Why do many women get surprised that I never had a girlfriend?

[uglyguy3000]

I am 23 by the way. People say,''You are so nice, I am shocked you have never had a girlfriend.'''There are many 23 year old guys that never had a girlfriend.

[AshTheAsh]

Honestly dude, if they're literally coming out with "You are so nice, I am shocked you have never had a girlfriend.'' then they are just cementing your place in their friendzone. Whenever a girl states you are so nice and deserve someone special, they are just omitting themselves from the equation.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

I think it's just small talk, honestly. They tell me the same thing. Whatever. I don't even give it serious thought anymore. What does it matter anyway? If anything, admitting you've never had a girl can have negative effects. Just think about it. I'd fib and say I had at least one.

[uglyguy3000]

I'm just being honest

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Well in this particular case I think you should lie.

[Prof_Don]

I seriously don't blame dudes for lying about this type of stuff, just to save one's dating rep

[ishplump]

Because everybody is getting in relationships so fast, I know 20 years old who are already married.
I got the same remarks when I was 18 without a boyfriend, it no big deal and just keep living your life you may just don't want a relationship right away.

[uglyguy3000]

That's sad to get married that young

[ÉlanVital]

Those younger couples getting married, they have no idea what they're doing. Those are the people who get divorced the most because they rushed in so fast not knowing their partner.

[BelleGirl21]

Lots of guys that age haven't had girlfriends. Maybe they just haven't been interested or had the time. I wouldn't worry about what other people think.

[uglyguy3000]

Especially the ugly guys like myself

[BelleGirl21]

You'd be a lot cuter if you smiled bro! You're really not bad. Your username makes me 😭

[uglyguy3000]

Thank you. That is really nice of you to say

[FreyaDiermayr]

Probably because you're 23 and never have had a girlfriend hahha

[uglyguy3000]

I am ugly, so I don't understand how it is surprising

[FreyaDiermayr]

Don't call yourself that :) You're only ugly if you're a bad person

[Worldsugliestman]

@Asker I'm ugly not you.

[uglyguy3000]

Worldsugliestman, you may not think I am ugly but most women think I am a little ugly physically. I am not complaining about myself being physically ugly. I am just saying many ugly guys haven't had girlfriends and they around my age. Also, FreyaDiermayr, let's be realistic here lol.

[blondfrog]

Don't mind her she is gay

[serp777]

Because nice never gets girlfriends. A hot face and muscles + douchebag personality is the best way to get plenty of girls.

[Shmusername]

A douche bag personality is at least a personality of some kind. Too many nice guys don't get that just being nice isn't a personality, it's a trait. You have to be interested in things, and be *interesting*!

[uglyguy3000]

There are plenty of nice guys who are interesting but still get rejected

[kevin007]

No its not right

[uglyguy3000]

What is not right?

[Ihav2fart]

I agree with Shmusername.

[serp777]

nice guys generally have the following traits: desperate, unconfident, boring, and beta. Douche bag personality is certainly better than that.

[Worldsugliestman]

I agree with serp777. But the girls on here wanna lie and say no that's not true.

[James0]

I'm not sure if a lot of 23 guys never had a girlfriend since there seems to be this underlying tone of if you say no your lame or there something wrong with you.

a lot of my guys friends, we talk and they tell me they never had a girlfriend till now and there twenty. I believe both genders lie about having a relationship since there this negative tone to it. I personally just tell them I never had one.

[Anonymous]

Because it's just what people say. It's about the same as saying "Hi, how are you today?"... people don't really want you to tell all about your day or how you are (unless it's good, of course). It usually comes from friends who are girls because you act more normal around them than you might around girls you have an interest in.

[rthomas43]

I know what you mean, I am also 23 years old.

[uglyguy3000]

I'm glad you understand

[BelleGirl21]

LOLOLOL

[Xeraph]

Maybe the 'you are so nice' is what's keeping you from scoring. In Germany they say - nice is the little brother of shit...

[uglyguy3000]

True. Most women in this country start going after guys like me in their mid to late twenties

[BelleGirl21]

Nice guys are awesome :)

[Xeraph]

Says the 30 year old - Proves the point he made :)

Yepp - after they had enough dickheads in their life they realize - nice can't be that bad =)

I grew with the age - when I was young I was an asshole - well now I'm pretty nice ;D

[BelleGirl21]

What's wrong with women in their 30's? Ftr I've only been seriously with 1 guy and zero dickheads...

