Eye contact around someone you find attractive...?

Question

Do you stare and try to maintain eye contact? Or do you give quick glances because you find it hard to maintain eye contact? Also state whether you're a shy or confident person.

As for me, it's 50/50. Sometimes I feel like the man, stare them down and give them a friendly smile... and sometimes I feel awkward as hell and end up pulling something like this link

tarkan · Accepted Answer

I normally maintain eye contact, if I managed to see if the guy give me a glance and started to maintain eye contact too, I will normally flashed him a polite smile :). When I'm talking to the guy who's I'm so into, we did a lot of eye contacts, long gazings, 90% of the conversation just staring into each others' eyes, as if our mouth speaking different thing and our eyes were running their own conversations which definitely makes both of us to lose track on what we're talking about sometimes (happens to both of us that we asked the other party to repeat what they were explaining before due to staring into each others' eyes so deeply lol! but most of it is on his side he just keep telling me to repeat what I said while bending towards me because he claimed he couldn't hear me well.)

Kimii · Accepted Answer

I'm a shy person and sometimes I feel confident. I have 2 types of crushes. The first type is that you like him but not really seriously and the second I that you can even look at them in the face. You end up smiling like an idiot and you feel like you floated. The 2nd type of crush usually goes on longer. I can't maintain eye contact. Everytime I give someone an eye contact, I usually just jerk back.  However, giving eye contact doesn't mean she likes you too. "Sometimes politeness is so rare that people mistake it for flirtation". Recently I thought a like I like, likes me too with all the signs I think was right. I was wrong, he didn't like me back. This is where my confidence comes in. I confess and end up with a rejection :( Sorry if the topic is unrelated but yea...

FieryRedHeadGrl · Accepted Answer

Often times, I tell myself that I will maintain eye contact to try and let him know I like him, but almost 90% of the time, I get nervous and end up looking away. I think it's pretty normal. It makes the other person think you are nervous around them, and they contemplate as to the reason why, which could lead to them to think you like them. Try and keep it 50/50. Depending on the person, they may find it cute. Also, on the times when you maintain eye contact, smile at them after a few seconds. And when you break eye contact, smile to yourself, it will definitely get their attention

Noodlenoodle · Accepted Answer

For me it's this weird middle ground. A lot of people have trouble keeping eye contact, but force themselves to. See, I do the opposite. Sometimes I can't help but make eye contact. But when this happens I try to stop myself from holding eye contract for too long so I don't seem like a creep, so I end up looking away a lot. Ugh I really shouldn't do that in retrospect.

Sno3lion · Accepted Answer

I try and maintain eye contact and smile, often people look away before the smile. I have better luck with old ladies! God those old ladies sure can smile! Although I really have no problem making eye contact wearing a three piece suit under a leather coat, but really that's overwhelmingly awkward. Oh and I'm the shy type...

calialltheway1993 · Answer

It's 50/50 for me as well. It depends on the person. If I'm comfortable around him or know him as in talked to him, I will stare and maintain eye contact and smile. If I feel awkward, I glance and look away if I know I'm about to get caught. I just don't want him to think I watch his every love because that's creepy as hell.

Anonymous · Answer

Not from across the room because that makes me feel like a stalker.

If we're only a few feet from one another, talking or not, I'll look you right in the eyes.

I'm good with eye contact, my problem is speaking. Not knowing how to carry an INTERESTING conversation - I've never been very talkative with strangers, ever.

LizTheWeirdKid · Answer

i have a hard time maintaining eye contact. actually, I have a hard time looking them in the face. but, I am trying to get over that and I'm trying this new thing where I at least look for a few seconds and damn its so difficult. my mind goes blank and I get a bit dizzy. this eye contact stuff is really difficult.

realitycheck123 · Answer

When single I would look a person right int he eye from across the room, flash a smile then look away. I'm shy with people I don't know or in large groups, but confident  when it comes to how I am viewed.

MusicLover16 · Answer

I'm a shy girl. I try to avoid eye contact. Sometime I'll glance over to look, and turn right back around. Even though sometimes he's looking straight into my eyes. I'm quite flattered when I see this, & sometimes I blush, but I try to avoid eye contact cpmpletely

Shyglittergirl · Answer

I'm shy-as my username suggests. So for me eye contact when walking past him is out of the question-even though he looks directly at me! If we're across the room though, I'll at least try once to do it, but then scan everyone eyes so its not obvious!

MissAM · Answer

I can fake being confident but I'm actually very shy.  When I find a guy attractive sometimes I can look into his eyes other times I'm will do everything in my power NOT to look at him.

kurozogo · Answer

A .

I look and smile some and then go and talk or something , I'm not ever trying to stare them to death , just cause it won't help and I still feel painfully guilty for one or too that I did stare to death in my youth . ^_^

lbb7799 · Answer

Well I'm kinda 50/50 like you but usuallyi keep eye contact but not stare like glance just long enough for him to see that I've been looking at him but not creep him out

kereru · Answer

I'm a mix, sometimes I feel confident and will hold eye contact for as long as it feels comfortable, sometimes I get overcome with shyness and have to glance away while I'm talking to them.

bDizzie · Answer

I don't get why all the girls are saying no.  How will they meet men that way?!?

Anonymous · Answer

I normally don't look at guys I like ,  But this one guy .  I did catch myself starring at him ,  I don't know why I looked at him like that .  But as soon as he looked over ,  I quickly looked away lol .

thugsta · Answer

no you should maintain eye contact and have a little smile to show her that your interested if you give a glance thn she'd just think that you don't care!

Anonymous · Answer

Somemes ill only hold the contact if I'm interested in them anless I'm talking to someone because that's rude if your looking at the ceiling while someones trying to talk to you.I mean like walking by each other or something or in class.

COCOCHICKA · Answer

I always stare and then when we make eye contact I smile and then look away, not in a weird way though... :)

psiloveyou2 · Answer

I always try to maintain eye contact with people whether I find them attractive or not. I'm pretty outgoing and open person, not that shy.

Racez · Answer

It's really hard maintaining eye contact. I don't know, but my heart just starts beating fast and the only thing I can do is look down.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm pretty shy, so I avoid trying to make eye contact. I'm 50/50 like you. I have some confidence, but sometimes my confidence can be overshadowed by my shyness

Anonymous · Answer

Um.. If I really like the guy then.. Nope.. Can't maintain eyecontact.. Ill feel incredibly shy and self conscious... But um.. If its jus a stranger I'm simply looki ng at.. Thn maybe for a little while I cn manage!

Luv2run · Answer

I maintain eyecontact, eventually ill look away but only cause ill prob stop paying attention  I'm shy

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