Are women equally attracted to men?

[Anonymous]

Women are themselves so much beautiful and far better looking than men... So, do women really find men attractive and are fascinated and attracted to them?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, male bodies are meh. They can be attractive. They can be veryyy attractive, but all in all, they are not as aesthetically pleasing as women's bodies. Guys look good shirtless, but all the art seems to fall away with his pants, because...idk what it is, but the lines of men's bodies just don't flow the way women's do. It seems like things were just added on, rather than being part of them sorta. Don't get me wrong, I'm totally straight and get totally boycrazy and all, but just from a physical standpoint...it ain't no magic garden is all lol.

We like guys for how tight they can hold us, how tall they are compared to us, how warm they are, how assertively they walk, and basically how well they can give us a physical feeling of security. Physically speaking, the two most important things to girls are eyes and teeth. We like big pretty eyes, because it makes a guy seem pensive with a sensitive side, even if he isn't...because let's face it, guys are usually upfront and less mushy, which is good. We like pretty eyes though, because it gives us a feeling of connection, like you understand us, which releases endorphins and makes us feel more attracted to you. We like straight clean teeth, because it makes kissing seem appetizing.

Other than that, neither I nor my gfs have much preference when it comes to guys' physical appearance. We have preferences of course, but they are negligible compared to his intellect, conversation skills and if he has a mean streak. It's like caring about how many cup holders we have in the car. It's nice to have a lot, but it's more important to consider the mileage, engine size, and safety ratings.

[Asker]

u mean women find the way a guy behaves with her, treats her, does things for her etc to be more appealing rather than his outer looks because no matter what men are nothing compared to a woman's outer appearance? Oh!

[china-blue]

What an interesting question! I can only speak for myself, but yea, I have always found men to be attractive and fascinating. I love the physical differences, and I don't mean just the genitals either, though I find that part of a man's body to be absolutely fascinating to explore. I am lucky enough to have a husband that has always let me explore and enjoy his body to my heart's content. I know it's funny, but one of the most interesting points for me is body hair. He has a full beard, in fact I have never seen him without it, except in pictures before we met. The difference in texture of the hair on his head, his chest, his face, his legs, arms, pits.. all of it is just amazing to me. None of it is alike! I love the furriness of him, the harder body and muscles, the angles all so in contrast to my own body with it's curves, lack of hair and entirely different plumbing. And on top of that, the male brain is so different too. I love hearing his take on things, his perspective which is sometimes SO different from mine. We discuss a lot of different issues and I'm always amazed by the way he can see things from such a different place than I do. I think it will be interesting to see what other women have to say.

[Asker]

Thats new thing to me that a woman finds body hair on man to be interesting and attractive! I always knew women hate body hair , equate it with animals and wish men were smoother!...or maybe your man is very slightly hairy and not too much like an animal, lol..."explore and enjoy his body to hearts content"..wow,i thought only we men wanted to do this with female body!..what do you enjoy and explore in a man? :-p

anyway good to know that women ARE equally fascinated by men. :)

[china-blue]

Well, he's not sasquatch, but he is of Romanian and Native American descent so he's dark and it just works on him. I personally find hairless male bodies a bit creepy, too much like preadolescent boys for my taste. Thankfully, he doesn't have back hair or look like he's wearing a sweater! As for what I like to explore, it's mainly the things I don't have to explore on my own body. ;-) I love the way he feels in my hand,& pressed against me.I marvel at the way his body works. Vive La Diff?rence!

[Asker]

Love the way "he" feels in your hands and pressed against u? You mean downthere "he"? :-p

oh, well am myself very hairy, sweater hairy, it looks I am wearing full sleeves sweater with fur pants...maybe that's why women have equated me with animal...thats why I wax my whole body sometimes and maybe go for laser later in my life...!

Anyway as one guy has pointed out that women are fascinated by their bf/husband but not men in general. True?...and by the way, are you Chinese? I guess Chinese women and even men are bald bodied.

[china-blue]

Yea, that's what I mean. *L* I'm fascinated with most all male bodies that are the type that I find appealing. I prefer olive/Mediterranean complexions with dark hair. Pale men with no hair I find creepy. And I do NOT like hairless male bodies. As I said, I love the differences, and yes especially the most obvious one. The look, feel and mechanics of a man's genitals is just a marvel to me. And to answer your question, no I'm not Chinese. The name is from a movie character.