[Xeraph]

@BelleGirl21 you are still proving his point. He said - that most women are going out with nice guys when they are in their late twenties. I suppose you simply misunderstand us at this point. Younger girls tend to go out with dickheads, because they are adventurous, wild, chaotic and so on. Sometimes they feel compelled, because they seem so unreachable, which adds to the attraction.

Women, who had these experiences tend to look for alternatives - or opposites - meaning: nice and softer boys, cuddlebears and such.

With every answer you just provided, you where proofing the point the Asker made. This is not a negative comment - rather a compliment of some sort. :)

[BelleGirl21]

This would be true if I had dated jerks in my early 20's which isn't the case. I've always gone for the nice guys. Maybe it's because I didn't date tons of guys :/

[Xeraph]

@BelleGirl21 He didn't say that - and I didn't say either that that statement reflects 100% of all female population. Sorry if it's offending you; but there is definitely some trending to be seen :)

Also I'd like to add, you are not anyone else; Meaning that you stand out of the usual crowd. Which is really not a bad thing. It is quiet rare and exceptional.

Truth be told, be happy, that you are different :)

I personally had my first serious relationship with 19 - married that girl too - and divorced her. Well I did pretty much everything with her first :D

[BelleGirl21]

I'm totally not offended.
I also get that I'm not the norm 😞
but there are girls like me out there. You seem sweet xeraph I wasn't offended at all.

[Xeraph]

Well I can say the same about you, you seem sweet and with a strong opinion. Always a good combination =)

I know that there are girls like you out there - after all I was married to one of those...

[uglyguy3000]

I am surprised you were into nice guys in your early 20s.' You represented like 5-10% of the female population in that age range.

[meatballs21]

Terminal Nice Guy syndrome.

"You'd be a perfect boyfriend... just not for me."
-every girl, ever

[DoriantheArtisan]

Dude, I have been reading your drivel for a while now. Stop with the moping it is unbecoming, If you are like that on the internet I can only imagine what you are like in real life. Do you know what is a major turn off for any person (Not just women)? Someone who belittles himself, being a cry baby. I don't know what is up with you but with your behavior I am not surprised you don't get a girl. Man up, stop being so self defeating. It even annoys me and I don't even know you.

[DoriantheArtisan]

It is actually guys like you that gives a decent guys a bad rep. Now every woman hears the word nice guy she will think of a basement dwelling misogynist

[uglyguy3000]

I don't complain in person. If you were ugly you know how it feels

[DoriantheArtisan]

I am not ugly yeah but you know ugliness and beauty are really in the eyes of the beholder. Your personality is the key of being considered desireable or unattractive. Yes women and men desire handsome, pretty people, however I fell in love with very average looking girls simply because they were awesome people and exuded confidence and hell of a lot of sex appeal. That's what they CHOSE to be. I also have seen pretty girls that liked me but they were so boring or so broken, depressing and fucked in the head that it killed any attraction I initially had. So stop moping and acting all hunchback of Notre Dame on my ass. Be cool, stop being a pussy.

[uglyguy3000]

I am a nice guy. Also, I had confidence before but get rejected anyways. Once again if you were ugly you would understand.

[DoriantheArtisan]

You ain't THAT bad, why don't you join a forum of like minded people?

[uglyguy3000]

What are you talking about when saying''You ain't THAT bad.''

[uglyguy3000]

Are you talking about my looks or personality?

[DoriantheArtisan]

your looks but your personality is pretty bad. you are spietful and entitled. I don't like this kind of negativity.

[uglyguy3000]

Well bro I never said I felt entitled. Women can go out with whoever they like. You are just assuming I feel entitled.

[Argus14]

I really don't know any guy who admits it in person. So when they hear that I think it's more shocking hearing it than the fact you're 23.

[uglyguy3000]

Why do guys lie?

[Argus14]

I don't think they lie I just don't imagine they just freely offer that up.

[uglyguy3000]

I am talking about them saying it when asked

[Stuff_and_stuff]

Hmm I get asked the same thing too when I say I've never had a boyfriend

[blondfrog]

People must think you're attractive then and that's why they are surprised its the same thing when a girl who doesn't think you're attractive is surprised when you tell her you've had girlfriends.

[Nuns_in_Heat]

Reading the comments...
This is how you come across...

OMG WOE IS ME! SO UGLY! SUCH ALONE!

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Given your attitude and the way you behave here, I doubt many women are surprised you've never had a girlfriend.

Seriously, start focusing on self-improvement, you will be much happier for it.

