Why women have such high expectations of men nowdays?

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A man must look good, earn quite well and meet a whole list of individual characteristics depending on the woman. In general, I have the impression that if men were equally demanding, they would help each other in life. but I'm not talking about why women demand a lot from men and offer little, no offense, it's an opinion, and I think everyone will agree that to attract a guy, a woman has to do much less than men have to do to attract a woman.

Pillubi · Accepted Answer

As a girl, I have the same question. Obviously I cannot generalise. The thing is, I believe social media has played into the minds of many girls and women. I feel that if social media didn't exist, things would have been much different. The glitz and glamour that we are constantly bombarded with, makes a lot of women crave that kind of lifestyle, which many of them realise they won't be able to achieve single handedly, even if they slog their asses off at work. When women are constantly bombarded by these lavish lifestyles on social media, they get brainwashed and think that's what they want, and mind you, many of them would not have thought about it, if it weren't for Instagram or tik tok or whatever it is. Also big brands and companies WANT women to play into the hype. MOST Brands are geared towards women, and they tell them how incomplete they are if they don't purchase that 200dollar mascara and there are many women who fall for it making them extremely materialistic. That they look for ways to satisfy this urge how else if not through a rich guy? Hence the demand. Being materialistic to and extent is fine, but overly materialistic is not good. Placing our worth on an external factor is not a healthy approach long term. I went a little off topic. Coming to you ques. Women know that men want them even if they pretend not to care all women intrinsically know they are wanted cause they are the gatekeepers of reproduction. Women are valued for their ability to reproduce, human beings come through them. Although men's contribution to reproduction is crucial, the percentage is still lesser hence men questioned more in what they bring to the table. It makes more sense for men to provide materially. But even I don't agree with the fact that women have become excessively materialistic, it's not right.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Initial attraction is based on status but love is based on personality and a lot of men can bypass the initial attraction standard by having a relevant and good personality that makes the woman fall in love, even if his body and appearance is boring.

bobby_bush_eater · Accepted Answer

Because they can do better than a man who isn't doing well in some aspects. If your behind financially she has ever resource to do the same or better than you. Society tells them the man needs to be incredible and has placed an extreme importance on material things. Social media only makes this worse to where women are being programmed to only expect the best and that if they can't get it they don't need no man.

It backfires in the long run when they cannot fulfill their biological purpose to reproduce and don't have a partner who loves their character and not their body. That said this is not all women. Don't look to college for women, they will mostly think this way. Places like church or volunteering groups will have women that still maintain morals. Not the bar or club

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I hear these same comments from other guys and it is almost always guys who have very little success with women.

You complain about the standards women maintain, and you believe that many of them relate to your success in life, but those are factors over which you have some control.

If men are choosing women solely on the basis of their appearance, how do you think unattractive women feel? A girl with RBF can't do much about that.

Mr_twoface · Answer

I personally believe it goes both ways. However, with regards to your question, maybe since women have gained more independence and empowerment in many societies, their expectations in any given relationships may have evolved. With greater financial independence and career opportunities, women might seek partners who offer more than just financial security, but also emotional support, shared responsibilities, and mutual respect.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

I can understand being upset at the standard for a high income, but the standard of being physically attractive and having traits the woman likes? Those are not outrageous standards.

DextroShade · Answer

Social media and feminism have turned most women into entitled narcissists who think that they actually look as good as in reality as their filtered pictures. They all think they deserve a 6'+ man making six figures even if they are fat, have been in sex work, or have multiple baby daddies. They are unable to love a man so many of them will end up dying alone.

Nifrayu · Answer

I don't think it's as bad as it seems. I think women who are most outspoken about their standards are the ones who have such high standards. I think the ones who aren't vocal about their standards are more relaxed about it. In other words we are only hearing from the very picky ones and that's why we have this impression that the standards are so unreasonable.

Apple1996 · Answer

Because we shouldn't settle for dusty men anymore. I constantly here men tell single moms things like they should have picked better men so what are women doing now? They are trying to pick better men

IslaTheWitch · Answer

confident, witty, smartass, with strong hands...

Agape93 · Answer

Same reasons guys do for women. Personal preferences and standards.

Anonymous · Answer

Equality. A couple generations ago women were relegated to being mothers and housewives. Which means that's really all they could aspire to. Now today women can chase thier own dreams and aspirations (which is a good thing) but as everything it comes with drawbacks. Women can be picky. Women that are also very bad decision makers can make one bad decision after another. So it has drawbacks for women as well.

exitseven · Answer

There just seems to be a lot more lovers out there today. I don't know if it is social media, the failing public schools , all the drugs people take or bad parenting but I do not blame women for being selective.

Anonymous · Answer

Its what society and social media tell women. It's so bad these days. Even big fat obese women, meth heads, lazy, ugly, etc think they deserve ( insert hottest guy here) .

The 20/80 rule might be higher now like 10/90 . So how are all these women going to compete for 10/20% of the male population?

And what are the other 80/90% of guys suppose to do?

Fireguy17 · Answer

do you think they want to end up with a couch potato the does nothing but play video games, smoke pot and drink? Why shouldn't women have high expectations?

LazerBean · Answer

Expectations for both genders are probably lower than they have ever been since the founding of this country.

sage2021 · Answer

Not all women are like that. It might be just the one's you are interested in. You shouldn't group ALL women together. Only some or most.

handsomelad70 · Answer

LOTS of women think they're queens (looking at YOU, black women!!!) to be worshipped rather than partnered. This iteration of "feminism" in which men are viewed as little more than conduits of women's wishes is to blame.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I think it has to do with their entitlement complexes and condescending Personalities. Women believe they deserve Prince Charming. Women, same as men, don’t DESERVE shit

Sonorous · Answer

Supply & Demand. The high supply of men means women can make more demands.

Pennywise_6 · Answer

Dude that is not high expectations. That's the bare minimum.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Like some men don't do the same thing. I swear men on here live under a rock somewhere.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like the bar is pretty low if we are talking about normal women, not women on dating apps. Most girls just want a guy who's taller than her and isn't a bum. I'm of the opinion those are reasonable wants.

Pohjolan · Answer

There is more supply than demand.

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