[Asker]

"The look, feel and mechanics of a man's genitals is just a marvel to me"...just amazing and lovely to hear that from a lady. Really wow...but what do you think of sweater hairy man?a total turn off and disgusting? Ewww?...get waxed/laser?

[china-blue]

Disgusting is a really harsh word that I don't like to use. I'm a registered nurse and honestly when I think of things I've seen and dealt with over the years, I can't imagine any amount of body hair falling into the disgusting category. Whether or not I would find it a turnoff would depend on thickness, texture, length and color. The main issue is it obviously concerns you and for no other reason than that, you probably should do something. Bleaching, trimming, waxing are all options.

[china-blue]

Whatever you decide to do, I'd suggest doing something temporary first to see how you like it before you do something permanent. I actually wonder if you're as hairy as you think you are, or if you're just hairier than a lot of other men today that wax and manscape and it makes you feel even more covered. But as I said, it obviously is something that makes you feel uncomfortable so you may well want to see how you feel with some removed.

[Asker]

Lol, you trying to play safe with no comments on it? Lol. Don't worry about being harsh...what do YOU personally feel ? Very very sweater hairy whole front toso, thick long dark hair on arms, legs, even hairy upper arm, shoulder, back, butt?...abnormal and turn off? Just your personal opinion about it?...would you rather prefer smooth bald bodied man or that much hairy man.. And how much you actually prefer?

[china-blue]

*LOL* that's something I've never been accused of before. For me, there would be a point where there is too much body hair for me to be attracted to a man. But I would be with someone with too much rather than with someone that has none. I want nothing to do with a smooth, hairless body on a man or a woman. As to how much I prefer, how can I answer that? link This is too much for me to find attractive. (con't)

[china-blue]

link While still a bit hairy, this isn't unattractive to me. I would definitely pick this guy over a smooth hairless man.

[Asker]

O wow that's much hair. The second link is under your "perfect/ideal/attractive" category...or under "tolerable" category?

[china-blue]

The second one is tolerable/attractive, but I actually prefer a bit less than that on legs and stomach. Hub's isn't that thick on his chest, has about half as much down his treasure trail and his legs. It's also shorter than that guys is. Hubby is my ideal. I honestly couldn't find a picture of someone more like hubby. Think a bit more than Sean Connery circa mid 60's link

[Asker]

"tolerable/attractive"...both at the same time? Naaw.

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how about these? Not tolerable at all?..rather prefer smooth than these?

[china-blue]

I've answered everything you've asked as best as I can and then you mock my 'tolerable/attractive' comment. I don't how else to tell you that I do not like bare men. End of feed...

[Asker]

I didn't mock your comment. Am sorry if it seemed that way to you..to me "tolerable" means that with you just put up with but always wish it would have been better had it been some other way...but "attractive" means pleases a persons senses and needs No change.

Just to clarify what I felt. Anyway.

[dancingqueen12]

I'm not going to lie...I'm going to have to say no. Now, I am a straight female, meaning the idea of being with another chick doesn't fly with me. And I ogle attractive guys like crazy and dream about them and stuff.

However, notice how most men will still chase after a woman even if she isn't all that attractive. I mean look at the women with busted faces but huge breasts...oh yeah, they get stares alright. Plus, let's face it: because women take care of their looks, it's easier to find an attractive girl rather than an attractive guy. Even without the makeup, we really aren't called the "fairer sex" for no reason. Women's bodies, too, are an emblem of beauty for both men and women.

Men on the other hand...I'm crazy about attractive guys, but still...compared to how guys go crazy over us, I doubt it's reciprocated to the same extent. Let's face it- other than abs and stuff, guy's genitals aren't really that appealing. Plus, females are more objectified/sexualized than men.

Anyways, don't mean to make anyone feel bad, because, again, I'm crazy about guys. I'm just answering the question xD

[Asker]

Male genitals are not appealing and are ugly? Aww, as a man am so sad to hear that our women find that particular male organ to be ugly and unappealing. Oh!...as a man I find female genital to be extremely beautiful and appealing.

[Anonymous]

It's not true to say "women are themselves so much beautiful and far better looking than men".

You're saying this because (I'm assuming) you're a straight guy. Naturally, to you, women look far more interesting and attractive. The same is true for me too. I find women tantalising (mostly) and could easy jump into bed with almost nine out of ten of them...

But what about women? Rather late, I realized that women are attracted to men in the same intense way that we are attracted to them. They find us interesting and handsome (okay, may not be as much as we do them, because men are more visual and it's easier to seduce a man).