[uglyguy3000]

I act different in person bro. I don't bring this stuff up in person

[uglyguy3000]

Also, I am ugly

[Xeraph]

You are not ugly - you just don't seem to smile that much - at least not in the photo on your profile. Nobody is really ugly because beauty is a standard defined by people with lots of money and the masses following them.

Beauty (physical) lies in the eye of the beholder, but only if one doesn't get influenced by Louis Vuitton or Karl Lagerfeld. Some are even able to look past the physical manifestation and see you for who you truly are. And you seem nice and intelligent. Maybe you should start to look into the mirror and see yourself - not just the hull.

[uglyguy3000]

Yes it lies within the beholder but most women think I'm a little ugly. You are some of the people that doesn't think I'm a little ugly. I'm a 4 on the looks scale. I am not complaining of it. I am just saying it is what it is

[Ihav2fart]

Not suprised, and why did you make another account? what happened to your old one?

[uglyguy3000]

It got deleted

[Ihav2fart]

I have a good friend turning 26 and has never dated, let alone have a girlfriend. He has a lot of nice lady friends though. None of them are interested in dating him. :(

[uglyguy3000]

Feel bad for him

[Prof_Don]

Your guy friend prolly never asked out any of his lady friends!

[Ihav2fart]

@Prof_Don while that is somewhat true, I know a few of them and they think of my buddy as a nice "friend".

[Worldsugliestman]

Welcome to the club only I'm 29 but never been asked that? I must be so ugly women are afraid to ask me.

[Anonymous]

People say that, it's just a.. thing, to say.

[uglyguy3000]

What is a thing to say?

[Opinion Owner]

"I can't believe you never had a girlfriend"

[serp777]

it's a thing to say to make you feel better since they don't think you're attractive.

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes it genuine. But often it's to make you feel better.

[uglyguy3000]

That makes sense. I am ugly and wondering why the hell would they be surprised lol? You are probably right serp

[Opinion Owner]

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. There is nothing more unattractive.

[uglyguy3000]

Who said I felt sorry for myself? You are putting words into my mouth

[Opinion Owner]

You are literally saying "Im so ugly! in all answers.

[uglyguy3000]

I'm just responding as to why people would be surprised.

[uglyguy3000]

Truth hurts?

[Opinion Owner]

What truth? There is nothing for me to respond to? I still think you are whiney, and fishing for compliments.

[Anonymous]

sadlly it's not the norm, but i can relate to you and i'm older than you

[Worldsugliestman]

This,

[Anonymous]

how many profiles do you have? -_- i have blocked at least 2 now

[uglyguy3000]

Hey man you don't have to answer at all to my posts so you are basically blocking me for no reason. This is my only profile

[Opinion Owner]

no its not, you have loads of others, all being self derogatory and that crap.

[uglyguy3000]

Freedom of speech. And I deleted the other two

[Opinion Owner]

it's really pathetic though, why bother making copious profiles to just be a stubborn twat about yourself.
it dont make folk pity you

[uglyguy3000]

Did I ever say I wanted people to pity me?

[Opinion Owner]

Clearly you do, that's why you male so many posts saying how ugly you are.

[uglyguy3000]

If I asked if I am ugly, then it is pity, but I never asked, I just stated the truth, and my questions involved what should I do in my life since I am ugly, etc. wanting advice, etc.

[Opinion Owner]

See what i mean? Its pathetic how you keep doing that shit and even making multiple profiles to do it... you need to man up.

[uglyguy3000]

I deleted the other profiles.

[Opinion Owner]

Yet still made them.
still asked and said the exact same crap

[uglyguy3000]

Cause to be honest my other ones got deleted by other people! That is why I am reasking the same questions

[Opinion Owner]

because nobody wants to see this same shit time and time again

[uglyguy3000]

I wouldn't be saying this same shit if people didn't delete my profile!

[Opinion Owner]

people delete it because we are sick of seeing the same shit over and over again! what dont you understand about that

[uglyguy3000]

Freedom of speech

[Opinion Owner]

like talking to a fucking child -_-

[Anonymous]

I think they're talking the piss

[Kshppatel]

At least you're not fat.

[DoriantheArtisan]

You know being fat is better than being a whiny little bitch. Confidence does a lot for a guy but he has none, zilch.

[uglyguy3000]

It is better to fat than ugly

[Jamesol1]

Being fat is a choice. Many methods of losing it. If you are really committed you'd do something like intermediate fasting. Fun fact... extra body fat hides jaw lines and cheekbones... a body fat of 10-14% is often ideal.