Need to break up with friend because of my crush on him. He doesn't want to end things. What now?
The problem: I have an intense crush on my friend, Ryan. While I know that he is not perfect, I'm so attracted to him, his mind and body. We get... Show More
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ok, I don't know you, but you sound like an intelligent sweet girl, honestly. So, take this with a grain of salt ok? As an outsider looking at this, what you have just told us is that you like this guy and you had sex with him...then broke things off because he wasn't going to be the BF...then reconnected and had sex with him again and again he doesn't want to be the BF...right? Why on earth would he want to be your bf? He has a great thing going...he knows he can hang out with you as friends and sooner or later, he can have sex with you...pretty sweet.
The only chance you have for him to be your Boyfriend is to tell him, its all or nothing...no sex, no friends, no texts, no hanging out, no anything until we are a couple. If he calls, it goes to VM, if he texts, you don't respond...let him know you are serious. If he likes you, he will come around and if not, you learned a big lesson and got rid of a dude that was just in it for sex anyway.
I know the crush is distracting and such, but just go out and met some other guys...you sound like a great catch, there are plenty of dudes out there that would be proud to call you their Girlfriend and they are in it just for sex.
What Guys Said 5
You are absolutely right: you need to break up with him, for exactly the reasons you gave.
While I know he enjoys your friendship, he's not paying the price that you'd pay by wanting him (emotionally) and not being able to have him. That will be too distracting for you, and so you need to make a clean break, whether he wants it or likes it or not.
I know you've figured all this out already, but it is just another example that confirms what I wrote here:
Then why don't you just date each other? Friendships that turn into relationships are the best. The friends zone is for high schoolers and dating friends is awkward to younger people. But, when people get older friends who get together is more common. You got feelings for him, and he's got feelings for you, what's holding you back?
if you like him that much, ask him to your boyfriend, and I mean litteraly(so like "name, will you be my boyfriend"), and if he refuses just say to continue this friendship will just be to awarkward
Uh oh... Why would you try to end it if you want him?
The hell is wrong with u, if you want him then your suppose to fight for him and MAKE him yours not wait till he decides he likes you.
As long as you don't have a Boyfriend you will regret the decesion even if you do get one and things aren't that good with him you will start regreting again ou why ou why didn't I try harded with him.
There is now law that guys have to make first moves.
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