Women fantasize about men too. It's just that men have to work harder to 'catch' a woman, specially when she's younger, has more to lose/gain (higher stakes), and plays hard to get. Wait awhile till you're in your 30s and 40s, and it will surprise you no end that women can start chasing even modest looking guys (like me) as it never happened earlier in your younger days!

[Brady]

It depends on the female. A Cosmopolitan magazine was talking about girls whose sex drives are higher than guys or their boyfriends. I remember junior high and high school. On another site a guy was talking about how girls commented on YouTube or some other site wanting to rape the guys in the band One Direction.

[Asker]

O wow ;-). Even girls do rape! Lol.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

If he's sexy yeah.but I don't feel that way about guys that aren't good looking

I have to have a deep connection with the guy like a boyfriend, or he has to be sexy

[Thumbtack]

It doesn't really seem like it. I could be wrong, but from all I've seen, and heard men can usually be absolutely, completely fascinated with attractive women. But women in general only feel that way towards their boyfriend/husband.

How many times have you heard a women ask about strip clubs because they were completely baffled by the appeal? Playboy magazine is still really popular with men, but when it comes to playgirl, the women who were into it were more interested in the articles.

I could go on, but I think what I'm getting at is pretty clear. When you compare it all, there is nowhere near the same level of interest.

[toulouse]

I find Men beautiful when they look beautiful. Whether I'm interested in them or not.

[Winteredrose5162]

Playgirl is a real thing?!...what kind of articles? lol

[Winteredrose5162]

link

umm...yeah I can see why its not as popular as playboy. lol

[ColdFeet]

To me most men are OK looking. I don't go into admiring their broad shoulders etc. They just are who they are. Then once in a blue moon a really gorgeous guy comes along and I turn into an mute imbecile. I usually only get attracted to guys once I get to know them and they have made a significant amount of eye contact and displayed their interest in me. On the other hand I see many girls and think "wow they're gorgeous". I'm 100% straight I just recognize beauty and it's more predominant in women. Also in many countries guys just don't put the effort into their bodies so what ever good looks they had get eaten up by beer bellies and gills.

[WhistleThuslyTWEETs]

What makes you straight if you don't experience primary sexual attraction and how can girls not like men overally physically yet still say they are attracted to MEN? (I just recognize beauty and it's more predominant in women)

What opposed you having sex with another women?

[Anonymous]

I'm straight and have noticed how beautiful women are.I do definitely find men attractive and fascinating however...NOT a lot of them.Why?Because men are more prone to letting themselves go with pot bellies and looking physically sloppy because in our society,what's seemingly more important is their bank account.And yet women are always meant to look on point always.

So my standards for attractiveness is VERY high,and I don't see a lot of guys who take care of themselves properly which I think is disgusting.Its almost like "straight" guys don't want to appear to be "gay" if they take a bath and god forbid put some cologne on and maybe even hit the gym a few times a week and stop knocking back so many beers. -_-

But it doesn't even matter because the same sloppy guys seem to always find a woman as long as they have fat pockets.Meanwhile,if a woman let's herself go much in the same way,she might as well get ready to live in a house full of cats...for the rest of her natural life.

[Asker]

Very high standard! Wow. Can you tell what comes under taking care of self?...would taking care of looks make a guy attractive?

I am fit, very tall, I shave my face , nice haircut, I go to gym and run daily...but I am very very hairy everywhere like sweater hairy. Even after putting efforts would I still come under gross?

[Opinion Owner]

Taking care of yourself:Bathing,whiten those teeth if they are yellowing,take care of your skin,attempt to eat well,watch your weight,work out,get a hair cut on time,shave on time...or have scruff if that's what he prefers.If he has a beard,trim it and make it neat.Take care of nails and toenails...consider a man pedi and mani if he can't seem to take care of those things himself.Lastly,a man that smells amazing and looks amazing is sexy.A good fragrance will do.

[Opinion Owner]

Personally,I find a lot of hair to be gross.No offense.My last boyfriend had a lot of hair and wasn't even confident about having it...and each time he removed his clothes...I either felt like throwing up or I tried not to look at his body.Not to mention,he always seemed to "shed" leaving hair all over my damn bed.I was beyond disgusted.Also,a lot of hair was in his butt and it just smelled at times...sorry to be so blunt...but its true.So never again am I going to be with someone who has a lot of

[Opinion Owner]

hair...I just can't take it.But that's just MY preference.Some women don't care at all.But it sounds like you do take care of yourself so that's great.But it all comes down to preference.If I saw a guy walking down the street who looks like johnny depp circa "chocolat" and he had a sweater of hair all over his body,I would pass that up in a heartbeat.Because I DON'T want to have to deal with the discussion of hair removal etc.I would rather find someone else.As I said,been there done that.

