Have you ever researched an ex while with someone else?
She also still wishes his mother a happy birthday on social media and she liked the post about he and I getting married. She is fully committed to another guy and has been for a few years.
I also found his high school yearbook in the bathroom before and he said he was just reading it while using the bathroom but who knows lol.
I didn’t overreact but I questioned him on it and he tried to blame it on his mom, saying she asked him to research her and then after that he admitted that he wanted to just see how her family was and then he said he wanted to see how her and her boyfriend were, and that he was bored and wanted to see what she was up to.
He never mentioned or looked up the ex after her which makes me feel more uneasy about it. He is an amazing guy and all but I have been cheated on and screwed over in the past by other guys so I overthink.
Like a year or so ago (before I realized he had searched his high school ex) I asked would you ever look up your second ex and he just said hell no in a joking manner.
Is this something that I should be worried about? He ended up deleting/blocking her, even when I said it wasn’t necessary to do so and to just let it go. Have you ever researched an ex while with someone else?
She also still wishes his mother a happy birthday on social media and she liked the post about he and I getting married. She is fully committed to another guy and has been for a few years.
I also found his high school yearbook in the bathroom before and he said he was just reading it while using the bathroom but who knows lol.
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Continued:
One time we were on a drive talking about our past etc, and I said I think back on my past ex’s like what was I thinking and how they look so much better when you’re with them vs after the breakup, and he said well my first ex was pretty and the second one (ex before me) wasn’t.
I know it’s common but it just didn’t sit right with me when he tried to blame his mom for it and when he never looks up the other ex. Thank you 🙂
One time we were on a drive talking about our past etc, and I said I think back on my past ex’s like what was I thinking and how they look so much better when you’re with them vs after the breakup, and he said well my first ex was pretty and the second one (ex before me) wasn’t.
I know it’s common but it just didn’t sit right with me when he tried to blame his mom for it and when he never looks up the other ex. Thank you 🙂
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I also meant to put this in relationships not breakup and divorce... new here lol