[Asker]

Aww ".I either felt like throwing up or I tried not to look at his body"...that says all about how much you hated it...didn't you get intimate with him? Ever had to touch his hair covered body?...may I ask why you kept the relationship and tolerated it?...ever told him to remove it?...he was insecure of it and still removed clothes in front of u? Wow!...i liked you straight forward attitude...i realize that its hard for women to tolerate it, hence I try and avoid women and relationships, I don't want that a woman should feel trapped with me in a relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

Our intimacy was largely a problem.I was ALWAYS as dry as a desert because in time,I realized he just had a cute face...and the rest of him including parts of his personality literally made me sick.I tried to not be so superficial and look past the hair,but my vagina wasn't having it.As time passed I realized I had NO sexual attraction to him.We spoke about the hair,and he began telling me how uncomfortable it would be for him,and he refused to remove it.YET...when we were ATTEMPTING to be

[Opinion Owner]

intimate he would request to leave his shirt...ON.I tried to make him feel better about his body,but what the hell did I do THAT for?It only motivated him to NOT do a damn thing to improve it.Consequently always causing me to be mentally and therefore physically removed from the actual act of intimacy.The relationship came from a bad place anyway.I was grieving at the time and made a poor decision to get involved with him.But moreso,he was way beneath the standards of what I would date.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm also going to go on record and say this to you QA.I'm not at all incenuating that I have a perfect body in the standards of regular society.I unfortunately have stretch marks that I was "blessed" with on my hips when I hit puberty.Also...I have a skin disorder situation on my legs called Keratosis Pilaris that basically just causes darker pores and sometimes more sensitive skin.I'm telling you this because these two things are insecurities of mine,that I DID NOT cause.There nothing I can do

[Opinion Owner]

about these issues until I have money for laser surgery or whatever else to permanently FIX the problem.Anyway,I STILL look HOT and I am STILL the sh*t.Stretch marks and all.SO...your excuse for not dealing with women is a cop out of sorts.I know this beautiful man who is terribly hairy.But I never knew he was terribly hairy until he told me so and that was because he shaves,does nair and laser surgery to contain how hairy he is because HE is not comfortable having all of that hair.The point

[Opinion Owner]

is...STOP complaining if you are not going to take care of it.Do you have any idea all of the stuff women do to look amazing?A LOT.I do Manicures,Pedicures,facials,teeth whitening,working out,makeup and hair,fragrance etc on a DAILY basis.So...stop complaining.If you choose to stay away from women because of the hair issue,that is just a poor and silly decision.You act so helpless and yet there are tons of things you can do to rectify the issue.People do it all of the time.

[Asker]

Oh, why scolding me? What's wrong if I choose to avoid women from fear of being ridiculed, made fun of, hated for being damn so hairy?..ur answer clearly reflects the degree of disgust women have for excess hair..and how it effects relationships and their behavior towards the guy...

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not scolding you but giving you a wake up call to stop complaining over NOTHING.I can't really stand it when people complain and don't do anything to rectify the situation.Also,MY opinion is just that...MY opinion.It does not reflect what other women think or feel.It reflects my personal experiences...that's it,and I made that more than clear in my response.There is a more than logical way to deal with this situation and get over your low self esteem.But if you refuse to put in the work

[Opinion Owner]

in order for the situation to improve,then it is pointless to complain...seriously.Its difficult to have empathy for someone who continuously posts these questions about being hairy and does nothing for it to improve.If you choose to stay away from women for the rest of your life...that's fine.Its not my problem...its yours.

[toulouse]

Yes. I think the guy I'm in love with is beautiful. Certainly not less attractive because he's a guy...I think he's truly beautiful.

I get stuck just staring at him and can do it for hours. I love photographing him. He's my favorite subject. Looking at him inspires me... He is my muse.

Not handsome-- Beautiful.

[toulouse]

Long hair. high cheekbones. lack of body hair. lean toned body. neck. strong shoulders. firm stomach. soft skin. almost eye level to me...Insightful earnest sad hazel eyes.

[Asker]

Not handsome ..beautiful? Why you say so? What's handsome and what's beautiful?...wow, lack of body hair, how lucky, am so jealous of him! Lols.

[toulouse]

They are both attractive in appearance with strong features.

But to me handsome is more square rigid static. Beautiful is intensely fluid and has an aura about it. its transcendental

[Asker]

Its so tough to get and understand the difference you said! Haha...so, your guy is short in height? As you say he is almost eye level to u?

[toulouse]

its hard to understand because I'm not giving a dictionary definition.. just my own interpretation of the difference. sorry its hard to explain I never had to before. it just was.

hes average. he's 5 9 I'm 5 7.

[AnnabelLee]

Hon, you find women better looking because you're heterosexual...

Guys, especially those who take care of their health and looks and are naturally good looking, can oh, be so God-like.

I do think taken care, well built, good genes male bodies are as majestic and wonderful as equal female bodies.

But I think most girls stay with guys for the emational side, and not for really loving and feeling attracted to their bodies... women are a lot less visual.

[WhistleThuslyTWEETs]

Women are a lot less visual that's why they date any guys or girls if they find their personality? Even they are handicraft.

[luckyGurl]

Of course we do :), and to name some gorgeous men out there >> Brad Pitt, Zac Efron, Josh Duhamel, Mark Wahlberg, and many more hehe

[Asker]

Don't just name models/celebs...do you find real life common guy attractive?

[confugirl]

Yeah, I think so. Not in the same way though. Say what you will, but women are looking for an emotional connection more often than men, in my experience.

[sashafierce1013]

I love men, I occasionally find myself obsessing over a guy every now and then lol.. The male anatomy is just as lust worthy as the female anatomy. ;)

[Asker]

Thats so great to hear that at least one lady finds guys next door to be attractive and male anatomy to be lustworthy... Otherwise I was bit hopeless.

[china-blue]

I couldn't agree more!

[Anonymous]

Sligthly less but women are attracted to a guys charisma plus I think women are more defined by their beauty then men are but there are few men who are considered handsome to the extent that they will possese the confidence to attract any girl and will most likley get noticed easier than your average joe.

[523206720]

I'm either extremely attracted or not attracted at all - I don't bother with guys I'm only a little interested in.

[Anonymous]

Of course. Men are beautiful creatures, especially when they have some ccharacter wrinkles or scars. Yum!

[Asker]

Lol seriously? I can understand character, but how is wrinkles or scars beautiful and "yum"?...its interesting to find new things about women here!...like one of the woman finds male body hair interesting when under limits..! You find scars and wrinkles to be yum!

[Opinion Owner]

Not a lot of wrinkles, but end in their 40s, with a little wear on their faces look the best to me. It gives their face character.

And I know I'm not the only woman to find some scars sexy. Again, it gives them character. It's interesting and unique. I don't like flawless faces on men. They bore me, looks wise.

[Asker]

...and what about bald heads and sweater hairy body?...do you like men with lot of muscles or skinny?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't like the bald head look, I like men to have hair. I like them to have body hair as well, and preferably some facial hair. I don't want Austin Powers or anything, but I'd like them to be semi-hairy... that's just how I think men look the best, and the most like men.

[Asker]

Austin powers just had hairy chest...i have that much hairy front, back, arms, legs, shoulders... :-p ... Haha... But I loooveee it, its very different and unique ...its ME!...u didn't say that what's better, lot of muscles or just fit?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm happy with anything except super skinny. I even like a little chunk on some men.

[Bethany94]

Yes. I am really attracted to guys. They're handsome and sexy and all the things you think about girls.

[Anonymous]

I don't think so. To a lot of men women are so beautiful that the female form surpasses all works of art. Most women seem to like a man's form, but not so much that it surpasses all works of art.

[Asker]

Lol, it seems we men are highly fascinated and attracted to women. Even I feel the same way as you do. There is nothing more attractive, fascinating and beautiful as a woman! :)

[Apath4]

Well you must be a straight guy I think certain guys are super attractive

[lexxypinck]

yes am a girl I am attracted to mans or guy and they are attracted to me !

[Anonymous]

If they are straight then yes.I am not that attracted to men personally.

[Asker]

Why? Means, you are not straight?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope I am not straight.

[Anonymous]

I think very few are. Most seem to be more interested in what a guy does for them etc

[Opinion Owner]

Or they're really attracted to the best of the best looking guy that all of the girls are after

[Anonymous]

Not really that's why I'm Bi.

[Anonymous]

yes I say that's true.

[Asker]

Whats true, Lol.